How To Ask Your Sugar Daddy For Money or What You Want

There are many different kinds of sugar relationships, including meeting just for sex, spending whole days together, sleeping together but without having sex, investing emotionally in someone, and even being lavished with money and gifts.

When you know where you fall on this spectrum, you’ll find it’s easy to ask a sugar daddy for money and what you want. In this article, we’ll be giving you further pointers on how to do this so that you can have a successful sugar relationship. We’ll also be looking at how you can get the sugar relationship started and learn more about your sugar daddy. 

But, first, let's clarify the most common question….

How Much Do Sugar Daddies Pay? 

There's no right or wrong answer when it comes to money and how much a sugar daddy should pay.

Indeed, if you were to ask sugar daddies how much they pay their sugar babies, each one would probably give a different answer. So, it becomes essential that you know about allowances before you become a sugar baby.

That said, if a sugar daddy enters into a sugar relationship with a sugar baby where there’s been an agreement that money will change hands, it’s $500 per visit is about average. The lowest you could expect to make per visit is around $300, while the most is $1,800+.

Of course, these figures depend on the location. In an affluent city like Los Angeles, you can expect sugar daddies to pay more than they would in a city like – for example – Frankfurt. 

When it comes to monthly allowances, the average pay is $3,000, while the lowest is about $1,500. The most you can expect is around $10,000 – but it’s usually only the top, most experienced sugar babies that can command such a fee. 

Whether you’re paid per visit or per month is entirely up to you and your sugar daddy. Being paid per date is ideal if you don’t wish to see your sugar daddy too often, and it means you won’t feel guilty if you don’t see them too often. 

However, if you wish to enter into a long-term arrangement with a sugar daddy, a monthly allowance might be a better option. 

How To Ask a Sugar Daddy for Money? 

No one really likes to talk about money.

And especially no one likes asking someone for money. 

However, a sugar relationship isn’t anything like a regular relationship. It’s not dating. Instead, you’re giving up your time for a man – and you should expect monetary compensation. 

As such, you will need to ask your sugar daddy for money at some point. Let’s take a look at how you can do this. 

1. First, Learn a Little About Each Other

Sure, a sugar relationship is very different from a normal relationship. When it comes to regular dating, you need to learn a little about each other before you start asking the hard questions.

But in this instance, sugar dating is the exact same. You must show tack and respect, and you mustn’t ask for stuff until you’ve learned more about him. 

Ask general questions, and get to know him. Find out more about him, including his career, his interests, and passions. Make an emotional connection with him. 

Other questions you can ask include:

  • Have you done this before?
  • What made you decide to look for a sugar baby?
  • How did your previous sugar relationships go?

Invite him to ask you the same questions, too (and invite him to ask you other questions).

2. Have a Conversation About What He Wants in the Relationship 

The thing with a sugar relationship is that it’s not just about you. It’s about the sugar daddy, too.

So – what does he want out of this?

As much as it’s great that he’ll be rewarding you financially, he needs something in compensation, too. 

Different sugar daddies have different needs. A sugar daddy might want sex; another sugar daddy might just want to hang out. A sugar daddy might want you to live nearby (he’ll rent your apartment for you) and see you all the time; another sugar daddy might just want to see you now and then. 

And while it’s true that a sugar daddy generally starts the conversation and will ask you what you want, you still need to turn the tables at some point and ask him about his needs. Not only will this help you figure out how much you should be getting paid, but it will also help you decide whether or not this sugar daddy is the right one for you. 

3. Tell Him What You’re Comfortable Offering in the Relationship 

It’s really important that you, as a sugar baby, are upfront about your boundaries before you enter into an arrangement with a sugar daddy. 

After all, we all have standards and boundaries, even when it comes to normal dating. The difference is that when we enter into a regular relationship with someone, sex is expected. With sugar dating, it isn’t. 

So let your sugar daddy know straight away what you will and will not offer him. Will sex be on or off the table? Will you be willing to spend X amount of time with him? Will you be accompanying him on trips? Will you be living near him? Will he be able to reach you on the telephone when he wants? 

4. Be Confident While Discussing Your Financial or Other Needs

Once you’ve greased the wheels somewhat and gotten to know your sugar daddy, you can then address the Big Issue: Your financial needs.

Don’t worry – a sugar daddy will be expecting this. After all, this is the crux of a sugar relationship. 

And now that you’ve gotten to know him, it will be much easier to discuss this trickier subject. 

A good way to start is by returning to the topic of his previous sugar relationships. What were those sugar babies like? How was his arrangement with them? 

Then, it’s important that you get straight to the point and don’t mess around. Lay it on the line directly and explicitly so that he understands exactly your financial situation. If you’re not clear about things, you won’t get what you need. 

If you’re struggling to pay your way through college – let him know.

Let him know if you have debts and find it hard to keep up with payments. 

If a sugar daddy balks at your raising your financial issues, he isn’t cut out for this game. Cut your ties and move on to someone else. 

And if he keeps putting off the subject, just say to him, “Hey, I know we’ve talked about my allowance before, but I really need to get it sorted, so I know where we both stand on this.

Then, after you’ve reiterated your financial situation, ask him what he thinks would be a good and fair allowance for you. 

Also, if you’re concerned that your sugar daddy hasn’t broached the subject of money just yet, remember that he might be anxious if he scares you off. Bring the issue up, discuss your situation explicitly and take things from there. 

Be confident with your needs. You’re not here to marry this dude and live happily ever after, so make sure you don’t waste this opportunity or waste your time by beating about the bush. 

5. Let The Sugar Daddy Site Take Care of it for You 

It’s important to remember that all sugar daddies view sugar relationships differently. Some will for sure be open to giving you an allowance, but some won’t. Instead, they’ll shower you with gifts and take you places. They’ll treat you well but they won’t pay you.

And that’s fine – but you need to know the score first. 

This is where sugar daddy sites come in handy. It makes everything so easy for both parties.

Once you do, you should then check to see whether or not the sugar daddy site you signed up to has a feature in place that takes care of the allowance for you. is a sugar daddy that has this feature, and it certainly makes it easier for you to get paid. 

And if he’s a cool guy who treats his sugar babies well, you’ve got nothing to worry about. He’ll take care of it all, setting up your payments and making sure you get the money you’ve “earned.”

How To Easily Receive Money From Your Sugar Daddy? 

It’s smart to go with a payment method you trust and which is safe and secure to use. 

Such as:

  • Direct debit 
  • Bank deposit 
  • PayPal

These are all reputable banking options. Direct debit is perhaps the most trusted because you can set one up so that your sugar daddy always pays on a certain date each month. It’s the same with bank deposits because you can set up a standing order. That way, you’re guaranteed to be paid each month. 

You can also set up a direct debit to your PayPal account if you prefer. And because PayPal transactions are always instant, this isn’t a bad idea at all. However, you will need to be mindful of PayPal fees and the fact that PayPal has its own exchange rate. 

About Will Titterington

Will is a writer, coach and life lover who enjoys helping people reach their potential. Will has plenty of experience with Online Dating. He loves to test different apps and sites and share his experience on DatingXP. He loves art, sports, connecting with new people from all over the world, and making people laugh.