Swinging is a really fun lifestyle. But the first thing beginners always ask is, “how do I find swingers?”
I mean, it’s not as though you can make a Facebook post asking if your friends would be interested in swinging with you, is it?
Like you, I love swinging. I’ve been doing this for a few years now and – like you – I had no idea where to start looking for like-minded people.
Fortunately, while swinging may be a very discreet way of life, finding swingers is easier than you might have thought.
In this article, I’ll be showing you exactly where swingers hang out, and how you can join them, introduce yourself – and start swinging.
5 Places to Find Swingers
1. Through Swinger Dating Sites
Yes, there are dating sites dedicated specifically to swingers. This is the quickest and easiest way to find swingers. You can check our list of best swinger sites.
SwingLifestyle is the most popular and the oldest dating site for swingers and is home to 16,000,000 members around the world.
Why should you use SwingLifestyle?
The number one reason is that it’s specifically aimed at swingers, which means that it’s a great place for you to meet new like-minded couples. Many of the users are very proactive; they want to get to know you, and they want to meet up.
The site has lots of great features, including Swinger Clubs which shows you exactly where the nearest swinger clubs to you are. The site also advertises and promotes swinger cruises, while another great feature is “Hot Date.” This lets you advertise to everyone that you’re free to meet up with your partner and go on a date with another couple.
I’ve been SwingLifestyle with my partner on and off for the past few years. It’s an excellent place to meet swingers, as well as new friends. As long as you’re polite and respectful, there’s no reason why you can’t meet lots of new people, too, and completely immerse yourself in the swinger lifestyle.
For more info: Read in-depth Swinglifestyle review.
Or You can try AdultFriendFinder
AdultFriendFinder is aimed at singles and couples who are looking for a hookup and other kinds of casual sex encounters. While it may not be aimed at swingers specifically (unlike SwingLifestyle), there are plenty of couples who use AFF to find other like-minded couples.
AFF boasts over 80,000,000 active users, which means there’s something for everyone. If you’re using it to swing, your best bet is to upload pics that include both of you, before stating in your profile exactly what it is that you’re looking for.
However, whereas SwingLifestyle is a great place to make a proper connection with other couples, most users on AFF tend to be more forward. It’s also a very graphic website, where nudity is allowed. So you’ll need to bear all that in mind.
But, hey, if you’re just looking for a good time swinging with other couples, you can’t really go wrong with AFF. Because a good time is what everyone on here is looking for.
For more info: Read in-depth AdultFriendFinder review.
2. Go To Swinger Resorts 🏨
Yes, these sorts of things really exist!
Clothing optional resorts (swinger resorts) are exactly what they sound like Vacation resorts where people are allowed to walk around naked if they want to.
Whilst these aren’t sexual resorts as such, it’s totally up to the individual if they want to strip and chill by the pool without any clothes on. No one will judge them and no one will arrest them.
As you can imagine, clothing-optional resorts are very popular with swinger groups. There’s a fair number of them in places like Cancun and Jamaica, with my personal favorite being Jamaica’s Hedonism II.
Whilst not everyone who goes to these resorts will be a swinger, you can bet your bottom dollar that many of them will be. In which case, you just need to order yourself a drink and start chatting with folk.
3. Go On A Swinger Cruise 🚢
If you’ve got a bit of money in the bank and was planning to take a vacation anyway, why not go on a swinger cruise?
Swinger cruises are just like regular cruises. The only difference is, everyone who’s onboard the ship is looking to have group sex!
Sound fun? It is!
4. Visit a Sex Shop 🏬
Sex shops are great for lots of things – adult movies and sex toys in particular!
But, as you may already know, they can also be great places to meet new people who are into the same kinds of kink as you are.
They’re also pretty good places for finding out where the local swinger clubs near you are.
The best thing to do is to ask the person behind the counter. They may or may not be able to help you, but it’s always worth an ask. And even if they personally don’t know where the nearest swinger club is, they’ll surely know someone who does. Or, they may even have a website they can point you in the direction of.
5. Use CraigsList
I’d say that CraigsList shouldn’t be the first place you look for swingers online (I recommend you try those online swinger dating sites I mentioned earlier first). But CraigsList is definitely a good shout if you’re having no luck elsewhere.
CraigsList is great for casual sex, and it’s used by swingers up and down the country. All you have to do is create an account, pop onto the site, and search for local couples who want to swing.
The reason I recommend using swinger dating sites first is that they’ll give you a chance to feel your way into the swinger lifestyle and make proper connections. On CraigsList, it’s probably assumed that you’re already experienced with swinging, which could make your first encounter a bit awkward.
Inside Scoop: How To Become A Swinger?
Now that you know how to find swingers, you’ve got little time to lose. Sign Up to a few sites with your partner, start making new connections – and start putting yourself out there!
Wherever you go, make sure to be polite and respectful when the situation calls for it, always abide by the swinger etiquette – but more than anything, have a fab time!