Fetish Dating Apps: 11 Best BDSM Kink and Sex Positive Dating Apps

Looking for the best fetish BDSM dating apps? 

With so many dating apps available, it can be hard to distinguish one from the other.

When it comes to kinky apps, there’s a very clear and distinct angle: These dating apps are aimed at kinksters who generally are looking for something very different from regular daters.

And the good news is, there are now more of them than ever before. 

For the purpose of this review guide, I signed up for a number of kink dating sites.

I personally used each one for a few days with the aim of testing the site out, seeing how easy or difficult it is to use, what its features are, how safe it is – and whether or not it’s worth your time. 

By the end of the article, you should hopefully be in a better position to decide which kink app is the right one for you.

Whatever fetishes you’re into (Role-playing, Impact play, foot fetish, swinging, and bondage), there’s something here for everyone.

Let’s make a start!

Best Fetish BDSM Dating Apps

1. AdultFriendFinder


AdultFriendFinder is one of the world’s biggest online casual dating apps that cater to, among other things, kink. It’s used by over 80,000,000 people worldwide, with many of them active each week. The site was launched over 20 years ago, so reputation is guaranteed. Nudity is allowed, and people with any kind of kinks are encouraged to sign up. 

What I especially like about AFF is how open everyone is. If there’s a kink you enjoy, you can state it explicitly on your profile. And thanks to the advanced search filters, it’s really easy to find what you’re looking for – you can use AFF to find fuck buddies, orgies, swingers parties, and more.

What I also like is that you can use AFF to meet people and have sex – or, if you prefer, watch each other have kinky sex online. For example, you can watch live member webcams as a premium member, and there are also lots of adult movies to watch, too. And if you want to learn more about kink, you can do so via the Sex Academy. 


  • Millions of members 
  • Advanced search filters 
  • Lots of special features


  • Old website layout

2. ALT.com


ALT.com helps you explore the sexual subcultures of kink, BDSM, and fetish through the online dating scene. For anyone who has ‘unusual’ cravings and wants a taste of something different, Alt is home to around 13,000 members who are active each week. Whilst males dominate, there is still a good number of females.

You can send a normal text message or could have a free live video chat with people. That’s right; Alt lets two (or more) people get on video together to do whatever they want. You could also enter the adult chat rooms and get naughty with people in there.

To increase your chances of a hookup, it’s a good idea to say whatever is on your mind. Remember, people who are into kink and BDSM are not easily shocked when it comes to sexuality. So don’t hold back – be yourself. Both newbies and experienced BDSM practitioners are welcome.


  • Reasonably priced
  • No distractions
  • A good kink and BDSM site with very few bot profiles


  • The membership ratio is heavily in favor of men (just 20% of members are women.)

3. Fetish.com


Fetish.com has the best BDSM community for dating and connecting. At Fetish, you can begin by taking a BDSM personality test to find out how naughty you really are. Once that’s done, you can find people who share your tastes, and Fetish is indeed used by people who are into anything and everything, from munching to orgies. 

What we like about Fetish is that it welcomes both beginners and experienced fetishists alike. Most of the profiles are heavily detailed, with people taking this site very seriously. And because the age range is so evenly distributed, it doesn’t matter how old or young you are – Fetish is open to everyone. 

Signing up is free, and you can also receive messages for free. In fact, you can do most things for free at Fetish, but if you wish to become a VIP, prices start from around $25 per month for a monthly subscription.


  • Fun personality test based on fetish dating.
  • Good to find events arranged by the BDSM community.
  • People are interested in cyber sex.
  • Verified profiles to keep you 100% protected.


  • Male dominant in numbers.

4. Seeking.com


Seeking is more of a sugar daddy app than an out-and-out BDSM site. However, if you’re a sugar daddy looking for a sugar baby (or vice-versa), there’s no reason why you can’t find someone who shares your erotic tastes.

All you have to do is tweak your profile so that other users know exactly what you’re looking for. For example, if you’re an older male looking for a young mistress, or if you’re a minx looking for an older man you can enslave, you just need to say so on your profile. 

You can subscribe to Seeking for a month at just under $100, which makes Seeking one of the most expensive BDSM sites around. To save money, you can subscribe for 3 months for the total price of $275.


  • A good option for those who are looking for a sugar baby or sugar daddy with BDSM kink.
  • Amazing female-to-male ratio, 4:1.
  • Overall, the site is more professional.


  • Only for rich men.

5. KinkD


KinkD is rather a premier dating app that’s aimed specifically at those who are into kink. Home to around a million users, it was launched five years ago, and my first impressions were that it’s like a cross between a basic hookup app, and an app that’s aimed at those who are looking for something a bit more serious.

I signed up with the intention of finding like-minded kinksters who were just looking for a bit of fun. What I found was an app that doesn’t take too long to get used to and that just asks for your sexual preferences, location, and gender before your profile goes live. 

Like Kinkoo, KinkD works a lot like Tinder in that there’s a swipe function. However, KinkD comes with a proper search feature, too, and starting a conversation is fairly easy stuff. That all said, it also means that anyone and everyone can contact each other, which some users might find overwhelming. 


  • Decent active user base
  • Secure 
  • Easy to use


  • Some users are annoying 

6. Feeld


Feeld is a polyamorous dating app targeted at the more open-minded among us. It’s aimed at both singles and couples, it currently boasts over 2,000,000 users worldwide, and there are around 200,000 active users each week. The app was launched in 2014, it sometimes went by the name of 3nder until Tinder sued them, but you must have a Facebook account in order to sign up. 

One of the things that really stood out to me when I signed up was the number of gender options. Feeld is definitely one of the most liberal when it comes to gender, and this will really suit those who don’t like to be squeezed into a box. I was also happy that one can send and receive messages on Feeld for free, and the general user base was tolerant and friendly. 

Feature-wise, there’s not too much you can do on Feeld besides sending messages. However, because it links to your Facebook account, premium members get the option of hiding their profile from any Facebook friends who may also be using the app. 


  • Free to send and receive messages 
  • Search filters available 
  • Lots of gender options 


  • You must register via Facebook 

7. Kinkoo 


Kinkoo is a kink dating app that’s ideal if you’re into fetishism, BDSM, or any other type of kink. It’s a basic app than most others that allows kinksters to get right down to things. Its user base is still rather modest and currently veers below 3 million, but there are still enough members on here to find what you’re looking for. 

My personal experience of Kinkoo was positive. It was free to sign up to and fairly easy to make a connection with someone who was looking for the same thing I was. The app works a lot like Tinder, with the major difference being less traffic and a focus on BDSM. However, Kinkoo wants to build a real community of users here, where everything is consensual, and people feel safe.

Feature-wise, this is a swipe app where you have to swipe left or right on other users. If you both swipe right, you’re a match and can get chatting. You can also upgrade to see who’s liked you, and you can customize your feed. 


  • One of the biggest apps aimed solely at kinksters 
  • Easy to use
  • Over 3 million users


  • Fake profiles 

8. OkCupid 

OkCupid is one of the world’s most popular dating sites, with its user base currently at around 50,000,000 worldwide. And while the app (which was launched way back in 2004) isn’t aimed specifically at kinksters, it’s entirely possible to find someone who’s into fetishism and BDSM here.

This is largely due to the fact that OkCupid has gained a reputation over the years for promoting inclusivity and diversity. It welcomes people with all kinds of sexual persuasions, all genders are welcome, and the app is LGBTQ+ friendly. It’s also free to send and receive messages.

And despite the app not being aimed exclusively at kinksters, I found it easy to find like-minded people. For example, I could type in keywords such as “BDSM” in the search bar, while each user states exactly what they’re looking for on their profile (hookups, friendship, non-monogamy, and so on).


  • Free to send messages 
  • Millions of active users
  • Search filters 


  • Lots of free users don’t take it seriously 

9. FetLife 


FetLife is one of the world’s most popular BDSM dating sites that supports all kinds of kinks. It’s only been around for thirteen years, and yet it’s already attracted 8,000,000 signups. And while it’s billed as a dating site, it doubles up as an adult social networking site that makes it really easy for you to meet friends and sexual partners. 

I tried FetLife, and it’s one of my personal favorites. As a free member, I could do most things, including sending and receiving messages, and I enjoyed joining in the group conversations. Ultimately, you can learn a lot on FetLife about people’s different kinks, and while you may not always land a “date,” there’s still so much you can get from this site. 

FetLife is free to join, but as a supporter, you get access to extra perks and privileges. These include access to videos, the ability to customize your feed according to your own personal tastes, as well as the ability to see more user photos. 


  • Proper online community 
  • Free to use 
  • Subscribe for extra perks


  • Lack of a matchmaking feature

10. Whiplr 


As its name suggests, Whiplr is a dating app that’s aimed squarely at those who are more into the hardcore elements of kink, including BDSM. Its modest user base is less than 1 million, the app has been around for over 5 years, and it’s very easy to sign up and get chatting with people. It’s most popular with those aged between 20 and 30. 

Whiplr is especially ideal for those who like the idea of Tinder but who find it way too tame. Indeed, if you’re into 50 Shades of Grey, this might be the app for you. Users are up for anything and everything, but it should be noted that graphic content isn’t permitted (which I personally found a tad strange). 

Feature-wise, Whiplr has a video chat feature that’s available to paid members. This allows you to see the person you’ve been chatting to – and do whatever you want to with them on screen. It’s a great feature, but I also liked the group feature that lets you join both public and private groups. 

Update: Whiplr has currently vanished. We will update you guys when we get hold of the situation,.


  • Works well on mobile 
  • Free Membership 
  • Fairly high active user base for a BDSM-focused app 


  • Expensive 

11. Fetster


Fetster is a text-based fetish dating site that, due to its retro text-based nature, might not be for everyone. However, it’s totally free to use, and it’s more than just another dating site. It’s also home to an entire online community of fetishists who are on hand to help welcome you into the wonderful world of BDSM if you’re new to this.

There are blogs, stories, events, and a forum where you can chat with people, make new friends and learn more about people and their fetishes. Naturally, you can of course find BDSM dates and hookups on Fetster, but it’s worth mentioning that there is no Fetster app at the time of writing. 

Unlike most other BDSM sites, Fetster is actually free to use.


  • You can search for members for free by using an advanced search filter.
  • Free to send and receive messages.
  • It has a very community-based environment.


  • Not super popular.

Membership Prices Comparison:

NameMembership Price
AdultFriendFinder1 month – $25 per month
3 months – $16 per month
12 months – $13 per month
Kinkoo1 month – $15.99
3 months – $38.99
12 months – $58.99
KinkD1 month – $14.99 per month
3 months – $35.99 per month
6 months – $54.99 per month
Alt.com1 month – $25 per month
3 months – $16 per month
12 months – $13 per month
Feeld1 month – $18
3 months – $14 per month
OkCupid1 month - $9.99
3 months - $23.99
6 months - $29.99
FetLifeFlat $5/month
Whiplr 50 points - $19.99
150 points - $49.99
250 points - $99.99

These are the best kink dating apps of 2021. The next step is to pick a few that appeal to you the most before investigating further by checking them out. All of them are free to sign up to, so there’s no harm in creating an account in order to get a feel for things. Whatever you decide to do, we wish you the best of luck! 

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About Will Titterington

Will is a writer, coach and life lover who enjoys helping people reach their potential. Will has plenty of experience with Online Dating. He loves to test different apps and sites and share his experience on DatingXP. He loves art, sports, connecting with new people from all over the world, and making people laugh.