Top 8 Sites Like AdultFriendFinder to Get Laid

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AdultFriendFinder is one of the world’s most popular hookup sites – for a good reason. It’s a straight-up, no-frills adult dating site that pairs horny users up with other horny users. And when you’re waiting for someone to reply, you can get your kicks watching adult movies or live webcam shows. 

However, when it comes to dating and hooking up, it’s never a good idea to put all your eggs into one basket. In other words, it’s always a good idea to join more than one dating site. This way, your chances of landing a red hot date increase. 

But which ones are your best choices? In this article, I’m going to introduce you to the best sites like AdultFriendFinder. I’ll be taking a look at how each site works, how much they cost, and – for the sake of transparency – I’ll also share with you my personal experiences.

Sites like Adult Friend:

1. Ashley Madison 

Ashley Madison

Ashley Madison is like AFF in the sense that it’s an adult dating site – but there’s a major twist. Ashley Madison is actually aimed at adulterous couples who are looking to have an affair. 

It’s very discreet, and with millions of active users, having an affair is easier than you might have thought.

How does It Work?

The whole signup process allows you to remain as anonymous as possible, and you can blur out your pics to other users. Registration is free and takes just a few minutes, but there’s a catch: Whilst women and men looking for men are allowed to access all the features and send messages for free, men looking for women have to upgrade their account.

Once your profile is up and running, you can tweak the search filters in order to find your perfect match. Then, you can either send direct messages or, if you’re not sure what to say, you can send gifts. 

Like AFF, Ashley Madison is rich in features, and these include Priority Man, a feature that increases your visibility. 

My Experience

As soon as my account was up and running, I bought a few credits and started exploring the site. I fired off a few flirty introductory messages to some women and ‘winked’ at others. Some replied – most didn’t. The user interface was interactive, and I liked the erotic colors and the overall layout. 

However, whilst I was able to land two dates in the space of two weeks off Ashley Madison, I was also deluged with messages from fake users. Separating real members from fakes can be hard, but I learned that once you make a genuine connection with someone, you can use something called a private showcase key to unlock their real pics. 

Ultimately, I took my time on Ashely Madison because – as I soon realized – whilst men and women are using it to spice up their sex life, they need to trust you first. As such, Ashley Madison isn’t as explicit or as ‘forward’ as AFF but it is possible to land hookup and dates. You just have to be cool. 

What does it cost?

Free for women. Men have to purchase credits to use certain features and send messages 

Pros

  • Discreet
  • High active user base
  • Great, sensuous layout 

Cons

  • Lots of fake profiles 

2. BeNaughty 

 BeNaughty

BeNaughty is exactly what it sounds like: a hookup site that encourages its users to be a little naughty. 

The site lets you upload pics and videos to your profile, there are around 100,000 weekly active users, but most profiles are sparsely detailed.

How does It Work?

BeNaughty is open to anyone of any sexual preference and orientation. Signup is free and takes a few minutes, and most fields are not mandatory. You must upload at least one pic, but there’s no need to spend time filling out a lengthy bio. 

BeNaughty then suggests you a few potential matches based on your location, but you can also use the search function to look for members. 

Unlike AFF, nudity is strictly not allowed on BeNaughty. Also, most users are aged under 30. 

My Experience

My first impression of BeNaughty was that this was a really professional hookup site. I liked the layout, I liked the ‘cute or not game’ that boosted my messages but – like Ashley Madison – I didn’t like that women can send messages for free, but guys have to upgrade. 

However, I soon upgraded my account and started sending messages and chatting in the chatroom. With absolutely zero fake profiles, I learned that most BeNaughty users are upfront and direct and that the best way to have fun and land a hookup is to be forward and exchange pics and videos as soon as possible. People wanna see you!

What does it cost?

  • 1 month – $30
  • 3 months – $24 per month 
  • 6 months – $16 per month 

Pros

  • No fake profiles 
  • Ideal for people under 30
  • Couples can signup but they must share the same account 

Cons

  • Women can send messages for free, men must upgrade 

3. Xmatch

Xmatch

Xmatch wants to cater to all kinds of sexual encounters – from casual hookups after a few drinks at a bar, to kinkier rendezvous. 

With over 95,000,000 members around the world, it’s one of AFF’s biggest rivals but it is a tad dominated by males.

How does It Work?

You need to complete 5 steps in order to create a profile, and these steps include choosing a gender preference. You also need to add a headline for your profile, although you don’t need to write a bio just yet. 

Once your profile is ready, you’re free to join the chat rooms and add members to your Hotlist, but the advanced search filters cost money, as does the messaging feature. 

My Experience

XMatch looks and feels very similar to AFF, and it also has the same extensive adult movie library. Because I wanted a hookup, I upgraded my account and started tweaking the search filters. 

These filters allowed me to get very specific – I was able to search for users according to their eye color! I also made a lot of noise in the chatrooms (which are very busy) and I hosted my own broadcast show (this is a free feature).

Overall, there’s a lot going on at XMatch and its special features can be a bit distracting. However, I met three women off the site, and while two were just looking for friends, I still had a lot of fun. 

What does it cost?

Pros

  • Feature-rich
  • Looks a lot like AFF
  • Perfect for anyone of any sexual or gender preference 

Cons

  • Lots of users seem to sign up just to use the special features, such as adult movies 

4. Tinder 

Tinder

Tinder was the original “swipe” app that today boasts more active users than most other dating sites and apps. It’s completely free to use and its simplistic user interface continues to cement its popularity. 

How does It Work?

Signing up to Tinder and sending messages is completely free. However, there’s no search function; to send messages you first have to match with someone. This can be frustrating as there’s no telling who’ll pop up in your queue. It can also make it hard for you to be seen, although paid features such as Boost are designed to help with this. 

My Experience

I had more success on Tinder than any other site. Its layout is completely different from AFF, and because it’s a swipe alternative it makes for a good alternative. I added my best pics and a short, funny bio, and then paid for a few Boosts. It wasn’t long before I’d lined up 40+ matches. Although not every girl was looking for a hookup, I landed 5 dates in the space of a week. 

What does it cost?

Free to send messages but you can upgrade to a Gold membership and pay on the monthly. Alternatively, you can pay a one-off fee to use features such as Boost.

Pros

  • Free
  • Very high active user base
  • Hassle-free

Cons

  • Can be hard to get seen 

5. OkCupid 

OkCupid

OkCupid is an LGBT-friendly dating site that many users see as a “safe space.” It has a cute layout, there are millions of daily users worldwide, and it’s used by those looking for hookups, relationships or new friends. 

How does It Work?

OKCupid’s signup process is quite lengthy, and you’re encouraged to add a few lines to your profile. However, there are plenty of prompts (such as “last TV show you binged”) that help you on your way.

Searching for and messaging other users is completely free, but OkCupid has a strict messaging policy in place: You can’t message someone until they’ve matched with you, and you can’t send them a follow-up message until they’ve replied to your opening message. 

My Experience

OkCupid is nowhere near as graphic as AFF, but it’s still ideal for hookups. Each user must stipulate what they’re looking for, and you can add as many intentions as you want. This way, it’s really easy to find someone who’s looking for the same thing you are.

I made sure to fill out my profile with as much detail as possible, I added a number of pics, and I started messaging users. However, OkCupid has this thing whereby a user can’t see that you’ve messaged them until they get an email notification. Even then, they have to flick through a few profiles until they come across yours.

The idea behind this is that users are kept safe but it can also limit your chances of success. I learned that the key to success on OkCupid is having patience, showing respect, and taking the time to build a genuine connection (even if you’re looking for a hookup). Overall, I arranged to meet two women and we had a great time. 

What does it cost?

Free to use but you can upgrade your account to use features such as A-List. 

Pros

  • Excellent layout 
  • Free for everyone Great for members of the LBGT community 

Cons

  • Restrictions on messages can make life hard on this site 

6. Plenty of Fish 

Plenty of Fish (POF) has been around for longer than most other sites like Adult Friend Finder. Today, it continues to draw in millions of active users each day thanks to its uncomplicated layout, its ease of use – and the fact that it’s free. 

How does It Work?

To sign up for POF, you first have to complete a very long personality test. This is so that POF can then recommend you suitable matches. It’s also mandatory to upload at least one pic (no nudity allowed), and you have to add a few lines to your profile and write a headline. 

Once all that’s done, you’re free to tweak the search filters and message other users. You can see who’s viewed you at any time, and you don’t have to wait until you’ve matched with someone before you message them. 

My Experience

POF is one of my favorite sites like AdultFriendFinder. It’s nowhere near as graphic, but its layout is just as fuss-free and it’s very high traffic. There are also plenty of singles who are looking for hookups. 

I tweaked my search filters to look for women who were up for some fun and I fired off a few messages. Whilst my strike rate on POF was low in terms of how many women messaged back, I still mangled to arrange two dates within the space of five days. 

What does it cost?

Free to send messages but you can upgrade your account to unlocked features such as the ability to see who wants to meet you. 

Pros

  • Free
  • Fuss-free design 
  • Tons of users are online at any one time 

Cons

  • Lengthy signup process

7. Cams.com 

cams.com

Cams is actually owned by the same group that’s behind AFF. And while it’s got a few similarities (you can watch live cam shows), there are enough differences to tell them both apart. The biggest difference is that Cams lets you chat with the models. 

How does It Work?

Far from a conventional “dating site,” Cams is more of an interactive webcam site. The idea is that you sign up for free, verify your email, and browse the live models. You don’t need to upload, nor do you need to fill out a bio. 

What happens next? 

You can add models to a ‘Favourites’ list, give them tips, and you can even send them messages which they will reply to. Messages can be sent via a private messaging function, or you can chat with them in the chatrooms. You can’t set dates with them, though.

My Experience

I’ll admit it – I’m one of those guys who enjoys chatting to webcam models. It’s hot, it’s flirty and it’s a lot of fun. 

I used Cams whenever I was waiting on replies on the other dating sites like AdultFriendFinder that I was using. It was great entertainment that helped me pass the time, and if you’re feeling horny it’s a fab way to bust a nut whenever you’re bored.

What does it cost?

  • 1 month – $20 per month 
  • 3 months – $14 month 
  • Alternatively, you can purchase credits

Pros

  • Chatroom is free
  • Relatively affordable 
  • The live models actually interact with you

Cons

  • Can’t use it for dating 

8. SeekingArrangement 

SeekingArrangement is for sugar daddies and mommas that pairs up both women and men with older people – sugar daddies and mommas! It’s the best site of its type, and it’s ideal for those of you who are using it for business, as well as those who are looking for pleasure. 

How does It Work?

The signup process is short and quick and you aren’t required to go into detail with your profile. All you need is the most basic information and you’re away. However, you will be asked questions such as how much you want a sugar daddy to spend on you, or – if you’re a sugar daddy – how much you’re willing to spend on someone. 

Unlike AFF, which has numerous on-site features and is more than just a dating site, SeekingArrangement is only for serious singles who genuinely want to meet someone and take things off-site as soon as possible. You can connect with social media accounts, the site suggests matches for you, and you can adjust the search filters to find the person that’s exactly right for you. For example, you can filter out smokers, those without a degree, and so on. 

My Experience

As I’m neither a sugar daddy or a sugar baby, I didn’t use SeekingArrangement (it wouldn’t be fair on the other users who are taking this site seriously). However, customer reviews for this site are very favorable and it’s recognized as the best site of its type. It also has 10,000,000 active users and 80% of members are sugar babies.

What does it cost?

  • 1 month – $75 per month
  • 3 months – $65 per month 

Pros

  • Millions of active users
  • Site makes you feel comfortable 
  • Perfect for sugar daddies/babies 

Cons

  • Expensive 

The Scoop:

These are the best sites like Adult Friend Finder. The next step is to decide which one appeals to you the most, before taking a closer look. If you like what you see, you can sign up for an account and use the free features to get a feel for things. If you really like what you see, it’s time to upgrade your account – and get flirting!

Will Titterington

Will Titterington

Will is a writer, coach and life lover who enjoys helping people reach their potential. Will has plenty of experience with Online Dating. He loves to test different apps and sites and share his experience on DatingXP. He loves art, sports, connecting with new people from all over the world, and making people laugh.

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