Got a girl you really like? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019re probably at the tricky stage where you\u2019re wondering how often you should text her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s definitely a problematic stage. On the one hand, you could text her too much, in which case you appear needy and she loses all attraction to you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Or, on the other hand, you could text her too little so that she basically friend-zones you.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So, let's discuss: <\/p>\n\n\n\n
When it comes to texting a girl, there is no set frequency that works for everyone, as it depends on various factors such as the nature of your relationship, the girl's preferences, and the context of the conversation. However, you want to text her just enough<\/em> to create sexual tension and attraction and to make her yearn for you. You don\u2019t want to go overboard, but neither do you want to go Missing In Action.\u00a0You want to text her optimally so that each time her phone rings, she\u2019s desperate for it to be a text from YOU.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n Naturally, getting the balance isn\u2019t easy. However, this article will help you understand much more about how often you should text a girl to keep her interested.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Not texting every day isn\u2019t the same as going missing in action.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Instead, it\u2019s simply keeping her on her toes so that she doesn\u2019t quite know what to expect (see above).<\/p>\n\n\n\n It also ensures that she misses you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Think of it:<\/strong> If you texted her all day everyday, however, will she get a chance to miss you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Girls need<\/em> that chance to miss you. If they don\u2019t get it, their attraction to us simply won\u2019t grow. It\u2019s in those moments when you\u2019re not there and she\u2019s missing you that she processes her feelings for you and realizes she wants to hear from you.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n And when the next day comes along and you finally text her, she will LOVE it.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I was first crushing on someone and wondering how often I should text them, I remember reading advice that said I should be consistent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n The advice given was that I should text her at pretty much the same time each day. If I usually say good morning, I should keep saying good morning. If I usually text during my break at work, I should keep texting her during my break at work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The problem is that consistency is predictable. And when you\u2019re just getting to know a girl, it\u2019s the unpredictability <\/em>that makes you attractive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n How so?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Because unpredictability is exciting. Instead of her receiving a text from you exactly when she expects it, she instead receives one from you when she least <\/em>expects it. Her heart flutters, and she is super happy. She can\u2019t wait<\/em> to see what you\u2019ve said. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Moreover, unpredictability creates mystery. She has to second guess where you are and what you\u2019re up to, and she has to ask herself, \u201cwhy isn\u2019t he texting? Does he like me or not?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n When your texts are consistent and the girl knows what to expect, she can more easily guess whether you like her or not. And I know it sounds funny, but this sort of thing can actually make her lose interest because she is hard-wired to crave unpredictability.<\/p>\n\n\n\n She wants to keep guessing your intentions. It\u2019s all part of the fun of getting to know someone while the sexual tension builds. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As well as giving her time and space in order to miss you, it\u2019s also really important that you give her time and space when she says she\u2019s busy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Indeed, if a girl says \u201cI\u2019m busy today,\u201d or words to that effect, (such as, \u201cI\u2019ve got a lot of stuff to do today so might not be able to talk much\u201d) LISTEN to her and behave appropriately.<\/p>\n\n\n\n In other words, if you must text her, leave it a few hours and then only keep things brief and light. <\/p>\n\n\n\n For instance, you could send her a GIF or something otherwise funny. Or you could simply ask how her day is going. She won\u2019t mind that sort of thing at all! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Should you totally ignore her all day if she\u2019s busy? <\/p>\n\n\n\n I wouldn\u2019t. I would leave it a few hours and then do the above ^ in order to keep her interested.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, she might even text you first. In this case, keep your replies brief, and don\u2019t try to initiate a lengthy conversation. Remember, she is busy!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n There are some guys who will literally do anything they can to prolong a conversation and keep a girl talking for as long as possible.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even when the conversation is clearly<\/em> dying, they will come up with something to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Now, there\u2019s no real science behind this. Some<\/em> girls really appreciate it when a guy is willing to talk to them all day long. But the thing is that this is generally only true during the early stages of a relationship. Eventually, guys who are clearly outstaying their welcome for hours on end become routine, boring – and kinda annoying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s much better that you do two things: Make the conversation interesting. And exit it early so that you leave her wanting more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ideally, you want to get to the point where she is saying things like, \u201cI hate when you have to go.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n It shows that she\u2019s enjoying the conversation, but it also shows that you\u2019re not giving her everything all in one go. You\u2019re saving something for later, making her miss you and want you more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In other words, you\u2019re keeping her interested. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Naturally, you don\u2019t want to make a habit of always <\/em>disappearing because she will just get frustrated. But you have to show her that there\u2019s more to your life than just her and that you have a purpose. Girls love<\/em> that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n One of the biggest mistakes you can make when it comes to the early stages of connecting with a girl is replying to her texts straight away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I mean, I get why you would<\/em> always reply straight away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIt\u2019s because it\u2019s the right thing to do. I don\u2019t wanna be mean.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n But taking your time to reply to her texts isn\u2019t mean – it\u2019s just the best thing to do if you want to keep her interested. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Why? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Because you don\u2019t want to be too available. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re literally on-demand whenever she texts you, she will soon see you as being a) The Reliable Friend who she can talk to you about anything (in which case, she might friend zone you) and b) someone who doesn\u2019t have a purpose except her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n And that\u2019s not cool.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Moreover, what happens if she takes a few hours to reply to you, but you reply instantly <\/em>when she eventually replies?<\/p>\n\n\n\n It makes you look a tad needy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n See, while I girl might think<\/em> she wants you to always be available for her, it\u2019s actually a turn-off when a guy is always there and clearly hasn\u2019t got much going on in his life besides her.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So how long should you take to reply? <\/p>\n\n\n\n There\u2019s no fixed rule for this. What\u2019s more important is that you don\u2019t always reply straight away. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I suggest you try to reply at her pace. If she takes her time to reply, you should take your time. If she occasionally replies quickly, you should reply quickly a few times. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mix things up. Keep her guessing. Don\u2019t be too available. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If there\u2019s one thing that can really<\/em> spoil how a girl feels about you, it\u2019s following up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You know how it goes – you send her a message in the morning and by the afternoon she still hasn\u2019t replied.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So you send her another message asking \u201chow\u2019s it going?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n This irks her. Maybe she replies to it but she\u2019s a little bit irked because you\u2019re kinda looking a tad needy here. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Moreover, you\u2019re not being mysterious and you\u2019re not demonstrating that you\u2019ve got much going on in your life other than talking to her. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Do follow-up texts ever work? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Not really<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Naturally, if it\u2019s been 3 days and you haven\u2019t heard from her you could ask how she\u2019s doing. But that\u2019s really the only time you should do it. Otherwise, you just have to wait it out and get on with your purpose. She\u2019ll appreciate it and her interest in you will grow. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The Scoop<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n As unfortunate as it is, keeping a girl interested in the modern age means fine-tuning your texting game so that you don\u2019t text her too much or too little. Use these conversation tips to get the balance right. Don\u2019t be too available, don\u2019t be too consistent, and don\u2019t hassle her when she\u2019s busy. Instead, create a bit of mystery by being unpredictable. Make her wonder where you are and what you\u2019re up to – it\u2019s the best way to keep her interested.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Got a girl you really like? You\u2019re probably at the tricky stage where you\u2019re wondering how often you should text her. It\u2019s definitely a problematic … <\/p>\n5 Texting Tips If You Just Met The Girl:<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
1. Don\u2019t Text Everyday\u00a0<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
2. Be Unpredictable With Your Texts Timing<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
3. Give Her Time And Space When She Is Busy\u00a0<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
4. End Your Conversations Early<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
5. Don\u2019t Reply Straight Away\u00a0<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
6. Don\u2019t Send a Follow-Up Text<\/h3>\n\n\n\n