before<\/em> you get together.<\/p>\n\n\n\nGenerally, cheating in a polyamorous relationship is any romantic, emotional, or sexual involvement with someone your partner hasn\u2019t approved. In this situation, you\u2019d be doing the dirty behind their back, and that\u2019s never okay. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Another form of cheating might be having sex with someone else without protection. If you and your partner have already agreed that you should always have protected sex, sex without protection isn\u2019t cool – and is a form of cheating.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Communicate Openly <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Let\u2019s say you meet someone new. They\u2019re really amazing, and you like them a lot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Even though you\u2019re in an open relationship, for some reason, you\u2019re a little hesitant to tell your partner about this new person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Why? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Maybe you like them a little too<\/em> much. Maybe you\u2019re worried your partner might get upset, even though you\u2019d already agreed that you can both have sex with other people.<\/p>\n\n\n\nIt\u2019s actually understandable for anyone in a poly relationship to get a bit nervous whenever they meet someone new. Despite being in an open relationship, it\u2019s never<\/em> easy to tell our partner when we\u2019ve met someone great.<\/p>\n\n\n\nHowever, communication is the foundation for all successful relationships – poly or otherwise. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Therefore, whenever you meet someone new, tell your partner about them. Let them know your intentions – do you want to f3ck this person, or is there more to it? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Talk about Sexual health<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
It is important for you and your spouse to be on the same page about safe sex in your own relationship and with other sexual partners added Ashley Barad. Ashley advised discussing the following points so that there is no misunderstanding in the future. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
\n- Will you use protection with others? <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Will you use protection with each other? <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- How often will you both get tested for STIs? <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Are you comfortable with your spouse sleeping with someone who has not been recently tested? <\/li>\n\n\n\n
- Are you comfortable with your spouse sharing your STI status with their other sexual partners?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n
All of these are valid questions and concerns that need to be immediately discussed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. Decide How Much You\u2019re Going To Tell Each Other <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Would it hurt you if your partner told you they had great sex with their lover?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Would it hurt you if they told you they had a really romantic evening with someone else? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
How about if they shared intimate details, such as whether or not their lover has a piercing in a certain place or if they tried a different sex position? <\/p>\n\n\n\n
These are the things you need to think about before committing to a polyamorous relationship. If you – or your partner-can\u2019t handle such conversations, it\u2019s better to take them off the table straight away.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Understand what you\u2019re comfortable with and what you\u2019re not comfortable with. Are there things that would make you jealous and scupper the entire arrangement?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
6. Don\u2019t Put Pressure On Someone <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Imagine being in a monogamous relationship with your partner for a while. They\u2019ve never shown any inclination towards being poly, and neither have you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
One day, you decide to try an open relationship – but you want your partner by your side. You want to try a polyamorous relationship with them<\/em>.<\/p>\n\n\n\nHowever, they don\u2019t like the idea. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In fact, they flat-out reject it. They want you and you only. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You persist with the line that you\u2019re polyamorous. This is who you are. You need to feel an emotional and sexual, and spiritual connection with other people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
So you put pressure on your partner to commit to a poly relationship with you. And if they don\u2019t agree, you\u2019ll be deeply unhappy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This scenario was never, is never, and will never be okay. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In fact, putting pressure on someone to be polyamorous is tantamount to emotional abuse. If your partner doesn\u2019t want to be in an open relationship, you must either give up the idea yourself or break it off with them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
7. Have Date Nights With Your Partner <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
A polyamorous relationship is all about embracing different people and doing unique things with others. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But it\u2019s always important to remember that your partner is still your number one. As such, you need to set time aside for just the two of you as often as you can.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Plan date nights when it really is just the two of you and when all conversations about the other people in your relationship are off-limits. Enjoy each other, spend time together, and be intimate. Go to places, do things just like you would in an ordinary relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you don\u2019t make an effort with your partner, a polyamorous relationship simply will not work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
8. A Poly Relationship Isn\u2019t Just About You <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
One of the best things about a monogamous relationship is that it\u2019s just you and your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This means that the relationship is pretty much all about you (okay, it isn\u2019t, but you know what I mean).<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Things are split 50:50. You\u2019re either giving love or receiving it, but you\u2019re involved<\/em> at all times. You sleep with the same partner night after night; their kisses, texts, and love are all for you. <\/p>\n\n\n\nA polyamorous relationship is very different. One moment you might be at the center of attention, but the next, you\u2019re not. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
And while arguments in a monogamous relationship always involve you, this isn\u2019t the case with a polyamorous relationship. Your partner might be pissed off because of something someone else did. As such, this argument has nothing to do with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not everyone can get on board with the fact that a polyamorous relationship means they won\u2019t always be involved 100%. They won\u2019t always feel the love, they won\u2019t always be having sex, and there\u2019ll be times when maybe they\u2019ll feel a bit frozen out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But that\u2019s okay; this is just one of the rules of being poly. You have to accept it isn\u2019t always about you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
9. Respect Everyone Involved <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
Imagine if your partner started to have sex with someone you didn\u2019t like.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hey, it happens. Our partner meets someone they really like, introduces them to us – and we find them totally disagreeable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cWhat on earth do they see in them?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
However, an open relationship calls for respect for all involved. If your partner decides to see someone you don\u2019t like, it\u2019s not really<\/em> your business. You can dislike them all you want, but you mustn\u2019t confront them about it or make attempts to control who they can see and who they can\u2019t see.<\/p>\n\n\n\nThe whole point of a polyamorous relationship is that both partners have the freedom to explore themselves sexually and even spiritually with other people. If you start determining their ideal partner for them, the very essence of such a relationship crumbles. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
10. Be Prepared To Accept Your Mistakes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
In a monogamous relationship, you\u2019ll make mistakes. You\u2019ll hurt your partner, and they\u2019ll hurt you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mistakes happen, and it\u2019s vitally important that you take accountability for your mistakes, accept that you were at fault, and work hard to ensure they don\u2019t happen again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you don\u2019t, things can turn toxic over time, and the relationship will die. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mistakes will also happen in a polyamorous relationship, especially if you\u2019re new to this relationship dynamic. But because there are more people involved, any mistakes you make and don\u2019t own up to will hurt more people. This can create a dreadful, super toxic scenario that can leave multiple emotional scars.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s so important that you always recognize your mistakes and own up to them. Take responsibility, learn from your errors, and work harder not to make the same mistakes again. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Only if you do this can you have a satisfying, long-lasting open relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
11. Be Realistic About What The Future <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
It\u2019s easy to imagine that a poly relationship is a perfect arrangement. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
In fact, some people get into open relationships in the first place because they don\u2019t feel comfortable in a monogamous relationship and believe that welcoming more people into the fold will allow them to express themselves more, thus making their lives happier. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course, this can totally happen. You may<\/em> be very happy in your polyamorous relationship. But it doesn\u2019t mean that you will always be happy or that this arrangement will last forever.<\/p>\n\n\n\nA key rule of polyamorous relationships is to stay grounded with your expectations. Don\u2019t mistakenly believe that this could be paradise on earth for the rest of your life and that you and your partner will never break up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
There\u2019s nothing to despair about here. Breakups happen. Monogamous couples aren\u2019t immune to breaking up, and neither are poly couples. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
12. Don\u2019t Forget To Make Time For Yourself <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
The final and tenth rule of polyamorous relationships is to remember to make time for yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is something that\u2019s all too easily forgotten when we\u2019re seeing our partner and multiple other partners. All of a sudden, we have no me-time!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
But me-time is essential if this is to work. You\u2019re not the sum of all the different parts of your relationship – you are yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Set sometime aside each week to indulge in your hobbies and passions independently of your partner and lovers. Otherwise, you risk losing your identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Not just that, but you also need to see your friends and family. Don\u2019t sacrifice the things that matter to you for the sake of an open relationship. Many people in polyamorous relationships manage to balance their relationship with everything else that\u2019s going on in their lives, and this is something you need to do as well. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Summary:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nIt\u2019s important to have some polyamorous relationship rules if you want to enjoy a poly relationship with your partner and other men and women. And just because rules exist, it doesn\u2019t mean a relationship has to be restrictive.\u00a0In fact, by following these rules, you\u2019ll be able to have happier relationships that are built on communication, trust, and happiness.\u00a0<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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