How To Flirt Over Text: (13+ Strategies With Examples)

Knowing how to flirt over text is a great skill to have.

It allows you to create and build sexual tension with your crush, it helps you to bond with them – and it could help you land the relationship of your dreams. 

See, when we’re getting to know someone, we spend a lot of our time sending texts back and forth. If you can capture their interest via text and spark sexual attraction, the world is your oyster. 

The problem is that flirting over text is, for many people, tricky.

It’s SO easy to say the wrong thing which not only turns the other person off .. but also causes them to stop replying completely

And that’s the LAST thing you want to happen.

To ensure your texts are fun, flirty, and definitely not cheesy or offensive, this guide is here to help you out. We’ll be taking a look at how to flirt over text with some examples that have been proven to work. 

Ready? Let’s take a look at some flirty conversation starters. 

Here's How To Flirt Over Text:

Flirty Text Strategy #1. Ask a Flirty Question 

One of the easiest texts to send is a question text. However, when it comes to flirting, your question needs to be interesting, a little bit cheeky – and a little bit naughty. Here are some examples:

Wanna know a secret?

Are you naughty? 

What are we doing tonight? 

Are you coming over? 

Did you like our first kiss?

Which emoji reminds you of me? 

What’s your biggest turn on? 

What’s the naughtiest thing you’ve ever done? 

What’s your biggest turn off?

Are you flirting with me? 

Where’s your favorite place to be kissed? 

Flirty Text Strategy #2. Let Them Know You Like Them 

Confidence is very attractive, and all guys and girls will go weak at the knees if you’re bold enough to let them know you fancy them.

Here are some flirty texts examples: 

People say you should wait 3 days before texting. But screw that, I like you, so here I am!

I like you and you’ve gotta deal with that. 

“Hi” is all I’ve got at the moment but I promise I’ll get better.

You’re hot.

Let’s date.

I can't stop thinking about you.

Wanna come to my place? 

I’ve gotta admit – you turned me on when we first met. 

Literally, no one has turned me on as much as you. 

I pictured you naked last night. 

Why can’t I sleep?! It’s your fault. 

Flirty Text Strategy #3. Recall The Last Time You Hung Out 

If the two of you had a great time the last time you hung out/dated, it’s always a good idea to reference it. Why? Because it puts them in a great mood and reminds them that you get along really well.

Here are some examples: 

Remember that [insert memory here] thing we did last time?

Casually sat here laughing my head off at work after remembering what we got up to last time! 

Oh gosh, I wasn’t TOO drunk was I?

I seem to recall you flirting with me. 

I seem to remember you tried hard to get me to go home with you! But I was being good 😉

Just thinking back to what we got up to and can’t stop smiling.

Had such a good time last week/month – shall we do it again soon? 

We got pretty naughty last time out. Shall we go one better next time? 

My mom warned me about people like you! Seems she was right 😉 

You were so hot last time I saw you. 

We’ve gotta do it again sometime, if only so I can remember how pretty you are.

I just realized that the more time I spend with you, the more I fall in love with you.

Flirty Text Strategy #4. Tell Them How Excited You Are To See Them Again 

Sometimes, the easiest way to flirt is to simply let them know you’re excited to see them again! This is important because it’s often the case that the other person doesn’t even know we’re interested in them unless we give them a sign. Here are some examples: 

Will you be just as sexy next time I see you? 

Damn, I’ve gotta up my game for next time. 

I’ve been shopping for new clothes today, you’re gonna love what I bought.

Maybe next time I’ll come without underwear. Just saying. 

I’m not sure if I’ll be able to keep my hands off you the next time we meet. 

How long until our next date? 

Have you got plans for this week? Is there room for me? 

I’ll let you decide where we meet next time. 

I’m thinking another date is due soon. 

Counting down the days until we meet again. 

Flirty Text Strategy #5. Make Some Plans

If you’re feeling bored or frustrated that things aren’t moving forward as quickly as planned, it’s time to take the initiative and display a bit of confidence by making some plans. Here are some examples:

I’m free for some shenanigans this week – are you? 

Let’s cut to the chase and meet up this weekend. 

Drinks on me tomorrow if you’re free.

Damn, I just saw an advert for sushi and now want some. You like sushi, too?

Let’s go see a movie together. 

Date night soon?

This is me officially asking you out. It’s up to you whether or not you want to accept. 

I like, you like me – let’s go on a date.

If we’re dating now, it’s time we went out together. 

Me + you = tacos this weekend?

Flirty Text Strategy #6. Flirt With Emojis

One of the best ways to flirt is via emojis. They’re fun, a little bit cheeky – and they can be really naughty and suggestive. Here are some examples:

[pizza] tonight?!

Just bought some [ice cream] – want in?

These are for you [flowers] 

Are we gonna have some [confetti] tonight!?

Describe yourself in 3 emojis 

What emoji makes you think of me? 

State your biggest turn on using emojis only.

When I think of you I feel [insert emoji]

Let’s start the night with [beers/wine/cocktails] and see where the night takes us 

When I think of you I [drooling emoji]

Flirty Text Strategy #7. Don’t Be Afraid To Get A Bit Naughty 

You approach this texting strategy with a bit of caution because your date might not be ready for it. But if you’re already at the point where you can pretty much sext, here are some examples:

Just got out of the shower. Time to take some selfies 😉

Shall we swap selfies? I’m not wearing any clothes btw. 

Thinking of you at work makes me want to do naughty things.

I had the sexiest dream about you last night. 

Just had a shower and all I thought about was you. 

Kissing my neck really turns me on btw. Just letting you know.

Just sat here casually picturing you naked.

Describe me in the naughtiest emoji you can think of. 

If we were both trapped in an elevator together, what would we get up to?

Send nudes. 

Flirty Text Strategy #8. Just Tell Them What’s On Your Mind

Sometimes, the direct approach works better than anything else. In other words, let them know you like them! Here are some examples: 

Reckon I should use the last 1% of my battery on texting you?

Hey, just listening to a song and it reminded me of you. 

I want you there. There, I said it. And you gotta deal with it.

I wish you were here. 

You make me smile. 

Thinking of you. 

You were literally in my dream last night.

Okay fine, I admit it – I miss you. 

Literally just called my boss by your name. 

I wanna call the takeaway tonight and order YOU. With fries, of course. 

Flirty Text Strategy #9. Compliment Them 

It’s always a good idea to compliment someone because it a) makes them feel good about themselves (and you) and b) it’s really easy to do. Here are some examples: 

You’re literally the funniest person I’ve ever met.

I love your mind, you teach me new things all the time. 

You always know what to say!

You’re so smart. 

I love your new shirt/dress.

Your hair looked amazing today btw. 

You turn me on more than anyone else ever has done before. 

I wish I had your eyes. 

Damn your smile is hot. 

I trust you. 

Last night you were looking gorgeous.

Flirty Text Strategy #10. Ask Them If They’re Single 

What’s the point in continuing to flirt with someone if they’re not even single? Here are a few ways to find out if they’re attached in a flirty way: 

I’m sure your partner would hate us flirting like this.

Is now a good time to call or are you busy with someone? 

Please don’t tell me you’re married. I made a vow to stop dating married people!

When was the last time you had a relationship? 

Is there someone in your life who makes your heart go boom? 

I’m free to flirt – are you?

Being single sucks! Right? 

Don’t you ever wish you were in a relationship?

So I didn’t see anyone with you when we met, may I assume you’re single? 

You’d better be single since you’re flirting with me so hard right now! 

Flirty Text Strategy #11. Tell Them You’ve Been Thinking About Them

Simply saying “I miss you” doesn’t really cut it. Instead, you have to get a bit creative with how you tell them you’ve been thinking about them. Here are some examples:

I dreamt about you last night …

Just heard a song that reminded me of you. 

I was in the shower and got a bit carried away when I thought of you.

Wow, I was just thinking about you before you texted. 

Just casually fantasizing about you at work.

You’ve been on my mind all day. 

Quit being so attractive, I can’t focus on work!

I was hoping you’d text, I’ve been thinking about you!

A naughty sex scene came on in a movie I’m watching and it got me thinking about you.

Lying in bed naked and thinking you should be here. 

Flirty Text Strategy #12. Suggest Things You Can Do Together 

It’s really important that the two of you have something to look forward to doing together, as this will help you bond and give you a chance to make plans. Here are some examples:

Are we wining and dining this weekend? 

I haven’t been dancing in SO long!

I fancy getting lost in a different city this weekend, what about you? 

Got time to squeeze some cocktails this weekend?

I’ve always wanted to take a cooking class! Wouldn’t it be fun? 

OMG I am the worst when it comes to karaoke, I love it! Fancy singing a duet? 

I find that going for a walk is even better when it’s with someone else, do you agree? 

Looks like the sun is going to be out all week, should we head to the beach and see who can build the best sandcastle? 

Got a bike? We could race each other this weekend!

I fancy a road trip. Only question is – my car or yours? 

Flirty Text Strategy #13. Talk About How You’re Ready To Start Dating Again 

Nothing says that you’re flirting more than when you’re dropping hints about the fact that you’re single and ready to start dating again. Here are some examples: 

Guess who’s single and ready to mingle? Lol. 

I don’t know about you but I’m about ready to start dating again.

Wearing my best clothes now that I’m dating again YOLO

Literally so bored of being single. Ready to help me do something about it?

Enjoyed the single life for a bit ready for something new!

I kinda miss dating, don’t you? 

I never realized how many other people are single in this city before …

Dating me will look like …

What’s your favorite thing about going on dates? 

The dating scene is popping! 

Flirty Text Strategy #14. Tell Them You’ll Be Their Date

This is a bold style of flirting, where you basically put yourself forward as their date. It’s a confident approach – and that in itself is very sexy. Here are some examples:

Well, if you need a date for the night – I’m basically free. 

I’d love to do that with you.

Dinner and a movie sounds fab. 

I’m free tonight by the way. Just putting it out there. 

Sooooo I’ve got a free weekend coming up …

Making plans for the weekend. Wanna be in them? 

Looking for a plus one? I’m available for hire!

Bored + single = wanna date?

I love watching a movie at the cinema and then chatting about it afterward. How about you?

I fancy a meal out tonight. Care to join me? 

About Will Titterington

Will is a writer, coach and life lover who enjoys helping people reach their potential. Will has plenty of experience with Online Dating. He loves to test different apps and sites and share his experience on DatingXP. He loves art, sports, connecting with new people from all over the world, and making people laugh.