In this article, we\u2019ll be taking a look at what these 21 sexual tension signs are. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But first \u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What's Sexual Tension?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
There is no clinical definition of sexual tension, however, there are typical physiological signs when sexual tension occurs. Increased heart rate, increased body temperature, nervousness\/anxiety, and a shift in vocal patterns are all common indicators that sexual tension is present, according to AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Indigo Stray Conger<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n These physiological signals are responses to pheromones, which are little-understood chemicals that our bodies release to prime the sexual excitation system. Others' pheromones are perceived by our olfactory senses on an unconscious level and catalyze our own pheromone release<\/p>\n\n\n\n Once our excitation system is engaged and we directly interact with someone with whom we have sexual desire, we begin to incorporate the limbic systems in our brains into the response cycle. When our limbic systems interact with other limbic systems through eye contact, physical touch, belly laughter, or playful roughhousing our bodies release dopamine, norepinephrine, and oxytocin (all the good stuff!). <\/p>\n\n\n\n This kind of mutual connection is the next step up from sexual tension – commonly referred to as “new relationship energy” or, more scientifically, limerence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The thing with sexual tension is that it can happen to just about anyone, regardless of your relationship with one another. It can happen between friends, colleagues – and of course dates. It\u2019s usually caused by a build-up of sexual attraction between two people. When two people find each other sexually attractive, they do things that keep the fire of passion burning and burning until, eventually, there must be a release.<\/p>\n\n\n\n You can tell if sexual tension is mutual by analyzing the body language – is there eye contact? Smiling? Leaning in? Subtle Touching? Over texting:<\/strong> ask a flirty question and if they flirt back, there is likely reciprocation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n “There will be certain energy between the two of you when together or apart. Pay attention to the tone of voice or text, and the words used. In texting\/messaging – how quickly do they respond? This is one way to gauge interest. Do they suggest meeting up or putting off a meeting? If you wonder if someone is into you, they probably aren't.” Dr. Tari Mack<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n A good rule of thumb when it comes to working out whether or not there is sexual tension is to check for eye contact. If they\u2019re staring at you in the eyes as they talk to you, it\u2019s a sign that they\u2019re sexually attracted to you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Eye contact is one thing, but if they remove their gaze from your eyes for a moment and move your lips, it\u2019s a huge sign that they\u2019re lusting after you. Right at that moment, they\u2019re probably thinking about all the things they\u2019d love to do to you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When you\u2019re talking to someone you fancy, check to see if your mind wanders onto naughtier things. For example, if you\u2019re speaking to them and you suddenly find yourself fantasizing about them, it\u2019s a sign that sexual tension is brewing – at least on your part. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Body language is very important when it comes to spotting sexual tension, so pay attention to what they do with their hands. If they playfully or subtly touch you, be it a punch on the shoulder or a hand resting on your knee momentarily, it can mean that things are hotting up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The easiest way to increase sexual tension is by flirting. Think about it – would you flirt with a close friend? Not really because a) you don\u2019t want to have sex with them and b) it\u2019d be weird. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But once you start flirting with someone you fancy and they flirt back, sexual tension is apparent. It\u2019s clear that something<\/em> is developing between the two of you, and that both of you have your minds on sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Yes, two people can smile around each other without wanting sex. But if the two of you literally can\u2019t help grinning throughout your conversation, it\u2019s another sign of sexual tension.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Look out for cheeky grins and smirks, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Someone once said that when a man on a woman enjoying a date laughs a lot, the next step is sex. That\u2019s not always<\/em> true, of course. But a telltale sign that sexual tension is heating up is laughter.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you laugh at their jokes and they laugh at yours, and especially if the two of you are almost falling over with laughter, it can mean that there\u2019s something more than friendship developing here. <\/p>\n\n\n\n As well as flirting with each other, teasing each other is a strong sign of sexual attraction. Teasing is a form of playful behavior. It\u2019s completely harmless but it ups the ante when we\u2019re on a date with someone because it\u2019s always<\/em> a sign that we fancy them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Again, just think about it: Would you tease someone that you\u2019re really not interested in? They wouldn\u2019t be worth the effort. <\/p>\n\n\n\n It\u2019s not enough that you have a regular dream about someone where you do regular, everyday things. When it comes to sexual tension, your dream has to be sexual.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If then, you go to bed and have an x-rated dream about this person, it means that, at least on your part, sexual tension is hotting up and you probably want to take this to the next, steamy level. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Hugging becomes awkward because you\u2019re suddenly not sure whether to hug – or kiss. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Have you ever noticed the way you hug a friend? It\u2019s totally natural. You hug them tight, you say \u201csee you later,\u201d and then walk away. <\/p>\n\n\n\n But when there\u2019s a sexual vibe, a hug becomes different. Maybe you prolong it a little bit longer, look into each other\u2019s eyes, gaze at their lips – and wonder what to do next. <\/p>\n\n\n\n (Or their voice changes)<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you noticed that your voice or their voice is suddenly higher than usual, or if there\u2019s suddenly a nervous tremor, it can<\/em> be a sign of sexual tension. In fact, science has even proven <\/a>that sexual tension modifies our voices. <\/p>\n\n\n\n When sexual tension is brewing, the last<\/em> thing anyone wants to do is call the date quits and go home. So if you notice that they appear to be hesitating about going home – perhaps they\u2019re asking you for one last drink – it\u2019s a sign that they\u2019re more than interested in you. Perhaps they want to continue the date, but elsewhere \u2026 <\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes, it takes our friends to point out how well we\u2019re getting along with someone before we even notice it. If your friends can see that there\u2019s sexual tension between the two of you, you\u2019d better start believing it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If your date says to you that you \u201csmell good\u201d tonight, take this as a sign of sexual tension. We\u2019re biologically designed to react to smells, and a good smell, such as cologne or perform, can turn a person on and put them in the mood for sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n And while someone loving the way you smell doesn\u2019t always signal sexual tension, if they actively tell you that you smell good, you should take it as a sign. <\/p>\n\n\n\n The closer the two of you get to one another during your date, the clearer the signs of sexual tension. And we don\u2019t just mean closer in terms of getting to know one another – we mean it in terms of how physically close you are. If you, for instance, notice them leaning in as they talk to you to get into close proximity, it\u2019s a sign that things are heating up – and they probably want to get even closer to you. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Is it normal to compliment a friend? Yes, of course. But complimenting when the two of you are feeling sexually tense is different. There are lots<\/em> of compliments – some will be subtle, others will be clear. These compliments are genuine and it\u2019s a sign that the two of you want to know each other more. <\/p>\n\n\n\n If the conversation turns to sex all of a sudden, you should see this as a sign. The conversation could be cheeky, flirty, or even a bit serious. Either way, sex is a naughty topic and it can\u2019t do anything else other than put the two of you in the mood for sex – probably with each other. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Some people describe feeling giddy as feeling as though there are butterflies in your stomach. Others say it\u2019s like being a teenager again, experiencing love or lust for the first time. However you define it, if you start to feel a bit giddy when you\u2019re on a date and feel a sort of nervousness in your stomach, it can signify sexual tension. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Ever notice that you\u2019re talking to your date \u2026 when all of a sudden your mind literally wanders? Maybe you start fantasizing about them and imagining what they look like naked. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Or, maybe your eyes wander – while you\u2019re trying hard to focus on what they\u2019re saying, you can\u2019t keep your eyes off their chest\/legs\/lips. <\/p>\n\n\n\n A huge sign of sexual tension is when one of you goes red in the face. You\u2019re hot, you\u2019re bothered and now you\u2019re flushing. This is because adrenaline is coursing through your body – and you\u2019re massively turned on right now. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Lastly, sexual tension is a feeling deep within us. If you know that there is a mutual attraction between the two of you and intuitively feel it in your gut, you\u2019re probably right. As such, the next thing to do is to act on it – preferably as soon as possible. <\/p>\n\n\n\nWhat Causes Sexual Tension?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
How Do I Tell If The Sexual Tension is Mutual?<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
21 Tell-Tale Sexual Tension Signs: <\/h2>\n\n\n\n
1. Prolonged Eye Contact <\/h3>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n2. Their Gaze Wanders To Your Lips <\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
3. Your Mind Wanders <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
4. They Touch You <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
5. The Two Of You Flirt<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
6. You Both Smile a Lot <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
7. You Both Laugh a Lot, Too <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
8. You Tease Each Other <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
9. You Dream About Them <\/em><\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n
10. You Two Hug But Awkwardly<\/h3>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n11. Your Voice Changes <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
12. Neither Of You Wants To Go Home<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
13. Your Friends Have Mentioned It <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
14. They Love How You Smell <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
15. The Two Of You Get Up, Close and Personal <\/h3>\n\n\n
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<\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n16. There Are Lots of Compliments<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
17. You Talk About Sex <\/h3>\n\n\n\n
18. You Feel Giddy<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
19. You Get Distracted<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
20. You Feel Flustered<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
21. You Just Know <\/h3>\n\n\n
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