Looking for a new friend or a companion?
Of course you’re not. You’re here for a hookup. It’s cool – I am, too, and that’s why I joined AdultFriendFinder.
I recently moved to a new city for a fresh start and I literally didn’t know anyone here. It was tough, especially as I’ve always been a tad introverted. Not completely shy but also not the best at rocking up to a stranger in a bar and saying “hi.”
And when you just want sex – as I did – that’s kind of a stumbling block.
Then I came across AdultFriendFinder.
Adult Friend Finder is what you could call a sex positive hookup site that’s home to more than 80 million members. It’s totally legit and you can use it to make new friends in your city, or find someone who’s got similar sexual interests as you, and who wants some no strings-attached sex.
It’s also aimed at couples who want to push the sexual boundaries of their relationship and explore new things with new people.
But what’s it all about really? Does it work? Is it affordable? In my AdultFriendFinder review, I’ll be covering all the key things you need to know about it. I’ll be looking at:
- How real the profiles are
- How easy the website is to use
- How secure AdultFriendFinder is
- How easy or hard it is to get a hookup based on my own personal experiences
Ready? Let’s take a look!
Okay, here’s the scoop: AdultFriendFinder is free to sign up to – like most dating sites.
However, there’s not really a lot you can do as a free member. You can fill out your profile (which takes a while) and you can have a browse around. But you can’t send messages or emails to other members, neither can you create your own videos or do pretty much anything else.
Moreover, your search options are limited, too.
That said, there are a few things that you can still do for free. I write “still” because I’m aware that AdultFriend Finder used to give free members more cool stuff to do but they’ve since placed lots of restrictions on them.
Here’s what you can do for free on AFF:
- You can ‘like’ videos and photos uploaded by others
- You can create your own HotList of sexy profiles
- You can join the various groups on AFF
- You can comment on photos
- You can watch the videos uploaded to the homepage
- You can use search filters
Crucially, you can’t fire up conversations with people. Pretty soon, you will want to do that!
So, what are your paid options? AdultFriendFinder offer a few different account types:
- 1 Month Gold membership – £19.95 per month
- 3 Months Gold membership – £12.95 per month
- 12 Months Gold membership – £9.95 per month
All account types let you message anyone but anyone who’s still on the free plan won’t be able to shoot you a message back.
Personally, I started things off with the 1 Month Gold membership plan. I paid £19.95 in a one-off payment and I was on my way. With this Gold membership, I could:
- View full profiles
- Send messages to users
- Open and read messages from other users
- Add friends
- Use the chat service
- Upload and share videos of my own
- Watch public livestreams
All payments must be made with a credit or debit card, and you can open and access your account on a mobile device.
Audience Quality – Are The Profiles Real?
One of the things I was a little concerned about before I signed up to Adult Friend Finder was how real (or fake) the profiles were.
Upon signing up, I instantly got a message from a user wanting sex with me. It all seemed a bit too good to be true.
And, look, Adult Friend Finder is home to more than 300,000,000 registered users. That’s a LOT and it’s normal to be a bit concerned that some of these users won’t be real.
But here’s the thing: While there are some fake profiles on AdultFriendFinder, there are also fake profiles on all the top dating sites. There are fake profiles on OK Cupid, POF and Tinder.
Moreover, there are also plenty of real profiles on AdultFriendFinder, and it’s also super simple to spot a fake profile.
How? For one thing, look out for Gold members. If someone has a Gold membership, it means they’re paying at least $20 per month for Adult Friend Finder. A fake profile wouldn’t do that.
How to spot a gold member? They’ll have the gold member icon next to their name. Like these:
I’ve also done some research on Reddit and learned that many girls won’t meet a guy off AdultFriendFinder unless he has a Gold membership. Think of the Gold membership as being a seal of approval – a sign that you’re genuine and credible.
Another way to spot a real profile from a fake one (and vice versa) is to take a proper look at the profile. While real profiles won’t always be fully filled out with info and photos, you can guarantee that a profile that is fully fleshed out with info and pics is real.
This is an example of a real profile:
And this is really the thing with AdultFriendFinder: I’ve read a lot of people say that they’ve had ‘no luck’ with it and that it’s therefore a ‘scam.’ They’ve said that they’ve signed up, paid for the Gold membership and still got nowhere. Their conclusion, then, is that the profiles are fake.
Not true. To get the most out of AdultFriendFinder, you first of all have to fill in your profile, add pics and answer the series of prompts given to you by AdultFriendFinder, such as preferred sex positions et cetera. This makes you more attractive to the right people.
Then, you have to be patient and put in some effort when it comes to connecting with people. Whilst AdultFriend Finder is a hookup site, that doesn’t mean you can just say ‘hey’ to a man or woman and meet up within the next hour. These are still real people that are as concerned as you might be about fake profiles.
So, flesh out your profile. Then, find the real profiles you like (look out for the Gold membership icon) and add them to your Hot List. Then, strike up a proper conversation with people.
In this section, I’m going to talk about AdultFriendFinder’s usability. That is, I’ll take a look at the registration process, the layout of the website and all the special features.
The Signup Process
When you first signup to AdultFriendFinder, the registration process is super fast and you can probably get it all done within just 5 minutes or less. There are only two pages you need to fill in at first, and these include your username and your headline, as well as the key details, such as your age, gender and location.
You will also be asked for your sexual preference, including your sexual orientation, as well as the sexual orientation of the person you’re looking to meet. You don’t need to settle for just one or two orientations – you can choose as many as you like.
I’ve seen some users on Reddit complain about the overall registration process, saying that it takes too long. In my own experience, this isn’t the case at all. Moreover, it’s all completely necessary if you want to have the best experience possible on AdultFriendFinder.
And if you’re signing up for free for the time being and don’t wish to message anyone just yet, you don’t have to fill everything in.
Live member webcams
This is a feature many users will definitely want to take advantage of, as it allows you to watch a variety of AFF members who are broadcasting publicly for your viewing pleasure. Only online members are able to broadcast and if you want to know who is live, all you need to do is check the homepage.
It’s a feature I checked out a few times and I loved how interactive it was, as you can see from the image:
You can find the blogs under the ‘community’ tab on the homepage. These blogs are all created by everyday AdultFriendFinder members like you and I, and new blogs are being posted literally all the time.
As you can see from the image below, several blogs have been created in just the last few hours:
I like reading the blogs because they give you a sense of community while making it easier for you to get to know people and establish contact with someone you like. Once you’re a Gold member, you can comment on blog posts and even create your own.
Creating your own blog post is, indeed, a fab way to get yourself noticed. The post doesn’t even need to be about sex – but in terms of engagement, it definitely helps if it is 😉
The blog is definitely a good way to immerse yourself in the pretty unique AdultFriendFinder culture, but chat rooms are on another level.
AFF is home to numerous public chat rooms where you can pop in and talk about anything sexual. You can open up about your most intimate desires, ask questions and make hot new friends … before potentially hooking up with someone.
Once you’ve got your Gold membership, you’re also free to create your very own room or group where others can join and chat to you. The only rule is that there are no rules!
This is a really popular feature that the more confident among you will simply love.
The contests are decided and run by AdultFriendFinder and they change every few days. As you can see from the image below, the current contest is ‘Play With Your Food.’ The idea is that you take a picture of yourself playing erotically with food and enter it.
The prizes are good, too – first place gets a year’s worth of Gold membership.
If you’re a little unsure of yourself in the bedroom, AdultFriendFinder’s Sex Academy is for you.
The Sex Academy is a fun course designed to improve your confidence while opening your eyes on what’s possible. It will also introduce you to terms you might not have heard of before – I’d personally never heard of ‘sleep fucking’ – and it offers advice to couples.
Sex Academy is only available to Gold members.
AdultFriendFinder is fairly basic in terms of its design. There is no fluff here and certainly no frills. Instead, it gives users exactly what they want – access to fellow users who want sex.
The homepage is really erotic and in-your-face, with thumbnails of some of the members that are currently online. As such, you can get straight to the action with no messing around. If you want to message someone right away, all you need to do is click their profile.
The website is easy to navigate, too. To search, all you need to do is click the Search tab at the top of the homepage. All the other tabs are self-explanatory. If you want to see some naughty videos, just click the Live Action tab.
Everything is just a few clicks away and I have to give AFF a massive thumbs up for its website layout. Maybe they could have added a bit more colour instead of showering the place with white but that’s probably a minor, personal grievance of mine.
Arranged to the left of your screen, meanwhile, is all your recent activity. In just one glance, you can see how many messages you’ve got, how many people are on your HotList and so on:
Privacy and Security
AdultFriendFinder had a massive data breach a few years ago, so it’s understandable that some users would be concerned about privacy and security. In 2016, millions of users were left shocked as their profiles were literally stripped bare and exposed to the public.
The good news is that AdultFriendFinder has worked had to secure their website since then and you can be sure that a huge data breach won’t happen again. The website is secured by GoDaddy’s web certificate, and all transactions that are processed on AdultFriendFinder are backed up by 256-bit secure sockets layer encryption.
In other words, it’s going to be very hard for hackers to get to your profile.
Moreover, the company has been at pains to take extra measures to keep your data safe and secure. All the information on the website is protected at a special data centre located in California, U.S. Moreover, all new users have to hand over their email address to verify that they’re real and not a scam, and accounts are given a certified ID option so that you know who’s genuine and who isn’t.
Okay, let’s get to the nitty gritty: Does Adult Friend Finder work? Is it actually possible to hookup with someone?
The first time I tried AdultFriendFinder, I got nowhere. Adult Friend Finder is a super busy website and there seem to be a lot more male profiles than female profiles.
But I soon realised that the issue was mine. I wasn’t working hard enough to strike up proper conversations with people.
Like any other dating site, AdultFriendFinder requires you to work hard if you’re going to get the sexual experience you crave. It doesn’t matter how kinky or naughty you are, you’ve got to put the effort in.
So, I uploaded some more pics, filled out my profile and personalised my account by answering a few sexualised prompts whereby I outlined my preferences, tastes and kinks … and then the messages started flooding in from real women.
For the most part, everyone I talked to seemed down-to-earth, genuine and keen to have a good time. As long as you get along with people as I was doing, it isn’t long before the moment comes when you sort out a meet-up.
In the meantime, you’re free to read the blogs, watch videos and involve yourself in the whole AdultFriendFinder community.
This is exactly what I did. I chatted to women, arranged to meet and involved myself in the community. Before long, I was heading out to meet real women who wanted the kind of no strings attached sex I was looking for.
I also had a friend down in my new city for the weekend recently. We’ve been fuck buddies for a while now, and we decided to test out the AdultFriendFinder community to see if anyone would be willing to join us for some threesome fun.
You know what? It was pretty damn easy to find someone who was friendly, genuine and who met our criteria.
All in all, I thought AFF was like a golden ticket to the chocolate factory. It’s like an interactive, dating site version of PornHub where you can act out your realest (and darkest) fantasies on screen and off screen.
Alternatives to AdultFriendFinder
The hook-up dating site industry is getting bigger all the time, and AFF is not the only one out there. Here are 3 sexy alternatives:
Although it isn’t strictly a hook-up app, Tinder gets our vote because it’s super popular, free and location-based.
It also has lots of features, such as a boost option that puts you in front of more people and lots of people use it for hookups.
It’s also really easy to sign up and get started. You can check here how to get laid on Tinder.
Like AdultFriendFinder, Ashley Madison was hacked a few years back. However, it’s recovered really well and is now one of the safest and best hookup websites around.
Women get to send messages for free but men have to pay. While that might leave some guys a bit miffed, there are well over 60 million members on here and most profiles are real and looking to have a good time as soon as possible.
Most of the men and women on here are aged between 30 and 45, with the women often looking for younger guys. It’s predominantly a website for men who want to meet older women who will shower them with gifts, and who are looking for a bit of excitement to help them escape their humdrum life.
If this sounds like your sort of thing, Ashley Madison is well worth signing up to. Click here to read our Ashley Madison review.
Be naughty is aimed at both couples and singles, and the only real rule is that you have to be naughty.
If that’s you, this simply designed website allows you to use search filters to find matches and upload videos. It’s a lot like AFF and lets you try before you buy … but to get the most out of it, you’ll need to be a paying member
Does AdultFriendFinder Work?
All dating sites are hit and miss and your success comes down to how much effort you put in, the photos you upload, and how you approach conversations. AdultFriendFinder is largely the same. As long as you’re patient, engage with the community and make the right moves, it can absolutely work.
Is AdultFriendFinder Safe?
The website is secured by 256-bit secure sockets layer encryption, and AFF is one of the safest dating sites out there.
What is a Featured Member?
Featured Members show up at the top of the search results. Anyone can become a featured member; you just need to redeem points.
AdultFriendFinder indulges your kinkiest, sexiest, most erotic and naughtiest fantasies online. Once you meet the right person (or people), it can indulge them offline, too. In my experience, signing up for Gold membership and then working hard on your profile and working hard to engage with the community works a charm.
But AFF is really a lot more than that. With features such as live videos and blogs, it feels almost like an interactive porn site. For many, that’s where the fun is. Either way, you’re guaranteed a good time.