{"id":1165,"date":"2023-08-15T13:43:10","date_gmt":"2023-08-15T13:43:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/?p=1165"},"modified":"2023-08-21T15:09:03","modified_gmt":"2023-08-21T15:09:03","slug":"how-to-hookup-with-a-girl","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/how-to-hookup-with-a-girl\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Hookup with a Girl: (Everything You Need to Know!)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Hooking up <\/a>with someone should be fun \u2014 that\u2019s why it\u2019s good to remember a few things\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hooking up with a girl is neither here, nor there, yet people tend to have an awful lot of opinions about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Should you, or should you not have a one-night stand, or a fuck buddy, or a no strings attached relationship, or whatever else you\u2019d like to call it? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The answer to that question is that it\u2019s entirely up to you. There\u2019s nothing morally wrong with having sex for one night only or dating someone just for the sake of sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sex is a great part of life that should be enjoyed! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is, however, better or worse ways to go about hooking up with people. If you want to enjoy having sex with someone (and you should!) the below are things to bear in mind to make it more enjoyable. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How to Hookup with a Girl: 11 Steps<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

1. See Sex as Something Empowering<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s face it<\/strong>: There\u2019s something empowering about embracing your own sexuality and getting sexual satisfaction from someone. We all have sexual desires and embracing them as part of our personality and being open about it is liberating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we fall in love we\u2019re often\nnervous about what the other person will think about us and if we\u2019re at all\ncompatible as lovers. When you have sex with someone you aren\u2019t emotionally\ninvested in, you don\u2019t particularly care what they think about you. You just\nenjoy yourself. That, too, can be very liberating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Stay Comfortable<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you aren\u2019t comfortable hooking up with strangers, choose someone in your circle of friends, or someone you know of through someone else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re looking for someone on Tinder, simply explain you\u2019re looking for a fuck buddy, but won\u2019t have sex with someone until you get to know them better. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Likewise, if you aren\u2019t comfortable going home with a stranger, take them to your place instead of theirs. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. There\u2019s a Time and a Place for Everything<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Agreeing to go straight home with someone after a night on the town when truly you\u2019re famished and have a smashing headache isn\u2019t going to bring you great sex. Sure, if you tell them you\u2019d rather wait to hook up till another night when you are feeling more up for it, then you might not get what you want. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But having sex when you aren\u2019t comfortable is going to ruin the experience. You don\u2019t want to end up having lousy sex just because you didn\u2019t want to tell them what you need to get in the mood. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When we first meet people we tend to be shy about our needs, but this is about two people pleasing each other. Sex is all about your needs. So be sure you get what you need to feel in the mood for sex!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Stay Sober<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

To fully enjoy having sex, you need to\nbe sober. To make informed decisions about who to have sex with, you need to\nstay sober. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having a drink, or two is one thing. Getting drunk is another. You don\u2019t want to be drunk when making a choice about whom to bed, nor do you want to be drunk while having sex. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s going to numb your senses and that\u2019s the last thing you want! <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Besides, even if you think you\u2019re sexy when you\u2019ve had one too many, the people you\u2019re hitting on won\u2019t agree unless they\u2019ve plastered themselves. You\u2019re much more likely to find someone attractive to bring with you home if you can walk in a straight line!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Have Clear Intentions<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Just as you appreciate when someone tells you upfront what they want, be open about what you want. Don\u2019t tell someone on Tinder you\u2019re looking for a relationship if you\u2019re after hookups. Nor should you flirt outrageously with one of your friends and hope they\u2019ll get that you only want a fuck buddy.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Men are often made out as villains when it comes to looking for sex and confusing it with dating, but many women are just as bad when it comes to being obscure about what they want. Probably because we don\u2019t necessarily know on the first date whether we want something casual, or a relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We may very well be shopping for one thing, but end up changing our minds once we get to know someone. Just do your best to communicate your intentions when you talk about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Don\u2019t Attach Yourself<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I usually say this when giving men advice, but there\u2019s nothing worse than a person who latches onto you like an octopus<\/strong>. When you approach someone in a bar or flirt with someone in your circle of friends, chill knowing there are other options. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yes, attraction is a pain sometimes as it makes us literally want to throw ourselves at someone, but just remember there are other people out there that will have the same effect on you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Millions, in fact. So don\u2019t get desperate!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019ll be the most attractive when you\nshow what you want, yet aren\u2019t attached to getting that one person. Rather, you\nknow you\u2019ll get the person that\u2019s best for you. \n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Have Fun with It<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Ever looked at someone and admired them for owning their sensuality and sexuality? For being openly sexy? I know I have<\/strong>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So if you are to indulge in hookups, why not indulge in learning about sex in general? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take a class in burlesque, learn about seduction, dress in clothes that make you feel sexy\u2026own the sexy wanton in you!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Desires You Shouldn\u2019t Act-On<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes it\u2019s tempting to have sex even though we know we really shouldn\u2019t. I often say this, but there is physical, sexual, emotional, intellectual, and, possibly, spiritual attraction. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you are a match on one or two levels, you can feel an extreme attraction to someone, only to feel extreme disgust once you discover the other levels. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Attraction blinds us. <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that overwhelming attraction you feel for your work colleague after a glass of wine on a Friday night might not be the best indicator of whether you should hook up with them, or not. You have to face the Monday morning, so be sure that you make the decision that truly rings true to you and not the one that\u2019s controlled by immediate desire.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Letting desire control you isn\u2019t a\nproblem with someone you\u2019ll never see again, but it can become a problem with\nsomeone you have to face every day for the rest of the year. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The moral of the story?<\/strong> If it\u2019s just for the sex, try to pick someone you know you\u2019ll be OK seeing again, such as a fuck buddy, or someone you know you\u2019ll never see again. Otherwise, those Monday morning meetings can get weird fast\u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Make Up Your Mind<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Going home with someone when you\u2019re\nstill debating whether it\u2019s a good idea, or not, isn\u2019t going to make for an\nincredible experience. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to have sex, find someone\nyou truly want to have sex with and go home with them. Don\u2019t just accept\nsomeone because they\u2019re better than no one, or because they\u2019ve been flirting\nwith you for a while and because you\u2019ve sort of responded, you\u2019re starting to\nfeel like you owe them something. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In short, before you have sex with someone, make a decision that this is truly what you want. Once you\u2019ve made that decision \u2014 go for it! Enjoy yourself fully! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Don\u2019t Use Sex as an Emotional Escape<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sex is great. It\u2019s fun, it releases wonderful chemicals that make us feel happy, it may even boost your immune system, and it\u2019s part of who we are biological. Using sex to numb yourself because you\u2019re going through emotional pain, on the other hand, is a bad idea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t get hooked on hookups while trying to avoid other aspects of your life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Stay Safe<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

This is obvious, but just to be clear:<\/strong> there are STDs you can\u2019t protect yourself from by using a condom, or any other form of contraceptive. If you know someone you intend to hook up with, you can ask them about their sexual history and when they last got tested, but it\u2019s not like you\u2019re going to ask someone you just met at a bar when they last had a chat with their gynecologist. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you have sex with someone, you take a risk.   <\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You also need to be wise about who you go home with. Choose to have sex with people on nights when you aren\u2019t so drunk you don\u2019t know what you\u2019re doing. Talk to them. Get to know them a bit. Get a feel for who they are. And let a friend know where you\u2019re going, even if it\u2019s to your own place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like older women? <\/strong>learn How To Hookup With a Cougar<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Takeaway<\/strong>: Hooking up with a girl or someone can and should be great. You just need to bear in mind some basic things, like avoiding hooking up with people when you\u2019re pissed drunk and won\u2019t be able to remember a thing in the morning. Have fun with sex and honor yourself by picking the right sexual partners for you. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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