Looking for an orgy with a people who are genuine and shares your sexual interests? Want to find a sex party in your local area but also want to stay safe and healthy? Or maybe you just need a third partner to join you and your spouse. The swinger’s lifestyle isn’t easy. But SwingLifeStyle can help.
One of the very first website aimed at bringing swingers together, SwingLifeStyle launched in 2001. It’s kept things simple ever since, focusing on doing what it does best. It’s crammed with members, there’s a real community feel going on … but does it actually work? Can you land the sexy hookup you’re looking for?
Being an active swinger myself, I decided to try it out. In my SwingLifeStyle review, I’m going to share with you my thoughts to help you make a better, more informed decision about whether this is the website for you. I’ll be looking at:
- User experience
- Privacy and security
I’ll also give you the low-down on my own personal experiences and whether or not I think it’s the right choice for swingers. Let’s make a start.
SwingLifeStyle offers both free plans and paid plans.There are a few things you can do for free. You can search for profiles and view them; you can use the forums and you can block members.
Importantly, you can’t send messages to anyone. However, some people will be happy with just being able to post in the forums until their profile is verified.
It’s also worth mentioning that free members have their searches limited to 50 maximum.
Once my profile was verified, I took up a monthly subscription plan. This meant I got access to everything except the ability to approve new members, public images and personal images. And in truth, I wasn’t interested in doing that stuff anyway.
So, what can you do? You can upload and share and enjoy nude pics; you can share private pictures, use the video chats and – importantly – you can send messages to other members.
As ever with a website like SwingLifeStyle, then, the free version is useless unless you’re not actually planning to message or meet up with anyone.
Price-wise, SwingLifeStyle is competitive and even reasonable.
For one month of SwingLifeStyle, you have to pay $14.95. However, if you take up the option of a 3 month subscription, you will make a 35% saving and pay just $9.66 per month.
The 6 month subscription deal is even better and you will make savings of 45% as you pay $8.16 per month. That’s not bad at all and if you’re planning to spend the next few months on the swinging scene, it’s well worth it.
Meanwhile, you could save 62% of the original price by opting for the 12 month subscription, which locks you into a $5.75 per month contract. Again, that’s entirely reasonable if you’re planning to double down on the swinging scene this year.
Audience Quality – Are The Profiles Real?
It’s a major bummer when we sign up to a hookup/dating site, and then discover that there is a pile of fake profiles sending us messages. It’s a waste of time – and a waste of money.
Fortunately, SwingLifeStyle has the least amount of fake profiles I’ve ever come across on a hookup site. Websites like Ashley Madison have gained a bad reputation over the years for security issues and fake profiles that are there to attract new users. SwingLifeStyle, on the other hand, is the complete opposite.
The verification process for new profiles is extremely lengthy because the company wants everyone to have a good time here … and this means as many genuine profiles as possible. When I was eventually verified, I wasn’t instantly spammed with messages from users inviting me to meet up with them. On other sites I’ve tried, this was a commonality, and it suggested that the users were fake.
Even better, premium members get to help out with the approval process. This means that anyone looking to join SwingLifeStyle has to undergo a thorough verification process where active members of the SwingLifeStyle community check their applications.
On the other hand, while I certainly didn’t see many (if any) fake profiles, SwingLifeStyle is also a rather small website compared to bigger names like Ashley Madison. When you combine that with the fact that a lot of members are inactive, it’s still not so easy to find people that are actually going to message you back.
Moreover, if you are concerned about fake members, it shouldn’t be too hard to weed them out. Real profiles will either be lifetime members or, at least, paid members, and you’ll be able to see who’s paid, who’s lifetime and who’s a free member in the search. Like this:
That said, don’t always assume that a free member is a fake profile. This definitely isn’t the case. However, you cannot message free members anyway (or, at least, they can’t read your messages).
Interface, Usability and Features
In this section, I’ll be covering how easy (or hard) SwingLifeStyle is to use, how it looks, and what its best features are.
You know what? I actually felt safe signing up to this website. The warm colours help with that, as do the reminders that your information will remain private.
It is, however, a fairly long and drawn out signup process, and you have to answer numerous questions and fill in numerous fields.
Then, you have to wait 24 hours until SwingLifeStyle verify your profile and you’re an official member.
Out of all the dating and hookup sites I’ve tried, SwingLifeStyle definitely has the toughest signup process. If it’s your aim to land a date tonight, it’s not going to happen.
The signup process is lengthy – and so is the search feature.
As you can see from the image below, there are a lot of fields you have to fill in before you can start searching.
It’s also not unusual to fill in the fields and then be met with this page:
This is very different from sites like Adult Friend Finder and even Tinder, where you can find profiles in just one or two clicks.
Of course, the various fields are there to help you find what you’re looking for. Moreover, once you’ve filled them all in, you can save your search so that you don’t have to fill it all in again next time.
At the same time, there might be some users who would prefer there to be more fields to fill in. SwingLifeStyle, for example, doesn’t ask for you for your sexual preferences and interests (kinks and so on), whereas some hookup sites do.
Other than that, getting used to SwingLifeStyle will take a bit of time, but this is the case for all dating sites like this. Once you’ve been using it for a few days, it will start to feel like home.
Moreover, if you don’t wish to carry out searches, you can just scroll down on the homepage to see who your latest suggested matches are:
SwingLifeStyle isn’t as feature-rich as the likes of Ashley Madison, but it still has a few that help to improve the user experience and enrich your time on the website.
This was probably my favourite feature when I was an active member on SwingLifeStyle.
Hot Date allows you to create a personal ad of-sorts. It works kinda like Craigslist in that you create an ad that specifies exactly what you and your partner are looking for.
You can use Hot Dates in any way you want: You can use it for just yourself, or you can use it for you and your partner. You can also use it to organise a group events or a full-on sex party.
I used it for myself (I was looking for a couple) and I also used it with a friend who was looking to put together a swingers event at her place.
Want a vacation but want to make sure there’ll be couples you can meet and potentially have sex with? Then join SwingLifeStyle’s Travel Agency!
A feature that you won’t find on any other website, Travel Agency is exclusive to paying members who are looking to go on a swinging event further afield. This can include parties, clubs and even cruises.
It’s called a Travel Agency because that’s essentially what it is. It’s your chance to use SwingLifeStyle to book your next (swinger’s) vacation.
While I didn’t use the feature to go on a cruise, I did check out the various different events that were advertised and Travel Agency is a fun, useful feature that connects couples with other groups.
As you can see from the image, there are all kinds of options. SwingLifeStyle also gives you detailed information on what to expect, too.
Bear in mind, though, that a lot of the events are usually some way off into the future. But, hey, it gives you enough time to plan.
A friend of mine has been looking to get more involved in the swinger’s community but often says that it’s hard as she never really knows where to go to meet genuine, friendly people.
This is why I think the Club Map is one of SwingLifeStyles best features. It lets you find clubs in your local area that embrace the swinger lifestyle. Once you know exactly where you’re going, it’s much easier to just go there and have a good time.
Club Map highlights exactly where the club is, and it also introduces you to people who are going there. It’s a really cool way of getting a ‘date’ for the night without even having to put too much effort in.
This feature gives you access to erotic stories written by the SwingLifeStyle community. Anyone can submit a story but all new stories have to be reviewed first so that they’re appropriate for the website.
One problem already seems obvious – if anyone can write and submit a story, won’t there just be a lot of average (or worse) stories? Yes, but the good news is that everyone gets a chance to vote on each story that’s submitted. If a story has a less-than 3 rating, it will be removed. The best stories, meanwhile, get bumped to the top.
As you can see from the image below, each story is categorised and you can explore various niches to find a hot, sexy story of your choice.
Also in the Sex Stories section are blogs and forums where you can meet other members.
The design of the website won’t be to everyone’s tastes. Personally? I think it looks more like an online pharmacy than a swingers website. The colours – especially the dominant purple – won’t be for all of us.
And it certainly doesn’t look or feel very erotic.
That said, SwingLifeStyle is very much aimed at promoting a healthy and safe swinging lifestyle and the whole brand is the complete opposite of, say, Adult Friend Finder, which can look and feel a bit seedy. On the SwingLifeStyle homepage, there are no graphic photos of men or women. Instead, what images there are are actually really tasteful. Like these:
This creates a really wholesome vibe where those who are new to the swinging community can feel safe and welcome. At first, I didn’t like the colours and the layout but it really grew on me, and I began to understand why it looks the way it does.
Moreover, the design is clean and simple, and this makes the website really easy to get used to.
Privacy and Security
Privacy and security is obviously paramount whenever you hand over your details to a hookup site. I’m sure we’ve all heard of the infamous data breaches at Ashley Madison, and the last thing anyone wants is for their private information to end up in the public domain.
Worse still, there’s no information on what encryption method the website uses.
I’d say privacy and security is my biggest concern with SwingLifeStyle, which is a real shame. You can, however, customise your privacy settings so that certain bits and pieces of info – your location, pics, age and so on – remain private to other members.
Okay, let’s get down to what you really want to know: Does SwingLifeStyle work? In other words, are you going to get the ‘hookup’ you’re looking for?
Yes and No.
Look, let’s get one thing straight: SwingLifeStyle isn’t like Adult Friend Finder, which is a basic hookup site that’s crammed with horny men and women looking for sex tonight. On the contrary, SwingLifeStyle is more about building proper friendships and intimate relationships – it’s about really getting to know people before meeting up and taking things to the next level.
For example, here’s a profile that’s pretty representative of a lot of people on here:
The good thing about a profile like this is that the couple is active, genuine and authentic.
See, one of the biggest problems with SwingLifeStyle is that there isn’t a huge pool of choice. Ashley Madison is stuffed with profiles but SwingLifeStyle isn’t. Moreover, there never seems to be a lot of people online and there’s also a lot of profiles that look like this:
In other words, a lot of profiles aren’t filled in, which says to me the person isn’t seriously interested in meeting up.
That said, there’s absolutely no reason why you can’t get what you’re looking for with a bit of work.
My own experience was good. I signed up for a month at first, filled out my profile, added some pics and started searching the profiles. It wasn’t long before I was firing off messages and receiving messages.
It also wasn’t long before I was sharing experiences with people, getting to know them – and meeting up.
I made use of the video chat feature, too, as well as the forums and blogs. I immersed myself in the whole community and made new friends along the way.
And I got the sexual experience I was looking for.
Still, it took time and I’m not sure I’d keep using SwingLifeStyle for longer than a month. There’s a lot of work involved, there aren’t that many members and it does take a long time to keep sifting through the various profiles until you find someone you like the look of.
3 Alternatives To SwingLifeStyle
SwingLifeStyle has its pros and cons. For the sake of balance, I’m now going to take a quick look at 3 other hookup/dating sites I’ve used recently. You can check full list here.
I’ve mentioned Ashley Madison a few times throughout this review because it’s one of the top names in the hookup site world. It’s free to use if you’re a woman or a man looking for another man, but heterosexual males have to pay to use it. That’s the only real black mark against it in my opinion.
Okay, so Ashley Madison is also notorious for its fake profiles but there are also LOTS of real profiles on here, too. Moreover, if you’re looking for couples, or if your sexual preferences are a bit more ‘out there’ Ashley Madison is home to all kinds of people from a variety of different backgrounds who seem to be up for anything.
There are lots of great features on offer, including virtual gifts and Priority Man (this lets you boost your profile) and the design is very sexy.
Click here to read our Ashley Madison review.
Adult Friend Finder
If you’re looking for a hookup ASAP, I can’t recommend Adult Friend Finder enough. It’s the place to go to if you want sex tonight.
It looks cheap and a bit seedy, and it’s definitely more graphic than SwingLifeStyle, but it’s ideal if you want something basic that works.
As well as being a genuine hookup site, Adult Friend Finder acts like a porn site. You can watch webcams and videos made by other members, which means that even if you don’t meet someone, AFF will still get you off.
Click here to read our AdultFriendFinder review.
Tinder isn’t specifically a hookup site but there are plenty of men and women on here who are looking for hookups.
What I like about Tinder is how easy it is to use. There are no questions to answer before you register, no fields to fill in – all you need is a pic and a short bio. Then, you can start swiping before firing off messages to people. You can find top apps for hookup here.
Is there a free version of SwingLifeStyle?
There is but the amount of things you can do as a free member are limited. You can use the forums and search member profiles but you can’t message anyone or receive any messages.
Is SwingLifeStyle legit?
SwingLifeStyle is totally real. A small minority of its users are fake profiles, and some users will be inactive. But SwingLifeStyle is safe, secure and legit.
Who is SwingLifeStyle for?
SwingLifeStyle is generally aimed at those who want to put some colour into their lifestyle. It’s ideal for experienced swingers, as well as those who are new to the swinging scene and are looking for a place to start.
It’s also great for couples looking to just make new friends and see where things go.
Overall, SwingLifeStyle is a website that promotes a safe environment for swingers. There’s not a huge pool of active members on here but that shouldn’t discourage you from signing up. If you’re on the lookout for someone who shares your sexual values (be that a couple of a singleton), and if you want an online community that promotes safer, sensible hookups, SwingLifeStyle comes recommended.
It’s not seedy, it’s not graphic and it’s not in-your-face. Instead, it’s just a cool, easygoing place for those who want to experiment with their sex life.