{"id":2460,"date":"2023-08-20T09:52:04","date_gmt":"2023-08-20T09:52:04","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/?p=2460"},"modified":"2023-08-13T03:03:12","modified_gmt":"2023-08-13T03:03:12","slug":"online-dating-first-message-tips","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/online-dating-first-message-tips\/","title":{"rendered":"10+ Online Dating First Message Examples That Work"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
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Prepping to send your first message on a dating app to that cute someone who\u2019s caught your eye? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I know how it is – it\u2019s exciting and<\/em> scary. You\u2019re eager to catch their eye and get the conversation started, but you\u2019re afraid that what you write won\u2019t be compelling enough.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your heart beating wildly, all kinds of thoughts race through your mind: What if I screw this up? What if I write something so lame that they don\u2019t reply? Dammit.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Well, let\u2019s flip that:<\/strong> What if you write something so gosh darn awesome they can\u2019t help but<\/em> reply?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But we get it. Crafting that first online dating message is daunting. Because that opening message is so crucial to getting a reply, it has to be done right. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Depending on dating apps and dating sites you're using and what your bio mentions, the openers can vary. So, we have shared plenty of examples that you can simply copy and paste.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

12 Online Dating First Messages Examples<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

First Message Strategy #1: Introduce Yourself The Right Way<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s a LOT to be said for introducing yourself in your first message, and yet so many people don\u2019t do it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why not? Well, perhaps they just forget. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But here\u2019s the thing: Introducing yourself is basic online dating etiquette<\/a> and it\u2019s exactly <\/em>what you\u2019d do in most other real-life social scenarios.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just picture yourself at a networking event, for example. What\u2019s the first thing you might say to someone you\u2019ve met that night? Maybe you\u2019ll open with a wry observation of something that happened that night, but the most likely option you\u2019ll take is to introduce yourself. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey! I\u2019m Chloe :)\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s that simple and<\/em> it\u2019s safe and risk-free. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

First Message Strategy #2: Introduce Yourself With a Twist <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If a simple hello seems too<\/em> safe and risk-free, you can be a little bit more adventurous should you wish.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I often like to open with a quick joke before transitioning to my introduction. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIs it just me or *insert witty observation here* \u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHa. Hi! I\u2019m Will.<\/em>\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Starting with a joke is a little bit more exciting and it helps to build rapport before going in with the introduction line. If cracking a joke isn\u2019t your forte (at least online) then you can try something a bit different. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like this:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHola! I\u2019m sad to say that\u2019s the only Spanish I know<\/em> :(.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHa. Hey, I\u2019m Julia. How\u2019s it going?<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whatever you decide to open with, following it with your intro is always a smart idea because it encourages them to do the same. All of a sudden, you\u2019ve both introduced yourselves and a small connection has been made. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moreover, introducing yourself shows you\u2019ve got basic manners. It looks so<\/em> much better than leading with something like this: \u201cWhat\u2019s up?<\/strong><\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Check this article to find 50 great Text Conversation Starters To Go Beyond \u201cHey\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

First Message Strategy #3: Use Their Name <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Addressing them by their name in your first message shows that you\u2019ve taken the care to actually read their online dating profile properly, and it shows that this is definitely not a generic message. Even though it\u2019s such a small thing, it can help to build rapport and a feeling of warmth straight away. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey Mike!<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, you can work on introducing yourself. Like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey Mike! I\u2019m Lydia.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First Message Strategy #4: Tell Them It\u2019s Nice To Meet Them <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, you have to be a bit clever with how you write your message so that you get a response.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, you could plant a seed in their subconscious mind that\u2019s designed to encourage them to respond.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Example:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey Mike! I\u2019m Lydia. Nice to meet you.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

By using that simple phrase – it\u2019s nice to meet you<\/em> – you\u2019re assuming<\/em> they\u2019re going to reply. This assumption can be very powerful on a subconscious level as it\u2019s saying to them that, yeah, it\u2019s really nice to meet you<\/em>, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

First Message Strategy #5: Pick Up On Something On Their Profile <\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When you pick up on something that\u2019s unique to their profile, you\u2019re demonstrating that you\u2019ve taken the time to read their profile properly and that you\u2019re not just using the same copy-and-paste message you use on other people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is, of course, impossible to do if they haven\u2019t written anything in their bio and have pretty boring pics. If that\u2019s the case, well, my question is this: Why would you message them at all? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I\u2019m stuck for something to say in my opener to someone, I take a look at their bio and pick something out to comment on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Admittedly, this kind of thing can require some mental gymnastics. For example, if they\u2019ve written something like \u201cNetflix, wine, and cheese,\u201d you don\u2019t have a lot to go off. But there\u2019s something<\/em> there at least and you just need to use your imagination.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Examples:<\/strong><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cHey, I noticed you like Netflix too. Pleaseeeee tell me you were as sad as I was that Stranger Things ended!!<\/em>\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf haloumi isn\u2019t in your top 3 cheeses we can\u2019t be friends.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

First Message Strategy #6: Ask Them a Question\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

One of the easiest ways to get a response from someone is to ask a question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That said, your question has to be at least one of these things:<\/p>\n\n\n\n