Bumble is one of the most popular dating apps worldwide. It\u2019s used by well over 30 million people, many of whom are either looking for dates, mates – or even love. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
30 million people, of course, are a LOT of people. With that many people using Bumble,<\/a> how hard can it be to land a date? <\/p>\n\n\n\n As it turns out, it can be really<\/em> hard if you don\u2019t get past the first hurdle. Namely, the icebreaker\/first message.<\/p>\n\n\n\n See, starting a conversation on a dating app can be tough. What on earth do you say to a guy you\u2019ve never met before, and to who you\u2019re already attracted? <\/p>\n\n\n\n What opening lines<\/a> should you use to generate instant interest and move the conversation forward? After all, if you get this wrong, your match might not even respond to you! And that would really suck. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The good news for you is that I myself have been using (and succeeding on) Bumble for a number of years. I\u2019ve received a tonne of opening messages from women and I know what works and what doesn\u2019t work<\/strong><\/span>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n So come join me as I take a look at the…<\/p>\n\n\n\n Picture it: You\u2019re having a terrible day. Everyone sucks. Your boss hates you and you hate your boss. Your best friend has canceled your night out. You got soaked on the way home from work in the rain. Everyone is arguing over politics.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n EVERYTHING SUCKS. <\/p>\n\n\n\n And then, there\u2019s a ray of light all of a sudden – your match on Bumble has just sent you a super positive opening message, which reminds you that there are good, happy-go-lucky people in this world after all. Hallelujah! <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you can\u2019t think of anything else to say in your opening lines, at least be positive. No one likes Debbie Downer!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, you could say something like \u201cHey! We made it! We matched on Bumble! GO US.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s just cute, it\u2019s fun and it sends really good vibes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You could even say something like, \u201cAre you loving this sunny weather as much as I am?!\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n Who doesn\u2019t <\/em>want to travel more? <\/p>\n\n\n\n It might be a cliche but opening with a question like \u201cwhere are you traveling next?\u201d is always a great way to start a conversation.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, if they\u2019ve got an interesting job, start by asking them if they enjoy it and what made them decide to do that job. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Showing interest in them early on is a great way to elicit a response on Bumble.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I must admit that the first time a woman used this line on me, I loved<\/em> it. I couldn\u2019t wait to reply with \u201cjust sitting here, waiting for you! Lol.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s a simple line but it\u2019s one that probably gets results 9 times out of 10. And it goes like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cWhere have you been all my life?!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Yup – that\u2019s literally all you have to say. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Why does it work so well? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Because it\u2019s so flirtatious straight off the bat. It beats the usual, boring \u201chello\u201d and it shows that you\u2019re a bundle of fun. It\u2019s also direct enough to say \u201cI\u2019m attracted to you\u201d without being too<\/em> direct (after all, a line like \u201cyou\u2019re hot\u201d is corny and rarely ever produces results). <\/p>\n\n\n\n This one could backfire if they say \u2018this one!\u2019 But even then, it\u2019s a surefire sign that they\u2019re flirting with you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Other than that, it\u2019s just a really fun way to start a conversation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Everyone<\/em> likes people who can make them laugh, and kicking things off with a joke can be a great way to get your match to respond.<\/p>\n\n\n\n My advice would be that you don\u2019t go with your own joke (unless it\u2019s really, really great), but instead use an already existing joke that\u2019s guaranteed to make someone laugh. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Personally, I like to go with a knock-knock joke. It elicits curiosity because most people can\u2019t help but find out who\u2019s at the door. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Complete your joke ASAP. Don\u2019t keep it going too long! <\/p>\n\n\n\n A girl once used this opening line on me:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cYour parents won\u2019t like me. Does that bother you?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019ve gotta admit – I was damn intrigued! <\/p>\n\n\n\n Mystery ALWAYS works. As long as you do it right, you\u2019re onto a winner. <\/p>\n\n\n\n One of the reasons I<\/em> sometimes don\u2019t respond to opening messages is because I just know the woman has used the same opening line elsewhere. Generic messages are easy to spot, and they often look something like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cHey, how are you?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cIf you could travel anywhere in the world right now, where would it be?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n Boring<\/em>. And generic.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s a good idea to take something from their profile (either one of their pics or their bio) and mention it. This shows that you\u2019ve taken the time to properly check them out, and it makes your opening message more unique. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Truth or Dare is ALWAYS sexy. So if you\u2019re looking for a hookup, it\u2019s a great way to start a conversation on Bumble. <\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019ll be honest, not every guy will reply to this one. But it\u2019s a daring, confident opening line that could lead to some serious flirting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n And when a girl used it on me, I definitely replied. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The thing with dealbreakers is that they can be really serious or just fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A serious deal-breaker looks like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI have two snakes. Don\u2019t like snakes? Don\u2019t match me. Simple.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n The problem with a serious deal breaker is that it\u2019s way too negative and confrontational for Bumble. Instead, it\u2019s a much better idea to make a fun dealbreaker. Like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cI hate<\/em> pineapples on pizza. Please let me know your thoughts on this so that we can either get married or say our goodbyes now.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is a really fun opening line that\u2019s almost guaranteed to work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The biggest problem you might have is figuring out where to take the conversation next. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But honestly, you could just talk in emojis right up until the date, no? <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is an actual opening line a girl once sent me – and I have to admit, I admired her efforts!<\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s a cute, somewhat funny conversation starter that got me to reply. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Essentially, she was pretending that her Bumble was broken just so that I would reply. And when I did (and I acted like Prince Charming who had come along to save the day), we started flirting like crazy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Everyone<\/em> has a spirit animal, and asking for your match's spirit animal is typically a good way to get a conversation going. It\u2019s a question that sparks a lot of interest because it gives you instant insights into someone\u2019s personality. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Speaking of animals – if they\u2019ve got a dog in one of their pics, they\u2019re literally saying to you that they want to talk about them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Even if you just ask for their dog\u2019s name, it\u2019s a great way to break the ice. And if you\u2019ve got a dog, too, it\u2019s even better!<\/p>\n\n\n\n This opening line is a bit naughty – but naughty is a great way to start flirting right off the bat. Plus, you\u2019re stroking the guy\u2019s ego, which is usually always a winner. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Whilst being funny and lighthearted works a lot of the time, there\u2019s still something to be said for hitting your match with a deeper question straight off the bat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n For example, a woman once asked me what my favorite podcast was in her opening message. She said she enjoys listening to podcasts as they help her learn things, and she wanted to know what I listened to. I liked the question because it helped us to transition to an actual proper<\/em> conversation. Eventually, we started to banter, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You could get serious by asking him what his thoughts are on the meaning of life (or podcasts). Or, you could try and create an emotional bond immediately by asking him to tell you something about himself. Like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n Two truths and one lie. You go first. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lastly, in those moments when you legit have absolutely nothing to say in your opening message, you can always just reel out a GIF. But the GIF must be funny and\/or cute. Animal GIFs usually always work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Actually, one final tip before I go – never<\/em> use their name in your opening message. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Why not? <\/p>\n\n\n\n Because it makes it look way too formal and weird. Example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cHey, Jason!\u201d <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Just no. <\/p>\n\n\n\n This is something you might didn't expect me to list, right? See, on dating apps like Bumble, there are so many people that are desperately trying to stand out. And, in the process, they have abandoned originality and basic communication skills.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, as a dating and relationship coach, I would suggest you that don't be fake. You can send simple greetings and it would be a good way to stand out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Inside Scoop:<\/strong> How To Respond To \u201cHey\u201d On Bumble?<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n Takeaway<\/strong>: Starting a conversation on Bumble is pretty daunting because no one wants to lose a hot match! Use the tips in this article to start your next conversation but make sure that, whatever tactic you decide to implement, your messages are always original.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bumble is one of the most popular dating apps worldwide. It\u2019s used by well over 30 million people, many of whom are either looking for … <\/p>\nBumble conversation starters to Start a Conversation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Be Positive Straight Off The Bat <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2. Talk About Travelling <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3. Take An Interest In Them <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
4. Where Have You Been All My Life?!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
5. \u201cWhat\u2019s the worst opening line you\u2019ve ever received?\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
6. Start With a Joke <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
7. Be Mysterious <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
8. Personalize Things <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
9. Truth or Dare<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
10. Ask Them Why They Swiped For You <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
11. Send a Dealbreaker <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
12. \u201cDescribe Yourself In 3 Emojis\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
13. \u201cI think my Bumble is broken, can you help me?\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
14. Ask If They Have a Spirit Animal <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
15. Talk About Dogs <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
16. \u201cI used my last match on you before my battery died. You\u2019ve at least gotta talk to me now.\u201d <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
17. Get Serious Straight Away<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
18. Or At Least Create an Emotional Bond <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
19. Send a Funny GIF <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
20. Don\u2019t Use Their Name <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
21. Simple Greeting<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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