50 Sexy Text Messages To Send Your Partner

The secret to keeping the chemistry of a relationship requires nothing but good communication. But don’t fool yourself into thinking face-to-face conversations are everything.

The majority of our time is now spent texting. 

When it comes to relationships, besides being yourself and not acting pushy and clingy, there’s another thing that will keep relationships from falling apart: knowing your place. 

That’s right. Know what phase of the relationship you’re in because trying to pass into sexting before you actually get to know each other might cause the other partner to be intimated.

It's OK to talk dirty to a partner when you're away from them, and you shouldn't feel any amount of shame for this. The truth is, sexting keeps your relationship exciting (as long as you're into it).

Being as honest as you can with your partner about how you feel does not make you “crass.” In fact, sexting is a great way to start getting to know someone sexually.

In particular, sexting helps you break the ice of sexual intimacy if you’re not yet comfortable using dirty talk out loud. 

According to a study published in the “Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking” journal, sexting can most definitely improve your relationship. They found there is “a robust relationship between sexting and sexual satisfaction.” 

With sexting, you can show a new partner that you're really into them or that you're ready to take your relationship to the next level. If you're stuck on where to start and really need a sexy text message to help you get started, here are some fun and sexy ideas!

Sexy Text Messages for a New Relationship

1. “Are you aware of how much trouble we might get into if I were your co-worker?”

When to send this text: In the middle of the day, when they’re at work.

2. “Do you think I would look better in a skirt or tight jeans?” 

When to send this text: When you’re out shopping or trying to pick out an outfit for an upcoming date.

3. “I’m not wearing any underwear.” 

When to send this text: On a date, if you’re at a restaurant. You can send this text as they sit right across from you. You are sure to get a reaction!

4. “I’ve got a big surprise waiting for you.”

When to send this text: As a preview, before they come over. 

5. “I want you.” 

When to send this text: When you haven’t seen each other in a few days and want to show you’re thinking about them and want to see them. 

6. “I love thinking about you coming” 

When to send this text: The day after a steamy night.

7. “It’s too bad you’re not here right now…” 

When to send this text: When you’re out having a good time, and want to show how much you miss them.

8. “I want you to do exactly what you did last time we…[fill in the blank].”

When to send this text: A sexy text to send in the middle of the day, in preparation for the next date. 

9. “I loved seeing you in that skirt/jeans/top last night.” 

When to send this text: The day after a great date to show your significant other you noticed and enjoyed what they were wearing.

10. “I love the way you make me feel.”

When to send this text: A few days after your last encounter. 

11. “The anticipation is killing me” 

When to send this text: You’re sitting somewhere like at a bar or restaurant and you're waiting for them to arrive. Send this to start the date off right! 

12. “I can’t get enough of you.” 

When to send this text: During a sexting conversation. Slowly ramp up to this text to let them know how much you enjoy spending time with them. 

13. “I love hearing you moan.” 

When to send this text: The day after a really hot night. This will bring back some visual and audio memories.

14. “You’re my biggest distraction” 

When to send this text: When you’re at work, early or in the middle of the day. 

15. “I was replaying in my head our last time together. Guess what I’m doing?” 

When to send this text: Send this at night, when you’re not together, to get them excited about seeing you the next time you get together.

16. “There’s a new position I’d like to try with you.” 

When to send this text: Late at night or right before they come over. 

17. “I just love it when you talk like that.” 

When to send this text: After they’ve sent you a sexy message.  

18. “I’ve been getting a lot more flexible from pilates lately.”

When to send this text: Right after some type of activity, namely yoga, pilates or something else. Let them know all this stretching is really starting to pay off. 

19. “This text is a gift certificate for whatever you might fancy tonight.” 

When to send this text: Give them full permission to take charge of the evening before you see each other. 

20. “Send me a picture of you.” 

When to send this text: When they’re out having fun with friends. Get them thinking about you. 

21. “If I were with you right now, where would you want to be touched?” 

When to send this text: Send this later in the night when you’re not together.

22. “I want to get in the shower with you right now.” 

When to send this text: Why not send this while they’re literally sitting in the next room? You might just hear a nice knock on the door. 

23. “I’ve been naughty today and I probably deserve a good spanking.”

When to send this text: Towards the end of the day. Let them know you’re thinking about them and want to see them soon. 

24. “I am listening to a song that is making me think totally dirty things about you.”

When to send this text: When you’re out with friends, or out during the day, and you have music playing around you.

25. “I’ve decided what I’m doing tonight. (The answer: It’s You.)” 

When to send this text: In the evening, to let them know you want to see them. 

Sexy Text Messages To Make Your Current Relationship More Exciting

26. “I can’t stop thinking about you.”

When to send this text: When your partner is at work or somewhere far away. 

How to make it even sexier: “You drive me so crazy.”

27. “Already planning our next trip in my head.”

When to send this text: When you’re at work or out with your friends.

How to make it even sexier: “Trying new things with you is so sweet.”

28. “At work and thinking about our time last night, now I’m all sweaty.”

When to send this text: After a rather steamy night to keep things moving.

How to make it even sexier: “I think I need to take a cold shower.”

29. “I’m thinking about all the ways I can undress you tonight.”

When to send this text: Before picking them up for date night.

How to make it even sexier: “We might not make it to our date.”

30. “I’m wearing that thing you like…”

When to send this text: When you’re out with your friends, getting ready to come back home. 

How to make it even sexier: “Guess which one it is.”

31. “I just love caressing your soft skin.”

When to send this text: Whenever you miss them.

How to make it even sexier: “And maybe do some other things, too :)”

32. “Wearing your big sweater right now, it smells like you.”

When to send this text: When they’re not home or when they’re away on a trip.

How to make it even sexier: “That’s all I’m wearing by the way.”

33. “I just left work early. Let’s get down and dirty.”

When to send this text: Before the end of the day, perhaps on a Friday afternoon. 

How to make it even sexier: “Let’s get crazy?”

34. “You look so sexy right now.”

When to send this text: Sitting right in front of them, at dinner, or when you’re around a group of friends and you want to send them a discreet compliment. 

How to make it even sexier: “I can’t resist you.”

35. “Thinking about your sexy body.”

When to send this text: At night, if you haven't seen them in a while, or if you're apart.

How to make it even sexier: “Wish you were here with me.”

36. “I forgot to get you a present, now you must punish me.”

When to send this text: Birthdays, relationship anniversaries.

How to make it even sexier: “I promise I’ll make it right”

37. “Only you can warm up the bed.”

When to send this text: Late at night when you’re alone. 

How to make it even sexier: “What would you do to me to warm me up?”

38. “Just saw the picture you posted, my jaw reached the floor”

When to send this text: When they post a sexy or revealing picture.

How to make it even sexier: “I can’t believe I get to see what’s under.”

39. Thinking about your hands all over me.

When to send this text: When you miss them or in the middle of the day at work.

How to make it even sexier: “What part of my body would you touch first?”

40. “Shopping for new lingerie.”

When to send this text: When you’re out with friends and when you’re out shopping.

How to make it even sexier: Send a picture and ask “Do you think this would look sexy on me?”

41. “My underwear is dripping.”

When to send this text: When you’re at home, waiting for them to arrive or when you want to invite them to come over. 

How to make it even sexier: “Please, come and help me clean up.”

42. “Thinking about your soft lips.”

When to send this text: In the middle of the day or when you haven’t been intimate in a while.

How to make it even sexier: “I want to kiss them.”

43. “What are you wearing right now?”

When to send this text: Late morning or the middle of the afternoon.

How to make it even sexier: “Taking it off slowly…”

44. “Last night I had a sex dream about you…”

When to send this text: In the morning. 

How to make it even sexier: “Wishing you had been there when I woke up.”

45. “I miss feeling you inside of me/I want to be inside of you.”

When to send this text: In the middle of the day.

How to make it even sexier: “When can we do it again?”

46. “Let me be in charge tonight.”

When to send this text: The same day you’re planning to spend the night.

How to make it even sexier: “I want to be on top.”

47. “I’m gonna make you come so hard.”

When to send this text: Right in the middle of the date, when your date is in the bathroom or when they’re on their way over. 

How to make it even sexier: “I can barely wait.”

48. “I just got out of the shower.”

When to send this text: Early morning when you’re thinking about them or if you haven't seen them recently.

How to make it even sexier: “I want you to wash me next time.”

49. “I’ve been so bad…”

When to send this text: After you haven’t seen them in a few days to get the conversation started or when they’re about to come home. 

How to make it even sexier: “I might need a little spanking.”

50. “Why don’t you tie me up tonight?”

When to send this text: Right before a hot date. 

How to make it even sexier: “I can’t wait for you to take control.”

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About Mary J. Gibson

Mary J. Gibson, director of DatingXP.co, is a renowned love and relationship coach whose expertise is widely acknowledged across the industry. Her insightful guidance and profound understanding of romantic relationships have earned her features in prestigious publications including Bustle, AskMen, Cosmopolitan, and Elite Daily. Committed to staying ahead of trends, she continually broadens her knowledge by conducting incisive interviews and forging dynamic relationships with emerging dating services, ensuring her advice remains relevant and impactful.