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Here\u2019s the deal:<\/strong> OkCupid is one of the best dating apps out there. I use it, and\u00a0millions<\/em>\u00a0of others use it to land new mates, new dates – and even love.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, it doesn\u2019t matter how good a dating app is if you don\u2019t even know how to start a conversation! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I get it. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Lots of people find that they have no problem landing matches on OkCupid, but what they\u2019re struggling with is turning those matches into genuine conversations where there\u2019s a connection, a spark, and even something more.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve been using OkCupid for a few years now. And I know how you feel – getting people to reply to your first OkCupid message isn\u2019t easy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I\u2019ve learned several tricks along the way, and I now know what works and what doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So join me as I take a look at the…<\/p>\n\n\n\n

20 Best OkCupid Openers to Start The Conversation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

1. Would You Rather?\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Asking a question is one of the best OkCupid openers because it is one of the few OkCupid messages that get responses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But I find that one of the easiest ways to get someone to reply is to open with a \u201cWould you rather?\u201d type question. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s what I mean<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sunset or sunrise? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Night in or a night out? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cuddles or kisses?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

The trick is to NOT be creepy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, don\u2019t ask something like \u201cMake out on the first date or not make out on the first date?\u201d\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just ask them for something light and uncomplicated.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Point Something Out From Their OkCupid Profile<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

As you might have noticed, OkCupid profiles are often very<\/em> detailed<\/a>. Users have taken the time to fill out their bios to make themselves look more interesting. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So why not show some online dating etiquette<\/a> by mentioning someone in their profile? <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI love Breaking Bad more!\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSo you like to read Austen? What else do you read besides classics?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThat is a beautiful dog with you in the picture. So, are you a dog person?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. “I will Admit it”<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Another thing I\u2019ve noticed over the years on OkCupid is that people appreciate realness. While exuding confidence is obviously advantageous in the dating world, there\u2019s a lot to be said for realness. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ll admit it – I\u2019ve never done online dating before. You\u2019re the first person I\u2019ve ever messaged! I\u2019m kinda nervous haha. How\u2019s it going? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. \u201cWe\u2019ve Got Over The First Hurdle \u2026\u201d\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Everyone knows that landing a match doesn\u2019t guarantee that you\u2019ll get along with your match. So you could try something like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Okay, so we\u2019ve matched. But there\u2019s still work to be done. Shall we see if we actually get along? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Defer To Their Wisdom<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve found that one of the best ways to get a response on OKCupid is to ask for help. Like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hey, I noticed you\u2019re a massive movie lover. I\u2019m trying to get into movies haha but obviously don\u2019t know as much as you do. Any recommendations? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Ask Them About Their Weekend<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Sometimes, people appreciate a simple opening line. Like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hey, how\u2019s your weekend going? <\/em> <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Be Open-Minded\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Another thing worth mentioning about OkCupid is that the people who use this dating app tend to be very open-minded. As such, it\u2019s a good idea to show your own open-mindedness in your opening message. Like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Do you enjoy debating anything and everything as much as I do while remaining friends afterward because you know that two people who otherwise get along can actually debate things rationally and calmly? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

8. Be Funny!\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Funny and cheeky often work really well on an app like OkCupid. For example, you could try something like this: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

We matched! Does this mean we\u2019re a couple now? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

9. Start With a Joke\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

As well as being funny, you could actually start with one of your favorite jokes. Interactive jokes work best on an app like OkCupid, such as \u201cKnock Knock\u201d jokes because they elicit curiosity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The other person HAS to answer to find out the punchline!\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

10. Be a Tease\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s what I mean: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hey, I was going to open with a really dramatic, existential question, but then I realized that would be too heavy for a dating site! So, hi! <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve tried this line a few times, and most times the girl will respond with, \u201cHa! Now I want to know what you were going to write!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s just an easy way to elicit curiosity on their part. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

11. Truth or Dare<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Truth or Dare can be a really flirtatious game if you get it right. Just make sure your questions aren\u2019t too heavy or too private. Keep it fun! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

12. Be a Little Bit Freaky\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I have to admit that this one won\u2019t always work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But if you know you\u2019re a bit weird and wish to celebrate your weirdness with an equally weird person, there\u2019s no reason why you can\u2019t try something a bit freaky and left field now and then. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like this:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

If I was a marshmallow, what would you do to me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pro tip: OkCupid is full of open-minded people who enjoy exploring their sexuality. So a bit of freakiness can sometimes work. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

13. Compliment Them (But Be Original)\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

I remember the first time *I* got complimented in the first message on OkCupid. Instead of the usual, \u201cyou\u2019re so hot\u201d line that literally gets no one anywhere (but makes them look a bit silly), a girl said this to me: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

How do you get your hair to quiff like that?! Tips please, it\u2019s amazing!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

This is a great way to pay someone a compliment in your opening message without looking cliche or disturbing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

14. Be An Introverts Dream\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Another thing to bear in mind about OkCupid is that it has a good balance of introverts and extroverts (I\u2019d say there are far more introverts on here, though). As such, you won\u2019t go too wrong if you ask something like this in your opening message:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Favorite book? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

15. Find Out Why They\u2019re On OkCupid\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you want to know more about what they\u2019re looking for, you could open with a question like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why did you choose OkCupid? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Their answer could reveal whether the two of you have the same motivations and aims. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

16. Pay Homage To The Stars<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Even if you don\u2019t believe in horoscopes, you could still try an OkCupid opener like this:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The stars said that I would meet someone beautiful today and we would be together forever. Wow. They\u2019re not wrong, are they? When should we get married? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

17. Ask If They Want To Begin the Conversation\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s what I mean: <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don't have any idea what to say in an opening message! Do you want to start? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s cute, it\u2019s cheeky, it\u2019s a little bit funny – and it\u2019s a fantastic online dating icebreaker<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

18. Bond With An Embarrassing Reveal\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

NOTHING helps two strangers bond more than an embarrassing reveal:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s your most embarrassing first date moment so far? <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

19. Just Be Direct (But Cute)\u00a0<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019d be VERY weird to go on a first date after just one message, but there\u2019s nothing wrong with being really direct (but obviously joking) in your opening message. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Like this:<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just popping into the pub. What do you want? I\u2019ll save you a seat. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You could change it to a \u201ccoffee house\u201d if you prefer. Either way, this opening line shows confidence, and it shows that you\u2019re up for a bit of straight talk (which many people appreciate). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Plus, they\u2019ll know you\u2019re not being serious. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

20. Or Just Say Hi!<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

If you really can\u2019t think of anything else to say, just say hi – but be a bit different. For example, how about Hola!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Similar articles (check out for examples)<\/p>\n\n\n\n