{"id":124,"date":"2023-08-22T06:55:37","date_gmt":"2023-08-22T06:55:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/casualdatingxp.com\/?p=124"},"modified":"2023-06-26T08:40:11","modified_gmt":"2023-06-26T08:40:11","slug":"how-to-hookup-on-tinder","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/how-to-hookup-on-tinder\/","title":{"rendered":"A Woman’s Guide: How to Hookup on Tinder in 2023?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Do you want to get laid on Tinder? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can help you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hooking up on Tinder is not rocket science, but there are dos and don\u2019ts if you want to up your game, or have any game at all. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, who am I to tell you how to hookup on Tinder?<\/em><\/strong> <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Someone who has written more dating tips articles than you\u2019d ever care to read. OK, but still, who am I to do that?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve used Tinder, on and off, for about two years. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I got a message a few days back saying that I\u2019ve had 25k likes on my profile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Granted I\u2019ve traveled a lot, so I guess I have the opportunity to get more likes than most. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, I\u2019ve used Tinder for different reasons over the years. I\u2019ve also had all sorts of men approach me on there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I know what makes me stop in my tracks and read a profile, start the conversation<\/a>, or run for the hills. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I have also read about other people\u2019s advice and experiences on Tinder and it turns out, their thoughts are very similar to mine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4 Tips to Get Laid on Tinder<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

1. Choosing The Right Tinder Photos<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The most important factor for your Tinder hookups success is your Tinder photos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Before people even read your profile, they\u2019ll look at your pictures. They won\u2019t read the dating profile<\/a> unless they like them. Photos are there to show who you are. That means it\u2019s not just about your face or physique. Shocker. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A woman wants to know who she\u2019s going home with. So, if you're going to get laid using Tinder then you need to have a good Tinder photo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Example of a Good Tinder Photo<\/em><\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n

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A picture with your dog, or niece, shows you\u2019ve got a heart. Wonderful. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have a shot with you and your friends, it shows you have friends. Great. You\u2019re probably not a complete nutcase then. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re out playing sports, you show you\u2019re taking care of yourself and you\u2019re enjoying yourself. You\u2019re happy and healthy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A full body shot (with your clothes on), shows you don\u2019t secretly have the body of a Sumo wrestler. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A pic of you dressed up in a nicely fitted suit, or cool outfit, shows you\u2019ve got style. You know how to dress. That\u2019s sexy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In general, shots of you having fun, shows you\u2019ve got a life. Shots where you travel, cook, ride a bike, paint\u2026do whatever it is that makes you happy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have as much artistic sense as none at all, get someone good with a camera to help you pick the photos for your profile. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What to Avoid in Your Photos?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n

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A picture of you cruising down the PCH in a Porsche with the roof down\u2026sure, that can be fun. A pic of you posing next to a Maserati\u2026that\u2019s what\u2019s called the small d*ck complex. You\u2019re trying to make up for something. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The same goes for pictures of your expensive mansion or Rolex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Seriously? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s a huge difference between men who enjoy their lifestyle and look comfortable doing things they enjoy, and those who take pictures to prove something. If you have something to prove, see a psychologist, instead of using Tinder to prove it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This goes for close-ups of your abs, your crotch, and gym pics too. Knowing you\u2019re a gym rat is impressive because\u2026? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to show off your body, take a shot of yourself surfing, or playing beach volleyball, or something of the sort. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Avoid Group Pics and shirtless pics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Extreme close-ups of your face where you look insane. Why? It\u2019s off-putting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Likewise, bathroom selfies. Really? Like, you've no friends who can take pictures of you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A few selfies are fine, especially ones with friends in them, but selfie-obsessed people often have a broken ego, or you have to assume they have no friends who can take their photos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Also, one shot of you and your niece, or one shot of you and your dog, is fine. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

All shots with you and the dog\u2026this is looking like you have a dog obsession. Not sexy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How Many Tinder Photos Should You Use?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Male Tinder profiles with a minimum of 3 pictures<\/em><\/strong> got more likes than those with only one. This is specifically pronounced for the male Tinder users, for whose match frequencies increased more than five-fold.\u00a0 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Your Bio Matters<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The second most important factor for your Tinder hookup success is your bio.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sure, you\u2019re on Tinder only for hookups. So photos should be enough, right?! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You need to have a good bio to hook up on Tinder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You need to show you\u2019re not some douchebag. You need to show a girl can be confident you\u2019ll treat her well before, during, and after sex. You need to show you have character. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

When looking for flings, as contrary as it may seem, writing a few lines to establish that you aren\u2019t a whack job is really important. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

No, you don\u2019t need an essay. Absolutely not. But two, or three lines, to establish that you are a decent guy and have a sense of humor\u2026yes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Oh, and writing something also shows you\u2019re willing to work for it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some examples of good Tinder bios<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u201cI like ice cream, surfing, and cuddling on Sunday mornings. I\u2019m terrible at cooking but great at take-outs by the fire in winter, and by the beach in summer.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYour mother would like me because I\u2019m a mean cook and polite gentleman. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI know how to polish my shoes, clean the house and do the laundry. Just so we have that out of the way. As for the interesting stuff: I like adventure, I\u2019m a sucker for days on the beach, I love a great bottle of red and even greater cuddles, I have a thing for fireplaces in winter and I\u2019m so totally down for spontaneous experiences.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI never did the nine-to-five and I\u2019m a terrible cook, but I\u2019m great with adventure, cuddles, and sharing pints of ice cream.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019d like to think Gran did well with teaching me to be a gentleman, but I have an adventurous soul, a naughty mind, and love good banter.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMidwest gentleman come to live in NYC. Run a creative agency by day, and explore the city by night. Love a good hike in the mountains, as much as I love a get-together with friends in the city. I also love my mother, but if you ever meet her, don\u2019t hold it against me.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI like intellectual conversation and bottles of wine. I provide bear hugs and fireside chats. I am prone to adventure and pillow fights. I have a ridiculous love for poodles, but promise I\u2019m quite manly in other ways.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Create Impression With Personalised Opening Messages<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The third most important element to your Tinder hookups success is your communication skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You need communication skills. Otherwise, you're bound to fail.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

As you will meet people you contact on Tinder, you won\u2019t get laid unless you can talk to them in real life, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The First Message Mistakes<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey, how are you?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

“You\u2019re so hot\/beautiful\/cute.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

“Let's Smash?”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do those sound like interesting opening lines?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

No. Really? No. They\u2019re not. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If a woman has a decent profile, she\u2019ll get a lot of men approaching her on Tinder. Like, a lot. If you want her to answer your message, say something interesting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The easiest way to show you cared enough to actually look at her profile, is to mention something about it, whether something you have in common or something you liked about it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are some examples of good Tinder openers<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n

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\u201cThat ice cream you\u2019ve got in one of your pics looks delicious. Can I have some? ;)\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cYou moved to NYC from LA? Let me guess: the eternal sunshine and pretty beaches just got too much for you? ;)\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI see you visited Paris. Me too. What was your fav thing in the city? :)\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI love the shot of you in Paris. Have a bit of a taste for globetrotting, do you? :)\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re in a hurry (and you have a decent enough profile to back up you aren\u2019t a complete douche) a \u201cName!\u201d can also work. Why? It\u2019s their name. It\u2019s a lot more personal than \u201cHey.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey,\u201d sort of indicates you have no clue what to say, or don\u2019t care enough to say anything more interesting. Using their name is personal and confident. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

TIP:<\/em> <\/strong>GIFs work great\u2026if they are well thought out. One with red roses\u2026no. Strangers giving you red roses is strange. In fact, an experiment showed you're 30% more likely to get a response by opening with a GIF<\/a>, and conversations including GIFS last on average 2x longer. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Asking her out<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

After a few back and forths, you want to make things happen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

While you might have great online chemistry, it doesn\u2019t always translate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Communicate for long enough to show you can hold a conversation (that really only takes a few lines back and forth), then move it to WhatsApp (or similar) and schedule a date. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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You can even tell them you prefer meeting in person to chatting online. (Read another of my articles about great first dates.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

… or You can read my article How to Ask a Girl Out On Tinder<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

And if someone drops out of the conversation, move on. Tinder is filled with people. I don\u2019t know how many people you meet that stop talking to you and vice versa. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You realized they aren\u2019t your cup of tea, someone else came up that was more interesting, you got busy with life and didn\u2019t have time to flirt\u2026oh, and the people who just use it for an ego boost and never intended to meet up with you in the first place\u2026 If it happens, just move on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If someone sounded really, really cool, shoot them a message after a day, or two. If they don\u2019t reply, leave it. You don\u2019t have to unmatch them, as something really could have happened that means they aren\u2019t on Tinder but don\u2019t hold your breath. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Or..Cut this BS & sign-up for the Best Hookups Apps<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Bonus: Be Honest With Your Intentions <\/h3>\n\n\n
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Based on Lendedhu study<\/a>, 22.22 percent of Tinder users surveyed answered that they are looking for hookups, <\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

People use Tinder for different things. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some use Tinder for hookups, some use it for casual dating, and some for finding love. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Most use it for a mix of the three, or, rather: even if you\u2019re looking for true love, you don\u2019t know what will happen when you meet someone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It all starts with dating. Maybe you\u2019ll end up casually dating them for a while, hooking up a few times, and then ending it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, you might develop feelings for your hookup buddy<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The point is,<\/strong> be honest about what you are looking for and what you\u2019re open to. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s no point wasting time talking to a girl who\u2019s looking for a relationship, take her out for a date, only to be told she absolutely won\u2019t consider casual dating. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, if you want more Tinder hookups then you need to be REAL.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Good Examples:<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m looking to date and have fun, but if I happen to meet someone I fall in love with\u2026great.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI\u2019m looking for fun and naughtiness.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cLooking to meet people, have fun, see where it takes us.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cLooking for fun and play.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You DON\u2019T have to state it in your profile, but you do have to establish it once you start chatting with someone and feel like there\u2019s chemistry. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do Looks Matter to Hookup on Tinder?<\/h4>\n\n\n
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Based on the SimpleTexting survey,<\/a> a humorous personality is the most effective.<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n

We were all born with different looks. Sex appeal has a lot to do with style, not looks. If you dress nicely, have great hygiene, take care of your body, and are confident in yourself (i.e. you\u2019re comfortable being who you are), it shows.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you want to score on Tinder, you first have to see that. No matter what you put in your profile, your personality shines through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Living from the heart means you\u2019re neither shy, nor an ego show off. It means you\u2019ve decided to take charge of your life and say bye to the wounds your ego inflicted upon you. It means you\u2019re comfortable \u2014 you aren\u2019t above, or below, anyone else. You are. It\u2019s the most confident anyone can be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Related Read:<\/strong> \ud83d\udc47 <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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