{"id":7541,"date":"2023-08-08T04:38:30","date_gmt":"2023-08-08T04:38:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/?p=7541"},"modified":"2023-08-09T18:42:40","modified_gmt":"2023-08-09T18:42:40","slug":"how-to-go-down-on-a-woman","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/datingxp.co\/how-to-go-down-on-a-woman\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Steps Guide: How to Go Down on a Woman For The First Time?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n
Your ability to go down on your partner could make or break your relationship. Yes, it\u2019s that<\/em> important. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Which means it\u2019s really important that you get this right. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Indeed, research has shown<\/a> that straight women have fewer orgasms than anyone else. This is certainly because straight men (unlike lesbians) simply haven\u2019t mastered the art of knowing exactly what a woman wants between the sheets. But once you master the art of going down on a woman, you can make her wet and increase both your sexual enjoyment.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n Of course, some men naturally shy away from going down on a woman. But know this: Your partner wants<\/em> you to go down on her. Not only does going down on a girl feel intensely pleasurable, but it also shows her that you care about her<\/em> when you\u2019re having sex. You want her to feel good<\/em>.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n That all said, while going down on a woman isn\u2019t rocket science, it is<\/em> an art. There are things a woman needs\/wants, as well as things a woman doesn\u2019t need\/want. If you\u2019re inexperienced or clumsy, your partner will notice immediately – and it will turn her off. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you\u2019re feeling nervous about going down on a girl right now and want only to leave her feeling satisfied, the good news is that we\u2019ve created an article just for you. In this guide to how to go down on a girl, we\u2019ve been talking to sex experts and women about the art of pleasuring a woman below. By the end of the article, you will be more confident about going down on your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Let\u2019s make a start.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Create a beautiful environment before you go down on a woman. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Clean up your space, set up candles, and make it feel sacred and luscious.\u00a0Doing this will lower her defense and open up her ability to receive so that she can fully feel your attention. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Women feel an experience through all of their senses, so use that to your advantage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This is great advice coming from, Cailin McDuff<\/a>, the host of the top-rated sexuality podcast, Any Way You Want It<\/em><\/a>, where loyal fans tune in regularly for her authentic, fresh, and edgy conversations about sex, relationships, and life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n “If you want to be a master of cunnilingus, there is one simple rule. Ask her what she likes.<\/strong>” – Jessica Graham, sex & relationship coach and author of Good Sex: Getting Off without Checking Out<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Every woman is different. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If you are a very sensitive lover, with lots of tricks up your sleeve, you may be able to sense what works and what doesn't, to a point<\/em>. But keep in mind that sexual desires and pleasure can change and just because something worked for the first year of a relationship doesn't mean it does now. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Also, most women are quite good at faking it, so it's best to be explicit and simply ask. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If she is uncomfortable with being asked what feels good, this is normal. Most of us didn't learn to communicate about sexual pleasure. It can take time to develop the skill of talking about sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You might consider asking her about what she likes when you are\u00a0not<\/em>\u00a0having sex. That can feel a little less vulnerable and make it easier to be open.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n Most women have fears about how they smell or taste, as well as how long it takes them to climax. If you want to set your woman's mind and vulva at ease, lift your head up and say this: “You smell amazing. You taste amazing. I could do this for hours.<\/em>” Then get back down there. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The more relaxed and secure she feels about you going down on her, the more pleasure she will experience. <\/p>\n\n\n\n “Try different movements of the tongue to find what she likes. It could be slow and long<\/strong>, or fast and quick<\/strong>. Once that is established you start off slowly and gently as the clitoris is very sensitive with thousands of nerve endings.” – Candice Cooper-Lovett<\/a>, Ph.D., LMFT, CLC, Sex Therapist.<\/p>\n\n\n\n It can be more of a slow-motion tongue\u00a0action between all the folds of the inner and outer labia in addition to the clitoris to start and as she gets more aroused you can focus more on the clitoris either using quick flicking licks or long circular licks. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Paying attention to her body language and sounds, let her direct you in what she likes as well. I share with my clients who own vulvas that it's okay to grab their partners by the ears or hair to let them know how they want to be pleased. As well as the partner listening to what she says when communicating and through her moans. <\/p>\n\n\n\n You can try the following movements\/motions with your tongue<\/a>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n When she begins to orgasm do not stop but continue to please her until she says she's finished. Some women may not need an orgasm during oral sex but some may just want the experienced pleasure and the orgasm as the cherry on top. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The clitoris is very sensitive after orgasm so some women may need their partner to take a small break if they want them to continue with performing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Getting creative and using your fingers while using your mouth can increase the amount of sensation because you're covering more area. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Additionally, you can also use your nose to move up and down. Make sure to show your enthusiasm. If you're enjoying yourself, let out some moans, groans, or any sound that indicates that you are enjoying going down on your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jessica Gordon, the managing partner at online boutique LUVOQA<\/a>, further added that “Don't forget to have patience – sometimes the best things happen after a nice slow buildup. If you're not sure how to go down on a woman, it can be helpful to look at some of the most popular sex toys that simulate oral sex.” <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\nHere's How to Go Down on a Woman:<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Create The Environment Before You Start<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
2. Ask Her What She likes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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3. Try Different Tongue Movements<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
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4. Make Use of Your Nose & Fingers <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
5. Communicate While You Go Down on Her<\/h3>\n\n\n\n