How to Find a Fuck Buddy (7 Common Places)

Most girls and guys out there are not finding the right chances to have sex often and this is because they either don’t understand how to establish a friend-with-benefits relationship or are not very successful in seducing anyone.

Or, they don’t know how to take one sexual encounter and multiply it into many.

If they do get to get laid a few times, they wouldn’t know how to convert that relationship into a no-strings-attached fuck buddy one. 

If everything goes well and you have managed to establish constant, regular sex, there is still this looming concern of keeping that relationship going. Many things can again ruin this relationship.

How can you manage it?

There are no manuals on how to keep a fuck buddy, even if we have manuals for almost everything today. 

This article will tell you how to find one and keep one. We will talk about the rules, but first, we will cover a few things.

What is a Fuck Buddy?

Any person who you can have sex with without the involvement of any non-sexual interaction, marital expectations, commitment, or exclusivity, is a fuck buddy. This person will not ask why you don’t see them more often or if they look good in that dress. A fuck buddy, or a friend with benefits, is not the most significant person in your life and you are not to their life either. This kind of arrangement is just to satisfy each other’s sexual requirements, and that is it, nothing more!

Remember This Before You Find a Fuck Buddy

If you want to have sex on a casual and regular basis, you need to be confident. You have to be confident all the time; you have to move confidently, speak confidently, and mostly, be able to have sex confidently.

But why is confidence so critical?

It is essential because if you hesitate for even one moment, if you are not able to make proper eye contact, or if your voice cracks, it will destroy your possibility of finding that fuck buddy. 

When you meet someone, you have to ensure they know what you are looking for. They need to know that you only want sex and not a relationship. 

7 Places where can find fuck buddies

1. FWB Dating Apps

Though you can always find a fuck buddy through your roommates and friends, through social events, but the easiest way to find a fuck buddy is through FWB dating apps. Since there are way too many scams around (read: “Hot singles in your area!”) check this list of FWB apps that will find you a fuck buddy through safe, legitimate means.

2. College Campuses

College campuses are filled with men and women willing to sexually explore. If you are someone who goes to college right now, then you should be catching complete advantage of all potential for finding a fuck buddy for yourself.

3. Social Events

This involves birthday parties, weddings, or housewarming parties. As a rule that governs our lives, your chances of a sexual encounter are more if you manage to go to more social events.

4. Coffee Shop or Bookstore

​People manage to spend hours in the very spot for some time, and it is reserved. For instance, you can walk into a Starbucks, and see someone drawing for hours. You can walk over and ask what they are doing, which will begin a conversation. You get their number, and within some days, you can add them to your sex roster. 

5. Mutual Hobbies

Say, if you like rock climbing, then you can meet someone at a rock climbing gym. If you wish to spend your weekend at a salsa class, then let someone dance back with you in your bedroom. Women like to see men do something they are good at. Men like seeing women share their interests. So, the more talented you are at your chosen hobby, the better your opportunities are of having sex often. 

6. Nightclubs or Bars

Bars and nightclubs are mostly for one-night stands, but it is still probable to expand that intoxicated sexual encounter into more. With that done, bars and nightclubs often need plenty of cold approaches. Like sportspeople know that not every kick will reach the goal, you too must be prepared to face some failures before succeeding.

7. Friends and Roommates

This has a low percentage of getting you a friend with benefits, but low doesn't mean NO chance. If you are in your mid-twenties and you share a room with someone, you can meet someone who is in transit, like a sudden career change. This means your hookup buddy system would mean nothing to you and them. They would not mind if you are not exclusive, and if you or they leave, you can move on with your lives.

How to Keep a Fuck Buddy?

Now, if you found the person to have your no-strings-attached arrangement with, there are some FWB rules you NEED to follow. Be Clear About Your Intentions

When you keep things casual, it does not mean you turn all cool and go along with whatever they want. Speak up and advocate for what you want to. Be transparent, open to compromise, talk to each other, be honest, and don’t be judgemental. 

  • Don’t Have Any Expectations For a Relationship

Be absolutely sure you are cool with the arrangement and nothing more. It is critical to be aware of your true feelings and intentions when you begin this arrangement.

  • Review Every Now and Then With How You’re Feeling

Let your fuck buddy know that you want to ensure you both are on the same page. This is a crucial step to ensuring you don’t hurt each other’s feelings in time. If at any moment, you realize you’re enjoying this too much and wish to spend more time with them, it’s time you reevaluate the circumstances. 

  • Set Some Ground Rules

Will you or they be sleeping over? Is either of you okay with booty calls? Is getting breakfast together a bit too strange for you? All such things might cross boundaries for some, so set some ground rules before you begin anything. 

Sex can be an excellent method to destress, and it is plenty of fun. And the best thing is you can stop this arrangement any time you want, so be safe and have fun!

About Mary J. Gibson

Mary J. Gibson, director of, is a renowned love and relationship coach whose expertise is widely acknowledged across the industry. Her insightful guidance and profound understanding of romantic relationships have earned her features in prestigious publications including Bustle, AskMen, Cosmopolitan, and Elite Daily. Committed to staying ahead of trends, she continually broadens her knowledge by conducting incisive interviews and forging dynamic relationships with emerging dating services, ensuring her advice remains relevant and impactful.