{"id":1350,"date":"2023-08-21T12:38:55","date_gmt":"2023-08-21T12:38:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/?p=1350"},"modified":"2023-03-06T11:41:18","modified_gmt":"2023-03-06T11:41:18","slug":"tinder-first-messages","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/tinder-first-messages\/","title":{"rendered":"9 Types of First Messages For Tinder That Are 100% Effective"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><strong>Here\u2019s the funny thing about Tinder: <\/strong>Whilst there are <em>thousands<\/em> of potential matches living in your vicinity, actually getting them to reply can be really tricky.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s basic supply and demand stuff. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re a guy looking to start a conversation with a girl, the girl already has hundreds of matches wanting to talk to her too. To stand out, your first Tinder message needs to be good.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And if it isn\u2019t, you\u2019ve gotta hope your bio and pics are strong enough to pull you through.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The reality, though, is that girls tend to ignore matches altogether if their icebreaker game is weak.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I get it. It\u2019s a tough hurdle. What do you say that will <em>guarantee<\/em> a response?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The good news is that I\u2019ve been using Tinder for over 5 years now. Not just that, but I\u2019ve dug deep into the data, and ran experiments and I know what works and what doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In this guide, I want to share with you a whole bunch of examples that work. I\u2019ll explain why they work and what you need to do next.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ready? Let\u2019s make a start.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9 Types of First Tinder Messages That Work<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\">Type #1: Send them a Photo Compliment with a Question\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Here\u2019s the thing with this one: Girls (and guys) don\u2019t tend to like it when you simply complement their photo. If you just say \u201cwow, you\u2019re cute!\u201d it won\u2019t net you a reply.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In fact, most times the girl will just think you\u2019re a bit of a creep and no-hoper who probably just wants to get in her pants.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>BUT \u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you compliment their photo and back it up with a question, you\u2019re onto a winner.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are some first message examples:&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cDamn your outfits are straight fire. You got a fashion guru living in your house or something?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cLove your dogs! What are their names?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWhere was that photo taken? I recognize that place! It looks lovely.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cYour hair is literally the bomb in that pic. Mind if I ask what conditioner you use?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHaha, you look like you\u2019re having so much fun in that pic. Am I to assume you\u2019re always a bundle of laughs?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\">Type #2: Send them a combo of casual Hello and a Question\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The best time to use the casual hello and question as an opener is when your match hasn\u2019t written too much in her bio and you\u2019re not sure what else to say. And because you\u2019re saying more than just \u201chey,\u201d you\u2019re increasing the chances that she\u2019ll actually reply.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are the first message examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHey, are you having a good day?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHi, thanks for matching! You up to much this weekend?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cYo, how\u2019s it going?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cTGIF! Looking forward to the weekend?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHello! Okay, so we managed to get the matching bit outta the way. Fancy chatting?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\">Type #3: Send them Something Funny<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you were to ask me what type of <a href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/best-tinder-openers\/\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Tinder openers<\/a> I prefer, it\u2019s ALWAYS the funny opener.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But there\u2019s a disclaimer \u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You must only use them if you\u2019re a naturally funny, witty person who\u2019s always got a few one-liners to hand.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because if you\u2019re not a funny person but you open with something funny anyway (or, at least, something you <em>think<\/em> is funny), you\u2019ll find it impossible to keep the conversation going in a humorous direction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead, it will fall flat very quickly and you may end up saying more stuff that isn\u2019t funny at all.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And if they\u2019re having a bad day and you come along with a super funny opening Tinder message, there\u2019s every chance they\u2019ll reply.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are some first message examples:&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHey, here I am! What other two wishes did you ask?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cDamn this is the only time I\u2019ve ever wished I was cross-eyed! Cause I wanna see you twice.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cDo you believe in love at first sight &#8211; or should we match a second time?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cDid you come straight out of the oven onto Tinder? I only ask because you\u2019re so hot.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cDamn you\u2019re everything I\u2019ve been searching for. I don\u2019t even need to use Google anymore!\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\">Type #4: Send them something flirty<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>What is Tinder for if not for flirting?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\u201cExactly! So shouldn\u2019t I always use a flirty opener?\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The thing with Tinder is that it\u2019s easy to assume you should dive straight into a bit of flirting with your match.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it doesn\u2019t always work like that.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While flirting is fun, and while I definitely recommend that you try it, it won\u2019t always work.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Because it really depends on two things:&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>How good you are at flirting&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>How receptive the other person will be to your instant flirting&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>See, there are different types of people on Tinder and you can usually tell how receptive an individual will be to your flirting just by checking their profile. Is it sexually charged? In other words, do they have suggestive photos of themselves in revealing skirts and dresses? Is their bio fun and flirty? Have they added emojis?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If so, you can definitely try flirting with that person.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the other hand, if your match has put a bit more effort into their bio and says they\u2019re looking for something serious, it might not work to flirt straight away.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Basically, to use a well-worn phrase, you\u2019ve just gotta \u201cread the room.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are some first message examples:&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cReckon we\u2019re a match made in heaven?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHey cutie, describe your dream kiss in 3 emojis.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cYour last 3 matches (including me) &#8211; who would you fuck, marry, or avoid?\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWow. Your dog is so cute! Is he\/she jealous of newcomers?\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cSwiped right for your first pic. But are you adventurous?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\">Type #5: Questions Them Something From Their Profile Info<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Naturally, the possibility of using this one lies squarely on whether or not your match even has anything in their profile except one or two pics.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If they\u2019ve got some information that you can work with, such as a list of interests, an interesting fact, or even a really cool and unique picture, I definitely recommend experimenting with it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Because asking your match a question about their profile info shows that you\u2019re taking an interest in them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of pasting some generic questions you\u2019ve already asked hundreds of other girls, you\u2019ve taken the time to look at their profiles and come up with something unique.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And honestly &#8211; girls <em>love<\/em> that sort of thing.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Of course, there is a problem, and it\u2019s this: It\u2019s very easy to ask the exact same question someone else has already asked many times before.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, let\u2019s say a girl has uploaded a pic of them cuddling their dog. As a result, they\u2019ve received multiple questions along the lines of, \u201cawww, your dog is so cute! What\u2019s he\/she called?\u201d&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To stand out, then, you have to be a bit more creative and ask something a little bit left field. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are some first message examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cDamn, I\u2019ve never heard of that type of job before! It means you\u2019re a spy, right? I\u2019m calling it.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cOh wow, I\u2019ve heard a lot of good things about that school you went to. But does this mean you\u2019re probably insanely smarter than me?!\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cOh cool, we live in the same area! Have you lived here all your life?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWe travel to the same places! Which is your favorite country so far that you\u2019ve visited?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cAh, a gin lover, a girl after my own heart. I\u2019ll tell you my favorite type of gin if you tell me yours?!\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\">Type #6: Dog\/Cat Pick-up Lines\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Let\u2019s be honest &#8211; most people are suckers for cats and dogs.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And girls on Tinder will literally <em>melt<\/em> if you can nail a good dog\/cat pickup line.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Why do dog\/cat pickups lines work so well?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For one thing, you\u2019re relating to a common interest (by the way, you must only use this type of opener if your match has dogs or cats in their profile. If they don\u2019t, you\u2019re probably going to look a little weird).&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For another, you\u2019re hitting them with something <em>different<\/em>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Where most guys will start off with <a aria-label=\"cheesy Tinder pickup lines (opens in a new tab)\" class=\"rank-math-link\" href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/best-tinder-pick-up-lines\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">cheesy Tinder pickup lines<\/a> that everyone has heard before, you\u2019re going to be a little bit smoother.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And the thing with dog\/cat pickup lines is that there\u2019s so much you can do with them. I\u2019m going to list 5 here but you should totally experiment with your own and see what you can come up with.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The main things to remember are that it\u2019s okay to be a little cheesy, but you must never ever say something offensive.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are some first message examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cDamn, you and your cat are just purrrrrfect.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI matched with you and instantly felt a connection. Are you feline it too?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI never used to like dogs that much but since matching with you I wanna go to the bark side.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cOMG what an adorable profile, I wanna pet both of you! But I\u2019m okay with just petting your dog.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI think we\u2019ve got real pet-tential here, what do you think?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\">Type #7: Ask Them These open-ended Questions\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The thing with Tinder is that, aside from all the singles who are using it for a bit of fun or even just to pass the time, there are LOTS of people who take it seriously.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And it\u2019s these people who would welcome an opener in the form of a question from you.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>For example, check this one out:&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWhat\u2019s the best advice anyone has ever given you?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I personally <em>love<\/em> this, and I\u2019ve used it many times myself. It works because it gets people thinking. It\u2019s guaranteed to draw an interesting answer from which the two of you can build a proper conversation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWhat excites you most about the future?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Now, some people would say that these types of questions are too deep to ask straight off the bat. But that\u2019s okay &#8211; these questions aren\u2019t for them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>On the flip side, I know many serious daters who use Tinder and who yearn for these types of questions. As well as drawing out interesting answers and getting a conversation rolling, these also help the two of you to filter out unsuitable matches.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>For example, let\u2019s say you ask this question:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cWhat\u2019s a dealbreaker for you in a relationship?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And let\u2019s say that their answer doesn\u2019t match your values. As such, you know that this person isn\u2019t for you. It saves you a heck of a lot of time getting to know them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are two more examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cAre you good in the kitchen? If so, what\u2019s your go-to meal?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cIf you won a million dollars, how would you spend it?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\">Type #8: The Typo Jokes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re looking to break the ice with a bit of humor on Tinder, I definitely recommend you try a few typo jokes. They make for great <a href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/tinder-icebreakers\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"Tinder icebreakers (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Tinder icebreakers<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What is a typo joke?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>A typo joke looks like this:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cIf I had a nickel for every typo I made on Tinder \u2026 I\u2019d probably have more than 5 senses.\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Why does this type of joke work?&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, simply because it\u2019s cheesy and funny!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And as we all know, girls LOVE a guy who can make her laugh.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here\u2019s another example of a typo joke:&nbsp;<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cDamn, why do I always make so many typos on Tinder? Because I\u2019m Russian.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Another reason the typo joke works really well on Tinder is because it\u2019s inoffensive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It also reminds girls of dad jokes, and here\u2019s the thing: While girls might not admit it, they secretly can\u2019t get enough dad jokes.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Typo jokes are also non-suggestive, they\u2019re not rude and they don\u2019t come across too strong too early.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Moreover, they suggest that you\u2019ve got a really fun personality and they say to the girl, \u201cthis would probably be really fun to chat with!\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Here are 3 more examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI never understand how people can make typos in their Tinder bio! Don\u2019t they proofread first?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHey, pleased to sleet you! I promise not every message will contain a typo.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI make so many typos that I sometimes wonder if I should still be using Tinder. But you seem like such a cool person that I had to message you! I just hope I haven\u2019t ruined my first text.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"has-medium-font-size wp-block-heading\"><strong><strong>Type<\/strong> #9: The Vegan Card<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>One of the biggest dating app trends in recent times is saying that you\u2019re a vegan in your profile.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>In fact, I\u2019d say that along with \u201cNetflix\u201d and \u201cgym,\u201d, \u201cvegan\u201d is one of the most common interests listed in someone\u2019s bio.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>There is, of course, nothing wrong with listing that we\u2019re a vegan in our profile. And if it helps us match with someone who shares our values, so much the better.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But then what about opening with a message that refers to someone\u2019s veganism? Should you do it or not?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You totally should!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Vegan pickup lines are not only funny, but they\u2019re also very different.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Naturally, the <em>only <\/em>time you should use them is when your match has already stated that they\u2019re a vegan. And you should <em>probably<\/em> only use them if you\u2019re a vegan, too.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>With that in mind, here are some examples that are rife with innuendos:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cHey, I see that you\u2019re a vegan. I\u2019m a vegan too, but surely you wouldn\u2019t say no to a bit of meat? ;)\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cFancy stuffing me like a tofurkey?\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI would love to give you a kiss tofu.\u201d\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cIf you try my zucchini, fancy letting me eat your peach?\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u201cI know you hate meat but I\u2019ve got some meat you shouldn\u2019t ever feel guilty for eating.\u201d&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I won\u2019t lie &#8211; all these examples are risque. But if the girl has a sexually charged profile and is clearly looking for some fun, there\u2019s no reason why these clever vegan openers won\u2019t work.&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Here\u2019s the funny thing about Tinder: Whilst there are thousands of potential matches living in your vicinity, actually getting them to reply can be really &#8230; <\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more-container\"><a title=\"9 Types of First Messages For Tinder That Are 100% Effective\" class=\"read-more button\" href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/tinder-first-messages\/#more-1350\" aria-label=\"More on 9 Types of First Messages For Tinder That Are 100% Effective\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":7408,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1350","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-tinder","generate-columns","tablet-grid-50","mobile-grid-100","grid-parent","grid-50","resize-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1350"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1350"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1350\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":15426,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1350\/revisions\/15426"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/7408"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1350"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1350"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1350"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}