The Ultimate Guide For Kinky Sex Toys

Have you ever wanted to indulge in the world of sex toys? Kinky toys are probably even more stigmatized than our buzzy vanilla friends. This guide stands to satisfy all your needs in the world of kinky sex toys.

First, let's be crystal clear here. Kinky sex toys aren't new.

They have always been part of human culture. Archeologists point out they unquestionably existed 30,000 years ago. Later on, sex toys were part of ancient cultures, and even Christianity couldn't burn them entirely.

If they're an undeniable part of society, why do we keep stigmatizing the usage of such toys and accessories? Indeed, it's still illegal to sell sex toys in many parts of the world. In India, people can get two years in prison for the “obscene” products. In South Africa, it's even prohibited to manufacture sex toys. But it's not only the emerging economies. Alabama, USA, banned the sale of sex toys on Valentine's day until as late as 2007!

Many claim the reason behind the restrain and stigmatization is that people are afraid of losing their partners because of the usage of sex toys. The truth is, toys will never replace people – bad communication and judgment will. In the end, good sex comes down to these principles: paying attention, communicating, and experimenting beyond.

That is said, feel free to experiment in the world of kinky sex toys.

Discover them with an open mind.

Types of Kinky Sex Toys

The types of the toys can be categorized as follows:

  • BDSM Accessories: everything that can be used for both softer-and harder-core BDSM plays
  • Kinky vibrators & Anal toys: the not-so-conventional penetrative toys belong to this category
  • Roleplay toys: customs & masks for deriving sexual pleasure 
  • Furniture: it involves changing more substantial parts in the interior design for sexual purposes
  • Erotic electrostimulation toys: for electric pleasure
  • Penile toys: for people with penises

The Most Popular Kinky Sex Toys Summarized In One List

Due to the wide variety of the available sex toys, this list categorizes them based on their popularity and kinkiness. 

At the beginning of the list, you might find more appealing, softer-core toys that can bring pleasure for open-minded vanilla lovers as well.

By the end of the list, hardcore kinksters are more likely to find what they've been looking for. 

All the toys – both the beginning and the end of the list – are equally okay to desire until there's consent from the sides of all participants.

Soft-to moderate-core pleasure…

Blindfolds: Blindfolds are perfect for soft-core sensory deprivation. Placing a cover in front of your eyes helps to enhance all the other sensations during sex. 

Massage oil: A whole-body massage with some slippery oil can feel like heaven, and most vanilla people can feel like trying it out once in a while. 

Clitoral vibrator: This vibrator stands for her pleasure. Introducing a clitoral vibrator to the bedroom is an easy way to implement the first sex toys. 

Nipple Balm: Nipple toys are underrated. A nipple balm can give either a hot or a chilly sensation. Just rub it on your nipples and enjoy the effect. 

Handcuffs: A little harder-core toy is the handcuffs. You can restrain your partner or let yourself be restrained in order to enhance pleasure. 

Nipple Clamps: If you like when your nipples are stimulated and look for stronger stimulation, nipple clamps might be the right toy for you. They pinch the nipples together, causing a continuous stimulus. 

Vibrator with remote control: Turn it on, insert it, give the controller to your partner, and go out for dinner. What's more fun than this scenario? 

Penis ring: Penis rings stand to increase the sensation for people with penises. They can make the intercourse longer and orgasms more powerful. There're vibrating ones available.

Ben Wa balls: Orgasm balls, in other words, are tiny balls that should be placed in the vagina to heighten pleasure. They are usually heavy.

Massage candle: Massage candles are a great transition if you like playing with temperature but don't want to burn yourself. They can't heat up too much, just until a point where it's still fun to experience the touch of wax. 

Nipple suction devices: These toys suck the nipples and create an intense sensation, as the name suggests. There're various types of nipple suckers, such as vibrating ones. Some even imitate tongue flicks.

Latex clothes: Do the touch, and the view of latex turn you on? Consider trying out some latex toys, clothes, or accessories—the same with leather and other materials. 

Bunny costume: Roleplay is the kink of many. A bunny costume can be incredibly sexy and can bring some variety into the bedroom. 

Uniforms: Hey Mr.Policeman! Uniforms are the perfect embodiment of sexual fantasies. Either Mr.Policemen, a bad student girl, or a sexy nurse, uniforms can heat up the atmosphere when it comes to sex.

Massage gloves: Gloves with massage balls can bring a simple striking to a brand new level. And we haven't even mentioned touching the erogenous zones with them. A soft-core sex toy you can try out any time. 

Collars: They're part of the diverse BDSM sex toys designed for the submissives. You can put such a collar around your neck and let your partner decide what to do with you.

Dildo: These non-vibrating devices serve the stimulation of the vagina or the anus. You can choose from a wide variety of dildos: some are shorter and thicker, while other types are long and thinner. 

Vibrator for people with penises: Vibrators for penis owners are getting increasingly popular. Some of these toys can pleasure the shaft and glans of the penis. A quick and deep orgasm is guaranteed with this toy.

Ball gags: It's a ball you can put into your mouth. After you insert the device, you can secure it around your head with a strap. Even though some gag balls are larger, the wearer can securely breathe when using any kind of these balls. 

Vibrator for couples: Vibrators that pleasure both participants during sex are growing in popularity. These toys can stimulate the clit, the G-Spot, and the penis simultaneously. 

Body Massage Roller: Or pinwheel, in other words. If you like the slightly painful sensations in the bedroom, this roller is the kinky toy for you. To experience stronger feelings, simply increase pressure. 

Floggers: Floggers belong to the BDSM toys. They have a handle and several tails on the end, which can be made of leather or chains. Stroking or softly striking on the body with a flogger feels heavenly for many.

Pocket pussy: Fleshlights, in other words, are toys for people with penises. As the name indicates, you have to place the penis inside and enjoy…

Chocker: Similarly to collars, chockers are placed around the neck. With chockers, though, the dominant partners can tighten the neck of their submissives. Pay attention, and don't get injured!

Paddles: These toys are perfect for stimulating (or slapping) larger parts of the body. They look similar to ping-pong paddles and are a popular toy among BDSM practitioners. 

Edible Lingerie: Do you like bringing food into the bedroom? Then put on some lingeries out of candies to make the fun sweeter. Your partner will definitely eat you. Literally speaking. 

Mouth spreaders: Similarly to ball gags, this device is also inserted in the mouth of the kinkster. Unfortunately, the wearer of such a device can't talk, but the good news is that their partner can penetrate them orally. 

Ropes: To restrain your partner or be restrained by them, you can use some strings. There are several techniques to bind the perfect knots. Shibari, an ancient Japanese style, is one of them. 

Butt plugs: If you're into anal pleasure, a butt plug might be the ideal kinky toy for you. It's similar to a dildo, but it's shorter, and its ending has a flange. Fortunately, butt plugs vary in size. If in doubt, you can start with a smaller one.

Prostate massager: People with prostates can enjoy these little toys to massage the prostate. They are deemed to bring powerful, full-body orgasms. 

Anal beads: This anal toy consists of a series of balls that are intended to be placed into the rectum. The balls vary in size – the toy usually starts with the smallest one. 

Anal hooks: Anal hooks look like a fish hook, and they stand for anal pleasure. They're usually made of stainless steel. 

Bondage Tape: Bondage tapes are for restraining someone's hands, legs, or other body parts. You can use them as simple handcuffs. Be careful with tapes if candles are nearby! Don't burn yourself!

Bondage hoods: These hoods are the hardcore version of blindfolds. They can cover the whole head; they can be made out of leather, latex, or other materials. Some people love puppy hoods, others isolation hoods for complete sensory deprivation.

Wigs: Are you looking for some variety? Put on a wig, and surprise your partner with your new look. To spice up the new look, you could also add a sexy lingerie to the outfit.

Canes: A spanking cane is a thin wooden stick perfectly suitable for BDSM plays. They provide a localized, stinging sensation. 

A bit harder core sex toys…

Shackles: Like handcuffs, they're restraints, but shackles are usually made of metal or leather and are used on the whole body. They're basically the hardcore versions of handcuffs.

Genital Clamps: These clamps can provide extra stimulation for vagina owners. Kinksters can use them at the labia to create a very open look or at the base of the clitoris. Keep in mind the area where the clamps are put shouldn't be darkened!

Nose Clamps: If your nose is one of your erogenous zones, nose clamps might be the right solution for you. They work similarly to the nipple and genital clamps. 

Yokes: Yokes are the combination of collars and cuffs. They help to connect and immobilize your neck, wrists, and maybe also your ankles. The most popular ones are made out of latex or leather.

Strap-on dildo: People without penises can choose this toy if they and their partner wish for penetration. Most of the toys are designed to give pleasure to the wearer as well. 

Devices for spanking: These devices stand to make spanking more pleasurable by bringing “the body to any angle that might be desirable.” An example of such a device is the so-called Berkley Horse. If you don't want to invest in spanking equipment, you can use a chair, the table, the sofa, or any other furniture you have at home as a spanking device. 

Full Sleeve Armbinders: Kinksters who love to be restrained might love this toy. As the name implies, this toy tightens the submissives' whole arms and impedes them from moving. The submissive can completely give up control with the help of this toy.

Spreader bars: This toy keeps your legs apart from each other. Kinksters who enjoy being submissive might enjoy the feeling of not being able to control the situation. More advanced spreader bars also immobilize the wrists. 

Chastity bells: This kinky toy is mostly used in hardcore BDSM relationships. They prevent the user from touching or anyhow using their genitals. When the bell is locked, usually, the dominant partner has the key to open the toy.

Chastity cages: This toy is very similar to the chastity bells but is explicitly created for penis owners. Keep in mind, consent and pleasure go first in BDSM relationships as well: use a safe word!

Sex cage: Kinksters who're into hardcore BDSM might like to try out a cage. You can order your submissive to wait for you there until you arrive…

Bondage board: In the diverse world of BDSM, restrain beds are nothing uncommon. This furniture can be used for any bondage session.

Electric wands: If electroshocks sound exciting to you, you could start experimenting with vibrators with such functions. Although electricity might sound scary at first, mild electric shocks can feel incredibly pleasurable for many. 

Electric pads: A softer-core electric toy is a pad that can be stuck to the different parts of the body. 

Electric vibrators and co.: Besides wands, electricity lovers can try out vibrators and buttplugs as well. Many say electric shocks in a sexual context can't be compared with other, non-sexual electric situations.  

Electric clamps: The same as nipple, genital, and/or nose clamps. Only this time, with electric stimulation. 

Sex doll: A sex doll is a person-like figure, primarily for masturbation. But if you're a jealous type of person but still want to try out a threesome, you could start with a doll. 

Diapers: People who're into age plays might enjoy using a diaper as an accessory for the night. Some enjoy putting diapers on their partner, while others prefer wearing the unconventional lingerie. 

Urethral sounds: These long and very thin metal or glass objects are inserted into the urethra of people with penises. Unfortunately, this practice is highly associated with infections and sexual dysfunction. 

Urethral plugs: Similar toys to the urethral sounds, with a flange on its end.

Whips: Whips aren't for beginners. According to experts, it requires practice and expertise to use these toys safely. Even then, whips can leave slashes on the body.

BDSM wheel: Imagine a life-size wheel that is rotatable about its axis. Some kinksters use such equipment to restrain their partners and pleasure them sexually.

No matter which kinky sex toy you're into, enjoy the journey. Be open-minded, and never forget about consent and security. As Rupi Kaur put it, 

“sex takes the consent of two
if one person is lying there not doing anything
cause they are not ready
or not in the mood
or simply don't want to
yet the other is having sex. with their body it's not love
it is rape”