MILFs are hot. And if you do the right things, you can easily seduce a MILF.
I remember the first time I dated a MILF. I was 25 at the time; she was 42. She was divorced, had two kids, knew a lot about life – and taught me a lot of things about women and sex. It was easily one of the best relationships I've ever had.
Since then, I've dated more MILFs, learning more and more each time about the art of seduction – how to get a hot older woman to trust a younger dude, date you, and sleep with you.
In this article, I'll be sharing all that I've learned with you in the form of 7 red-hot tips that any guy can implement that will help you seduce more MILFs.
But First Here's what You Need To Know About MILFs
Before we get into the meat and drink of my tips and tricks, let's, first of all, take a look at what you need to know about MILFs.
For one thing, the idea that all MILFs are super horny for younger dudes and will go to bed with any younger man that shows an interest in them is a total myth.
Hot older women have choices and if you don't meet their standards, they will not date you. On the contrary, MILFs are classy and experienced women who know exactly what they want.
Secondly, while MILFs are horny like you and I (they're human beings, after all), they will not sleep with you just because you're handsome and can turn them on.
That's literally like saying all women are sex-mad, sex-crazed, and live only by their sexual instincts.
Again, not true – at least not for MILFs, who are at a stage in their life where they require their emotional needs to be satisfied. Yes, they want sex – but they want more than just sex.
Naturally, some MILFs will have sex with you without a relationship. I'm not saying that isn't the case. But the idea that you can just walk up to a woman, flirt with her, kiss her neck, and then take her to bed just because you can isn't strictly true. She's not a p0rn star, is what I'm saying.
She's a woman.
There are also MILFs that should be off-limits. For instance, while it's fine to seduce MILFs who are either separated or divorced, it's not good to try to date MILFs who are either married or recently widowed. If you try to seduce a woman in either of these situations and it doesn't work out, don't come at me – I warned you.
“But hey – what about married women who are sexually frustrated? Can I date this type of woman?'
This is a good question.
My answer is a resounding – No.
Why?
It's just not worth your time or effort.
Yes, you might be really proud of yourself if you manage to seduce a married woman and have great sex with her … but is that really worth the trouble of her husband potentially finding out?
In my opinion, it isn't. Not when there are so many other choices out there for you.
It's much better to focus on women who are divorced or properly separated. You could in theory try for a recently widowed MILF – but again, is it worth the hassle? Just think for a second about all the emotional barge you'll be taking on. You'll have sex, and then there'll be tears on your pillows and heart-to-hearts. Not cool. Especially when you just want to get laid.
Also, if a woman tells you that she's been single for a few years and is perfectly happy and comfortable with being alone, you might want to stay away. I'm not saying for sure you should stay away – it's entirely up to you – but if a woman tells you something about herself, it's always a good idea to pay attention. She's telling you she's happy being single for a reason.
7 Proven Techniques seduce a MILF:
1. Flirt – and Be Direct
One of the things worth bearing in mind about MILFs is that they're experienced. They've been there, done that, that – and that.
As such, they're no longer in the mood to play games. Rule number one is to not be unclear about your intentions. If you are, she'll be turned off instantly and will look elsewhere.
This means you must flirt in a way that's direct, and makes your intentions clear.
How can you do this?
Naturally, you should start by flirting with her. This means joking around, teasing her (important), complimenting her, and making eye contact with her.
It means subtly suggesting sex with her (but never being explicit!).
From that point, you want to go from mere flirting to actually telling her that you want her. Don't beat around the bush! Flirting is meant to warm a girl up and build rapport with her. Flirting raises sexual chemistry and brings the two of you together. But unless you at this point make your feelings known, the woman will get bored, confused, frustrated – and will look elsewhere.
Essentially, when you've been flirting with a woman and clearly raised her interest, you want to strike while the iron is hot, telling her that you like her and that you want to see her some more.
You could say something like, “Hey, I'm having a great time here with you, and I hope you are too. Do you fancy going someplace and getting a drink?”
And then take things from there.
2. Build Sexual Tension
Creating sexual tension with an older woman is easy once you know her. But it's really important you don't do anything that kills the attraction.
Why is sexual tension itself so important?
Sexual tension is key to the whole seduction process because, without it, there's no spark – no magic. No desire. It's only once a woman feels sexual tension that she sees you as something more than just a friend. All of a sudden you've passed over from being “just another dude,” to being a guy she wants to see naked.
Not just that, but if you can build sexual tension, you're showing her that you're not just here for a quick lay. You want to treat her right, build the tennis and make her burst with desire for you.
Here are some tips:
- Sit closer to her. If you're sitting at a distance from her, how can there be tension? Move closer to her (but not too close!).
- Gaze into her eyes (but don't stare too much – it's threatening).
- Pay attention to the tone and pace of your voice. Don't be in a rush to say everything all at once. Slow down, speak quietly, and tease her with your voice.
- Whisper in her ear. When the time is right, whisper in her ear what it is that you want to do with her.
3. Make Her Feel Desirable
Women – no matter how old they are – want to be made to feel like women.
They want to feel feminine, beautiful – and desired.
If you don't show her that she's desirable, she may be sad, she may feel unwanted – and she certainly won't be seduced by you.
You have to show a woman that you want her by making her feel every inch of the sexy woman that she is!
- You can do this by telling her she's gorgeous.
- Let her know she turns you on.
- Tell her you to like the way she smiles, the way her eyes light up, and that you love what she's wearing.
- Tell her it looks so sexy on her.
Admire her whole body – look her up and down and smile. Make it known that you're struggling to contain yourself. Let her know you want her, that you love the way she looks and smells.
When you do this, it will make her feel horny and obsessed with you.
4. Display Confidence Around Her
Did you hear the one about the shy, awkward dude that ended up in bed with a hot older woman?
Neither did I.
Because it didn't happen.
Or, how about the guy who talked the good talk initially … but when he got into bed with a cougar, he had no idea what he was doing? It turned her off as he wasn't sure whether to get undressed in front of her or not.
Confidence is everything, guys. If you don't have it – fake it until you get it. Stand up tall, be erect, be poised. Be a man in front of her.
Not sure what to say?
Don't say anything.
If you're not funny?
Don't try to make her laugh.
Lead her, guide her, don't ask her where she thinks the two of you should go tonight. Suggest places, say “I know a great place we can go to.”
Don't ask her if she wants to pay half the bill – lead. Say you'll front it.
Older women don't want to date boys – they want to date younger men that are men.
5. Enter Into a Deep Conversation With Her
The art of seduction doesn't just involve flirting, creating sexual tension, and being physical. When it comes to older women, it also includes entering into a deep conversation.
Why? What has this got to do with seduction?
Because it triggers an emotional response in her that tunes in to your vulnerable side and help to build rapport between the two of you.
Remember, whilst she definitely wants you to be confident, she also wants to see all sides of you.
This means that you need to – at some point – show her that there's more to you than mere male posturing.
So ask her questions. Ask her what her real ambition is in life, and ask her about her dreams, and her fears.
Make sure to tell her your hopes, dreams, fears, and ambitions, too. Open up to her, talk about your past, reveal yourself, and show her that there's more to you than just sex.
6. Demonstrate That You Have a Purpose In Life
While some women might prefer to deny it, there's no doubt that most women are attracted to men who are going somewhere in life.
They want men who have a steady income (money), a career (a purpose) – and passion.
And older women especially want men who know what they want out of life. They've got a fixed goal, and nothing – not even women – will make them waver from that.
See, the last thing an older woman wants is for you to base your whole life around her. She wants to see that you're on your purpose and that you can actually survive without her. You don't need her.
Believe it or not, this is incredibly attractive to a woman, and it can turn her on.
So, to seduce her this way, let it be known that you have a purpose in life. You can do this by telling her you've got a purpose (it could be your job, it could be your side-hustle), and you can do it by showing her.
How can you show her?
By not being available all the time. By not always prioritizing her. By working hard, by providing, making money, and exerting your masculine energy.
7. Have Fun
My last tip is that you must have fun with older women.
Now, this doesn't mean that you should be goofy. Experienced, older women aren't attracted to goofy guys who do goofy things.
But neither should you be serious all the time.
Assess the situation and context and go from there.
But always remember that in order to be seduced by a man, a woman must feel comfortable around him. If you're overbearing or – god forbid – threatening to her, she will not relax, and she will not be turned on.
So have some fun. Make her laugh, and take her someplace where the two of you can relax. Show her the many different sides of you – the serious side and the fun side. Don't be too much of one and not enough of the other.
Once she sees the fully-rounded version of you, she'll be more inclined to go to bed with you.
If you notice her having fun around you then it's a clear indicator she also wants you.