How To Find MILFs For Sex & Dating

Wanna know how to find MILFs? 

MILFs are hot. They’re experienced in both sex and romance, and they know exactly what they want. If you’re not able to give them what they want – or if you’re unable to appear at least like you’d be able to give them what you want – I’ve got news for you: You’ll never land a MILF. 

The good news is that I can promise you this: Finding MILFs is easier than you think. Just like you, hot older women want sex. They’re out there; they’re available – they’re just waiting to be found. 

In this article, I’m going to take a look at how to find MILFs. I’ll be showing you the places they hang out, and I’ll also be showing you what you need to do to land a date with one … and potentially take one to bed. 

Let’s start. 

6 Places to Find Milfs Near You

1. Dating Sites 

Dating sites are the easiest way to find MILFs because all you need to do is create an account and start searching through the hundreds and perhaps even thousands of MILF profiles in your area. 

That said, you’ll need to sign up to the right sites:

  • AdultFriendFinder (best for hookups)
  • EliteSingles (best for dating) 

Let’s take a quick look at both sites.

AdultFriendFinder

AdultFriendFinder is your best bet if you want to bed a MILF as soon as possible. It’s a graphic adult hookup site where nudity is allowed and where MILFs sign up to sleep with younger men just like you. 

Registration is free, but you’ll need to upgrade your account to send messages. I suggest you be as direct/forward as possible because this is precisely what women on here appreciate. These MILFs aren’t here to be romanced – they either want a fuck body or a one night stand. And they’re ready to talk as dirty as you want. 

You can also use the site to have video sex/phone sex with MILFs as there are in-built cam-sharing functionalities. 

EliteSingles 

EliteSingles is used by MILFs who are looking for something serious, such as either a long term, committed relationship or even marriage.

However, there’s a catch: The MILFs that use this dating site are educated, ambitious professionals looking for educated, ambitious young male professionals. As such, if you want to succeed here, you’ll probably need to possess a university degree and have a solid career. 

Elite Singles is free to register with, but you will need to upgrade your account to send and receive messages. 

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2. Bars & Clubs

milfs at Bars & Clubs

It’s a common knowledge that MILFs visit bars and clubs, especially at the weekend when they want to let their hair down after work and get picked up by attractive younger dudes. But what kind of bars and clubs? 

Obviously, MILFs don’t frequent student clubs or “frat bars.” You won’t find them in bars where drinks are offered at a discount price to attract more students, too. Instead, you need to think about the music a MILF grew up listening to. What did she party to in her youth? 

I can think of a few genres:

  • Motown
  • Disco 
  • Soul music 

If you can find bars and clubs specialising in this type of music, it’s a good idea to find out the dress code and head there. 

If you can, try to find Latin-themed salsa nights in your area, too, as these tend to be massive hotspots for MILFs who love nothing more than to grind against a non-disabled man to some Spanish music. These types of nights tend to take place during the week, and they’re popular with the over 40’s crowd. To succeed in a place like this, it’s a given that you need to be able to dance the salsa. 

You could also try bars that specialize in selling cocktails. I can think of a few of these near me, and I know for sure that MILFs enjoy going there with their female friends. 

Essentially, when wondering which bars and clubs near you are the best for MILFs, consider a few things: 

  • What type of music would a MILF listen to?
  • What kind of crowd does this bar/club attract? (younger or older)
  • How expensive are the drinks? 

While MILFs aren’t always absolutely loaded with money, they will typically avoid cheap bars and head to joints that sell pricier drinks. Instead, think “classy, sophisticated and mature”.

And if you can, avoid the student areas altogether. These are the last places a MILF will be hanging out. 

3. Middle/Upper Class Residential Neighbourhoods 

milf walking dog in Neighbourhoods

The thing with MILFs is that they’re typically career driven, professional, educated and smart women who have done quite well in life. Either they’ve made their own money through hard work, or they’ve gone through a divorce and are now enjoying alimony. 

Either way, the best place to find a smoking hot, classy MILF is not a downtrodden working-class area. Instead, it’s a middle or upper-class residential neighbourhood where the gardens are neat and tidy, the bars and restaurants are upscale, and MILFs can enjoy a fashionable lifestyle that suits where they are in life right now.

So, if you don’t already live in a middle/upper-class residential neighbourhood yourself, the good news is that – no – you don’t need to go and buy or rent a house right this moment. But it’s a smart idea to grab a cab, book a hotel – and stay there for a few days. Get familiar with the surroundings, visit the parks, the bars and the restaurants, and get yourself seen and known among the locals. 

You will also need to dress smartly so that you fit in and learn the lingo and etiquette of middle and upper-class neighbourhoods. If you don’t have a good car, don’t drive there – always take a cab instead. The last thing you want is to be detected as someone who doesn’t belong in a place like this. If a MILF spots that you’re a phoney, she will call you out. 

4. Beaches

milf at beach

What do MILFs like to do on the weekend when summer is in full swing, and the sun is shining? 

Well, one of the most popular things they like to do is head to the beach.

Indeed, if you go to a packed beach at any point during a sunny summer, it’s highly likely that you’ll spot a few MILFs.

And the good thing about a beach is that, unlike a bar or a club, you can often find a MILF by herself. She’ll be soaking up the sun, getting a tan, reading a book – and just generally chilling, hoping that a hot young suitor walks up to her and asks her out. 

The second good thing about a beach is that it gives you a chance to show off your honed physique (if you have one). Unlike in a bar or a club, you don’t need to worry about strolling around a beach topless. You could also ask a MILF if she’d like to go for a dip in the sea with you, build a sandcastle with you – and roll around and frolic under the sun. Indeed, a beach is the perfect place to enchant a MILF and make her fall for you.

Of course, there are rules. A MIFL will generally play hard to get. If she’s reading her book and isn’t giving you much attention at first, it doesn’t mean she isn’t interested. She’s challenging you to be brave enough to persist.

On the other hand, if it’s clear that she is here to relax by herself, you should back off. 

Pro tip: Try to find a MILF who’s reading a romance book at the beach. The book will already have put ideas in her head that a Prince will come along today and sweep her off her feet! 

5. Malls

milf at Malls

If there’s one thing a MILF loves to do, it’s SHOP.

And where better to find a shopping gal than at a mall? 

It doesn’t matter whether you head to a mall on a weekday or at the weekend; there will always be MILFs waltzing around in heels, shopping for clothes, accessories and make-up. 

And it’s your job to pop over there and – in a very non-sleazy way – make your approach.

Indeed, the best shops to look for MILFs include clothes shops, shoe shops and cosmetic shops. It won't be easy to stay too long in a cosmetic shop as a dude, so your best option is to try clothes stores.

However, you will find MILFs are passing in and out of shops all the time and walking through the mall, so you’ve got plenty of options. 

Since you’re at the mall yourself, you must dress to impress since you’ll be checking out clothes stores. So wear something stylish, and take your time when strolling around the mall. Don’t appear to be in a hurry. 

Also, when you go for the approach, remember that you’re not at a bar. A MILF isn’t at a mall to get picked up – she’s here to buy something. As such, she may be in a hurry. So while she’ll be flattered by your approach, she won’t want to hang around too long (unless she’s not in a hurry). As such, you’ll need to be direct and relatively quick with how to get in and get out. 

6. Grocery Stores 

milf at Grocery Store

Grocery stores might seem like an unusual place to meet women. But when it comes to finding MILFs, they’re not.

Why? 

Think about it. MILFs are hot, older women who are – in your case anyway – single. They live by themselves, they’ve probably got their own house and car, and they have to do their grocery shopping.

By themselves.

This means at the evening or the weekend; a grocery store can often be full of MILFs who are doing their weekly shops. They won’t have a man in tow or any kids – they’ll just be doing their thing. 

And this makes them perfect for picking up.

Naturally, no one goes to a grocery store expecting to be picked up. As such, you can’t just walk in there and expect to be able to flirt with a MILF and take her home. It’s not going to work like that, and if you go in there with the wrong approach, you’ll scare her off by coming across as creepy. 

It’s a much better idea to, first of all, see who you can make eye contact with. Then, offer a smile and perhaps some assistance. Just be friendly, be natural. If it appears that the MILF is interested in you, you can take things up a notch by chatting further and even engaging in some flirting. 

It’s also worth noting that, while a MILF won’t necessarily go to a grocery store expecting to be picked up, that doesn’t mean she isn’t horny and in the mood for sex. MILFs – scorching ones – know how attractive they are, and they know for a fact that guys go to grocery stores to pick women up. So while she might not expect it, she may still be ready for it.

So don’t be shy. If there’s chemistry between you and a MILF in a grocery store – go for it. 

Tips For Dating MILFs

Okay, so far, I’ve outlined the best places to find MILFs. But how do you go about dating a MILF?

It’s not easy because MILFs have very high standards. They won’t settle for average. If you’re young, dumb and poorly dressed, you will have zero chance. 

Instead, despite being young, you have to have charm at least and show that you’re experienced enough to be able to handle a classy lady!

Here are some tips:

Dress to impress – You should always dress to impress whenever you’re dating anyone, but the dress code matters much more when you’re dating a MILF. Indeed, a MILF could easily fall for a skater boy, but what they won’t tolerate is someone who has no style, whose clothes don’t fit right, and who buys cheap outfits. So if you want to date a MILF, splash out on a stylish wardrobe.

Be confident – Being a nervous, blubbering wreck can be attractive to some young women. They think you’re cute and will give you a chance! But when it comes to MILFs, confidence is everything. They might be older than you, but they want you to lead. They want you to look like you know what you’re doing, and they want you to have the balls to ask them – an older, more worldly-wise woman – out. So please do it!

Don’t mention their age – If you mention their age even once, the whole thing is a non-starter. Do not refer to how young you are or the age gap either!

Tip! – When you go to a restaurant, make sure to tip the waiters. This is the kind of thing that impresses MILFs and shows them that you know how to treat people. Showing respect to others is super important with older, mature women, and it also demonstrates that you’ve got money. 

Have patience – Because a MILF is an older woman, it’s highly likely that she’ll come with baggage. She might have kids, she might have an ex-husband who still pops over, and she might have some drama. This is why you need to have patience when dating a MILF. There might be occasions when she has to cancel a date, so be mindful and respectful of that. Don’t throw a hissy fit! 

There are lots of MILFs out there and plenty of places to find them! And it doesn’t matter how young you are or what you look like – as long as you dress smartly, exude confidence and personality and demonstrate that you know what you’re doing, there is every chance you’ll be able to date the hot older woman of your dreams.