{"id":2418,"date":"2023-08-18T19:03:11","date_gmt":"2023-08-18T19:03:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/?p=2418"},"modified":"2023-12-05T03:35:08","modified_gmt":"2023-12-05T03:35:08","slug":"online-dating-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/online-dating-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"15 BEST Online Dating Tips 0f 2023 For Men &#038; Women"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img decoding=\"async\" width=\"1024\" height=\"540\" src=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/online-dating-tips-1024x540.jpg\" alt=\"online dating tips\" class=\"wp-image-2474\" srcset=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/online-dating-tips-1024x540.jpg 1024w, https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/online-dating-tips-300x158.jpg 300w, https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/online-dating-tips-768x405.jpg 768w, https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/online-dating-tips.jpg 1942w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1024px) 100vw, 1024px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Once you\u2019ve decided to find your next date online, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed by how much hard work you have to put in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I mean, sure, it can seem real easy at first. You make a dating profile, send out a few messages, arrange the first date \u2026 but then the time to go on the date looms and they either flake, or they turn up and look <em>nothing<\/em> like their pics.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What gives?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Actually getting somewhere with someone pretty awesome online takes more work than that. Separating the wheat from the chaff and talking &#8211; and meeting &#8211; someone who seems genuine, cute, and who you really connect with is effort. <em>Major<\/em> effort.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But it\u2019s totally okay. If you\u2019re new to this online dating world &#8211; first of all, congrats &#8211; I\u2019m going to use my experience to help you out with 15 online dating tips for beginners so that you get more responses and go on more dates with great people.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">15 Best Online Dating Tips<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Use The Right Photos For Your Dating Profile<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Your pics are the biggest real estate on your <a href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/dating-profile-examples\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"online dating profile (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">online dating profile<\/a>. These are your attention grabbers.&nbsp;If you want to take only a single thing away from this online dating advice then it got to be this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First impressions are everything when it comes to online dating. If you\u2019ve uploaded the wrong pics, people just won\u2019t right-swipe on your profile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Especially your profile picture. If your follow-up photos are meh it won't be that big of a deal but if your profile picture is bad then you will not land any matches and dates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A wrong pic might be one that\u2019s too dark, one that hides your face, or one that\u2019s otherwise low-res and blurry.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You need to give out the right vibes and energies with your pictures because it\u2019s these and<em> not<\/em> your personality that\u2019s going to grab attention first. Here are some tips:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Smile.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Face forward in at least one pic.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Mix things up with both headshots and full-body shots. Not showing your body suggests you have something to hide.&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Try to upload at least one activity-based photo. You don\u2019t need to be jumping out of a plane but it\u2019s better if you\u2019re doing something fun and outdoorsy.&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Don\u2019t pout! It makes you look like you take yourself too seriously and people generally don\u2019t want that when they first start chatting to someone.&nbsp;<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Avoid filters &#8211; No one truly believes you look like that!&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Inside Scoops:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a aria-label=\"20 Dating Profile Examples From most Popular apps (opens in a new tab)\" style=\"font-size: inherit;\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/dating-profile-examples\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"rank-math-link\">20 Online Dating Profile Examples For Women. <\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><a aria-label=\"20 Online Dating Profile Examples For Men (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/dating-profile-examples-for-men\/\" target=\"_blank\" class=\"rank-math-link\">20 Online Dating Profile Examples For Men.<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Don't Leave Your Bio&nbsp;Blank<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t make the mistake that many beginners make by not adding a bio. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>While simply adding a link to their Instagram account might work for some of the hottest people on the planet, it hardly helps to get a conversation started.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Moreover, your bio will act as a dog whistle to people you want to connect with.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Make sure to create a bio that preserves the tone of the platform, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"pro-tip\"><strong>For example<\/strong>, a <a href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/dating-profile-examples\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"Tinder bio (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Tinder bio<\/a> looks very different to an OkCupid's bio. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. Be Short, Snappy and Engaging&nbsp;in Your Openers<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>You don\u2019t want your first messages to be long most of the time because it can put the other person off. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>C'mon, it's just a dating app. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Especially if they\u2019re super busy, seeing a huge message in their inbox can make them puff their cheeks out in exhaustion. They might think about getting back to it later, but they might just decide not to bother.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So, it's a major deal breaker on dating apps.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A good idea is to send short, snappy but engaging first message to people to keep the conversation flowing:&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Short<\/strong> &#8211; Preferably send two or three lines of text for each message. Break a big message up into smaller messages&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Snappy<\/strong> &#8211; Be direct and to the point all the time<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Engaging<\/strong> &#8211; Ask questions so that the other person has something to reply to. Questions keep conversations moving forward&nbsp;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"has-background\" style=\"background-color:#feefec\"><strong>Inside Scoop:<\/strong> <a href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/online-dating-first-message-tips\/\" target=\"_blank\" aria-label=\"Tips For First Online Dating Message (opens in a new tab)\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" class=\"rank-math-link\">Tips For First Online Dating Message<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Be Funny on Dating Apps&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>I get that some people don\u2019t know how to be funny on dating apps. But if you can crack a joke &#8211; even a really terrible one &#8211; as soon as possible, it helps both people to relax, builds rapport and can move things forward.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s important that you don\u2019t take yourself too seriously, at least at first, as most people online dating don\u2019t want to get sucked in by vampire energy straight away!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And being humorous can be really easy, <em>especially<\/em> if you\u2019re talking to someone who\u2019s naturally funny.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>As an example<\/em><\/strong>, I got talking to a girl on Tinder once and &#8211; almost straight away &#8211; I jokingly said I\u2019d have to un-match her because she hadn\u2019t seen my favorite movie.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Then, a few messages later she jokingly threatened to un-match <em>me<\/em> because of something <em>I <\/em>hadn\u2019t seen. She appended it with an emoji so that I knew she was kidding around.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>This kind of humor is fantastic at creating sizzling connections and you should use it as soon as you can.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">5. Don\u2019t Get Desperate For Quick Replies<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>I used to oscillate between following up and not following up when someone hadn\u2019t replied to my last message for a while. Now? I never follow up with someone I\u2019m chatting to on an online dating site.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>Two reasons:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>If they\u2019re interested, they <em>will<\/em> get back to you eventually. Even if it\u2019s been 5 days or a week, just hold your horses. They\u2019re busy and if you break ranks and say \u201chey, just wondering if you got my last message?\u201d you will instantly make them lose attraction for you. Be cool, be chill, and just wait it out!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>If they don\u2019t get back to you at all, they\u2019re not interested, I\u2019m afraid. A follow-up might draw out another reply from them, but believe me &#8211; it\u2019s more of a pity reply than anything else. Sending lots of follow-up messages means you\u2019re doing all the work for absolutely no reason. It\u2019s not going anywhere so just quit and move on.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">6. <strong>Don\u2019t Reveal Your Feelings&nbsp;<\/strong>Too Early<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Nope, you\u2019re not in love with them after just 4 messages. And, no, they\u2019re <em>not<\/em> the amazing person you\u2019ve been waiting for all this time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The thing is that it\u2019s very easy to idealize people we\u2019re talking to online. In their pics, they look exactly like the crush we\u2019ve always had in our heads.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And they seem so nice, friendly and genuine!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So much so that, before we know it, we\u2019re telling them that they\u2019re the person we\u2019ve been waiting for all this time and we just had to say it because we love making people feel good.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Well, just don\u2019t. You don\u2019t know them yet. You <em>think<\/em> you know them but all you\u2019ve done is idealise them in your head.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And revealing your feelings so soon makes you look weak \u2026 and unattractive. So save all that for now. Capeesh?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">7. <strong>Be Mysterious&nbsp;<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The thing with online dating is that you\u2019ve got a fantastic chance to create something that instantly creates attraction: <em>Mystery<\/em>.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The mystery is what both men and women are attracted to, even if subconsciously. When we don\u2019t know what someone is up to, when we don\u2019t know when &#8211; or even <em>if<\/em> &#8211; they\u2019ll get back to us, it can drive us crazy.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And the best thing? It\u2019s <em>so<\/em> easy to create mystery on dating sites. All you have to do is take your time replying to them. Don\u2019t reply instantly. Always wait for a few hours. Wait a few <em>days<\/em> occasionally. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Don\u2019t worry, if there\u2019s attraction already, you won\u2019t break it by going AWOL for a few days. You will only <em>increase<\/em> it.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">8. But Don\u2019t Ghost Them Completely&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Being mysterious and vanishing off the face of the earth are two different things. When you disappear for two or three days, you\u2019re a mystery.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you vanish for a month and then return \u2026 and then vanish for another month and then return because you always forget to check your dating accounts &#8211; you\u2019re erratic.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And they might think you\u2019ve got something to hide, such as a wife or husband.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019re really bad at checking your online dating accounts, get their number if you think this could go somewhere.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">9. Reply At Their Pace&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>As well as creating mystery, it\u2019s always a good idea to reply at their pace. Why? Because this creates rapport.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Rapport is super important when it comes to online dating, and you want to get into it as soon as possible (see above where I discuss cracking an early joke). When you\u2019re in rapport with someone, it\u2019s then yours to lose. Unless you do something silly, you\u2019re on your way to get potential partners for your next relationship.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>So reply at their pace <em>most of the time<\/em>. If they take a day to reply, you take a day to reply. If they suddenly take an hour to reply, you take an hour to reply. Mirror them.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">10. Wait At Least a Week Before Asking For The First Date&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>The problem for beginners is that it\u2019s <em>very<\/em> easy to get sucked into the idea that this person you\u2019re talking to right now might be your ONLY chance. As such, you make the mistake of asking for a date after 2 messages.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Okay, that\u2019s an exaggeration, but you get the idea.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Asking for a date too soon &#8211; no matter how well you\u2019re connecting &#8211; makes you look needy and desperate. Instead, it\u2019s a much better idea to wait at least one week so that your matches feel comfortable.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One week is good because it definitely isn\u2019t too soon and it isn\u2019t too late. You <em>can<\/em> wait a bit longer and keep them guessing, but you don\u2019t want to wait too long because things can fizzle out if you\u2019re not careful.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">11. Don\u2019t Beat Yourself Up&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Never feel sorry for yourself in your messages when online dating. Had a bad day? Okay, you <em>could<\/em> mention it if you\u2019re already in rapport with someone, but you will break rapport if you <em>dwell<\/em> on your bad day.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>No one is here to save you just yet. Cut the whiny talk and save it for your best friend. When it comes to online dating, you need to stay light and positive at <em>all<\/em> times.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">12. Spread Your Bets&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Do you really think the person you\u2019re talking to online is <em>only<\/em> talking to you right now? Maybe &#8211; but probably not.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To really succeed at online dating, you have to go into this with what\u2019s known as an abundance mindset. This is when you believe there are lots of options out there. In other words, if this one doesn\u2019t work out, it doesn\u2019t matter because you\u2019ve got another option.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If, however, you go into this with a scarcity mindset, which is when you believe the person you\u2019re talking to is your <em>only<\/em> option, you\u2019re far likelier to screw things up by appearing needy and desperate. You miss them (and tell them so). You want to fast-track a date before they get away. You send follow-up messages. You ask how their day went every single day.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s a much smarter idea to talk to as many people as you can. This will not only build up your experience with online dating, but it will also ensure you don\u2019t hyper-focus on just one person.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">13. Cast Your Net<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Spread your bets and cast your net, too.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>What the heck does this mean?&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It means venturing a bit further out of your current location because, well, you just never know if Mr or Mrs Right is 1 mile out of your current set location. Opportunity can knock anywhere so be opened minded about where you look for love.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">14. Don't Get Obsessed With Online Dating <\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>I see this mistake from beginners all the time: They commit to online dating so much that it\u2019s <em>all<\/em> they think about.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All they think if is their next long term relationship. Finding love takes time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>They check their profiles obsessively and get upset when no one\u2019s messaged them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Be cool, be chill and make sure you crack on with your life. If you don\u2019t, online dating will consume you and you\u2019ll lose because you\u2019ll soon start appearing needy and desperate.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Online dating should be something you do on the side for now until romance genuinely begins to bloom.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h3 class=\"wp-block-heading\">15. Have Patience&nbsp;<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<p>Lastly, and following on from the above point, have patience with this. You won\u2019t meet someone straight off the bat, and it might even be a few days before you get your first genuine message.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might have a few bad dates too but that's the part of game, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Learn to left swipe on profiles of other profile because you don't need to rush otherwise you will only bad first dates.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Time is on your side. Just have patience.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"pro-tip\">Use these 15 online dating tips to get yourself started on the online dating scene. There\u2019s a lot to take in here, but the main things are that you be yourself; that you remain confident; that you\u2019re fun and positive; and that you put the best version of yourself out there.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Once you\u2019ve decided to find your next date online, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed by how much hard work you have to put &#8230; <\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more-container\"><a title=\"15 BEST Online Dating Tips 0f 2023 For Men &#038; Women\" class=\"read-more button\" href=\"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/online-dating-tips\/#more-2418\" aria-label=\"More on 15 BEST Online Dating Tips 0f 2023 For Men &#038; Women\">Read more<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":8,"featured_media":2474,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2418","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-online-dating","generate-columns","tablet-grid-50","mobile-grid-100","grid-parent","grid-50","resize-featured-image"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2418"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/8"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2418"}],"version-history":[{"count":12,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2418\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":16377,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2418\/revisions\/16377"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2474"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2418"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2418"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2418"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}