Now, you are really into someone, as in you really like them, and you want to leave nothing to change. What if you swipe right on them but they actually never get to your profile on their swiping?
What if they’re swiping and swiped left by mistake? And couldn’t go back to your very nice, smiling, by yourself, picture? Or what if you simply want them to know that they have really caused an impression on you? Is there something wrong really in trying to improve your chances?
Well, Tinder has the solution for you and it is the Super Like feature! And while some might think it’s needy, or intrusive, we think it’s actually a quite helpful tool for some cases and scenarios.
The negative feedback on the Super Like feature has been one that can easily apply to anyone trying to hit on you! “Guys who Super Like are needy/desperate/creepy” are some of the things we have heard in regards to Super Liking.
But really, after you match –by regular swiping means- the guy can turn out to be a creep as well! It has happened to me and I bet it has happened to a lot of people out there, so why would Super Liking be any different?
Creeps will be creeps, Super Like or not.
On the contrary, Super Like can be away to stand out from the rest. Let’s face it, there’s a lot of competition out there and sometimes we need an extra help to make ourselves noticed. The trick here is to be smart about it.
Remember, if you Super Like someone you probably have their attention, but that doesn’t mean that they’re going to like you back! So the trick is to ensure that you are likeable, and even superlikeable! How?
Have a good profile:
Even if you are not planning on superliking anyone. This is key. It is a waste of a Super Like if you have blurry photos and/or an empty bio.
You are breaking from the pack here and jumping the gun a bit –after all, the whole idea of Tinder is that the other person won’t know you like them until they say they like you too- so you don’t want to have an unremarkable profile after you did that very brave Super Liking thing.
That’s where you appear creepy instead of attractive and way too intense instead of interesting. Here is where a good bio comes in very handy as well as having just the right photos in your profile.
Remember, you are giving them an open letter of presentation and you’re not waiting for them to pick it out from the bunch. You’re strongly encouraging them to read it, so please, make it worth their time
So before you Super Like someone check if you:
- Have a first picture of you smiling, no girls around! No partying, no friends, just you by your lonesome so that we actually know which one are you. And since you Super Liked, it’s more likely that they’ll check the rest of your photos too, so make them worth it, ok?
- Have a solid bio. You need to have your occupation listed –trust me on this- as well as a few lines about likes, dislikes, and some information that can provide conversation starters and increase their interest for you even more! And actually prove that you’re someone worth getting to know.
And yes, it is true that sometimes the Super Liking might be taken as way too much intensity over some pictures and a couple of bio lines, but it can also be seen as a very nice compliment. So don’t be afraid to get out there and try something new. Another key thing here is…
Use them wisely:
Don’t just Super Like anyone. Be selective. Remember, you are saying that you’re really interested in them, so only do it when this is actually true. That way, you stay far away from the “desperate” line and get closer to the “actually interested” side of the spectrum, and that’s really all it is about!
You get one Super Like a day, you don’t want to use it in just anyone, and you want to make it worth your time. Or even if you have Tinder Plus or Tinder Goal, five Super Likes a day is not really that much if you think about it, so consider your decision wisely before going for that.
And remember, everyone likes to be liked! And everyone also knows that you get one Super Like a day, so it is a great feeling knowing that you spent your daily Super Like on them. So you have the “paying a complement” factor before you guys have even exchanged words.
That’s something you don’t even get to do in person! And it can play greatly in your favor.
Something that has been proven though, is that the greatest effectiveness out of them Super Likes is achieved when the woman is the one that hits Super Like! A reason for this might be that men find attractive when the woman takes the first step, or simply, that they find them more interesting when they see that she is really interested too, so ladies, don’t be scared to start using that feature.
What Tinder’s official data says?
Conversations between people that matched after one of them superliked tend to last a lot longer, specifically, 70% longer! Now, isn’t that a good sign of maybe more good things to come? Furthermore, you are actually 3 times more likely to match with someone that you superliked than with someone you just swiped right.
And of course this makes total sense! You are getting full exposure and setting yourself apart from the rest. And hopefully, you followed my advice and also have a solid profile to back you up.
This should be obvious but just in case…be sure to follow through with that Super Like! So you Super Liked her and she liked you back! Awesome, it’s a match. Now actually text her. I’ve seen it happen so many times, and it doesn’t make any sense to me.
Why waste your only Super Like in such an absurd and silly way?
The number of matches in which no one ever starts the actual conversation is outstanding! So please, pretty please with a cherry on top, don’t let her go! Follow that Super Like with a good opening line (Please don’t just say “Hey” or “What’s up”).
An extra tip here: If you Super Liked her and you were following my advice on actually Super Liking people that you’re really interested in, then there must be something about her photos or her bio that you actually really likes, so why not start there?
Hopefully, it wasn’t something related to their appearance, because then well, things get trickier. Find something in their profile that might help you get the conversation started and then actually use it! I really can’t stress this enough.
Another important thing to keep in minds is that since you Super Liked you might want to take it a bit slow with the conversation. With that I mean, take your time to get to know the other person a little bit before suggesting you guys go out.
Remember that you added a Super Like to the equation so things do change a little bit here, if you ask them out immediately, then you might cross that very thin and dangerous line between “really interested” and “simply desperate”, and that’s exactly where I don’t want you to end up.
After all, you took a risk and it paid up, so now, it’s time to pace yourself a little bit so that you won’t come across as too intense for their taste.
Don’t be scared!
Worst case scenario, you don’t get a like back, no match, you’ll have another Super Like tomorrow. But I strongly believe that if you follow my humble –but useful- advice, you will definitely have a greater chance of making the most of your Super Like.
And remember, with that many people out there using Tinder, the goal is to stand out in the best way, and what better way than saying “I really, really like you” without having to write it down?
So Super Like away my friend, you might just get a match!
As always, have fun and relax. Tinder is not stressful, we make it stressful with our anxiety and our overthinking. The benefit of there being a lot of competition for you is that there are also a lot of options out there waiting for you, so don’t you ever feel like just this one thing that you did made you lose all of your chances. It probably didn’t, and it’s better to try that to give up before even starting.
Just be brave, after all, if you ask me? The real losers are those that never have the courage to actually go for what they want.