When people meet you in real life they take in all of you — your body language, looks, and words. Online, you have photos and a few words. That’s why you need to make sure you communicate the right message. Otherwise, you’ll get no matches on Tinder.
Whether you’re on Tinder just to hook up or to find that special someone and pursue something more serious, you’ll need to put some actual thought into your dating profile. Yes, online dating is convenient and easy (well, sort of), but you still have to put a little effort into making your profile something worth more than a knee-jerk left swipe. In this post, you’ll get tips to write the perfect dating profile.
Tinder Profile Tips For Pictures:
1. Smile with your teeth.
Teeth are very important. Maybe even more important than physique. Seriously, I cannot stress this enough. If you have good teeth, show them off! Smile big and show us those pearly whites.
If you’ve been to the dentist in the last year and you’re not smiling with your teeth, you are most definitely missing out on some dates. Everyone loves a good set of teeth. It’s weird and makes no real sense, but it’s a fact. Don’t question it; just show us your teeth!
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2. Face forward.
Be sure your profile picture shows your face. None of those creepy pictures of random body parts please! Also, be sure your face is a) in the picture and b) close enough so that your match can make out your features.
Distant shots make it look like you have something to hide. Also, use at least one picture of just yourself. When there’s multiple people in the shot, your match may have a hard time figuring out who’s who.
Don’t make us work too hard—it’s a dating app, not a standardized test, after all.
3. Wear bright colors in your profile pictures.
Stay away from neon or tie-dye, but other than that, wear a bold color. Studies show that red in particular implies a sense of dominance that both sexes find simply irresistible. Other rich colors can give a sense of confidence, good-naturedness, and love of life, all of which are highly attractive qualities.
The quality of your Tinder profile says a lot about you, but depending on exactly what it includes, it may also say a lot about how you spend your evenings for the foreseeable future as well. Will you be watching TV alone with an endless bag of Cheetos or snuggled up with a hottie surrounded by candelight?
If you’d prefer it to be the latter, then spend a little time and effort crafting a profile that gives off the right vibe. That way, you’ll get the swipes—and the dates—you really want!
4. Use at least 3 Pictures
People try to gauge your personality by looking at your pictures. You need enough pictures to show off the different areas of your life. Only having pictures with your friends, or of your face, or of you and the dog, gives very little away.
Go for minimum 3 pictures — if you want more matches.
People want to feel confident that the person they swipe right on is worth it. Worth the time investment to speak to. If you are ridiculously good looking, you might get away with having two great pictures. In most cases, it won’t work though.
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4. Stay away from filters.
Filters are fun to play around with on social media, but they’re not suitable for online dating apps. It’s ok to spend some time getting just the right angle for your profile picture or experimenting with different lighting to highlight your best features.
You want to look your best, of course, but don’t go crazy on the filters. You don’t want to be unrecognizable when you show up for your date. That just makes it awkward when we excuse ourselves to go to the bathroom and never come back. Save us all the embarrassment.
5. Don’t Use Too Many Selfies
Yeah, I know. Everyone does selfies. But everyone does not only do selfies. People take selfies with friends, or during epic moments of their lives.
That’s cool. People who take selfies all the time? Broken ego? No friends who can take photos of them?
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6. Avoid Bathroom Selfies
Seriously. Is there an epic moment of your life you need to capture happening in your bathroom? No? Then why are you taking photos in there? Were you that impressed by your own face in the mirror, or the matching tiles in the background?
7. Take off your hat/sunglasses.
Even if your match just wants to hook up, there’s a good chance he or she would like to know what the person involved in said hook up actually looks like.
Not too much to ask, right? Plus, Tinder is looks-centric. It might not be fair, but it is what it is.
Show us what you really look like on your profile before we get weirded out and bail when we meet you in person. There should be at least one picture of you on your profile sans accessories. No sunglasses, hats, bandanas, Beats, nothing. Nada. If you’re bald, own it. A lot of women find it sexy. No, really—that’s a thing.
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Tinder Profile Tips For Bio:
8. Length matters.
The length of your bio, that is. (What were you thinking?) Anyway, focus on creating a medium-length bio. More than a word or two, but not a personal memoir.
Your match wants to get a general idea of who you are. Don’t share your life story or go on and on about how great you are. Narcissism is a no-no on dating sites.
9. Height matters too.
Especially for girls. If you’re a guy and you’re tall, play it up. You can even put that height stat on your bio. Girls like tall guys. If you’re either gender and you’re short, own it.
You don’t necessarily need to advertise the fact on your bio, but don’t hide it in your pictures either. After all, if all goes well, your match is going to find out in person just how high you stack up.
For Examples: “Jake. 6”2.” | “Jake. 4.9 star Uber rating, but 5”6. You can’t have it both ways.”
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10. Focus on your assets.
And no, that doesn’t mean a close-up of your biceps. Think about what your friends like most about you, and highlight that on your profile.
Witty? Work in a pun or two on your bio—just make sure they’re actually funny.
Intelligent? Include a deep thought or casually point out your academic interests.
Just be careful not to sound overly pretentious. Read: Don’t boast about your GPA or double major.
11. Mention your hobbies.
No one wants a couch potato or worse, someone who plays video games all day, so tell us about how you spend your free time.
Ideally, include a variety of indoor and outdoor interests. It’s ok to mention your favorite Netflix binge shows, for example as long as you also talk about your love of cycling or jet skiing.
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12. Be Straight-Forward
What do you really want? While it’s tempting to focus on flaunting what you have to offer on Tinder, it’s just as important to lay out your own standards.
If you’re looking for a one-night-stand, then say so—delicately. If you want something more serious, allude to that.
And if you have some deal breakers, then feel free to put them out there. Otherwise, you’ll be wasting someone’s time—and possibly your own too. Just don’t go overly negative; you’ll come off as pushy and controlling.
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13. Get a second (or third) opinion.
Survey your friends and collect some other opinions on how your dating profile is shaping up. You get bonus points if these opinions are from members of the opposite sex.
Because only your female friends will know what the girl of your dreams will look for when perusing your profile.
Hint: It’s not a mirror selfie of you in your collegiate boxer shorts.
You might think you know what the opposite sex finds attractive or irresistible, but you don’t. Repeat after me—you don’t. And if you (or your guy friends) guess and get it wrong, you’re getting the left swipe. Period.
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14. Don’t be fake.
Even if you think you can pull it off, just don’t try to be anyone other than yourself. It will backfire, trust me. Plus, the most attractive thing in the world about a person is confidence.
Yes, you’ve probably heard that before—because it’s true. And you can’t have confidence if you’re acting like you’re someone you’re not. Just be you—whoever that is—because there’s someone out there who will think that’s damn hot.
15. Massage our funny bone.
Having a good sense of humor makes you instantly more attractive. It’s science. Make your profile light and humorous, and don’t take yourself too seriously.
Pro tip: you can even use this to your advantage when taking your profile picture. Think of something funny right before you take the picture, so the laughter shows in your eyes. Funny equals sexy.
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