Best Cougar Dating Sites & Apps of 2020

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Looking for dating a cougar?

The good news is that sexy cougars are out there, on the prowl, looking for their next meal. But finding them can be a challenge unless you know where to look. 

In this article, I’m going to take a look at several of the best cougar dating sites on the internet. Some of these are ideal for a hookup/one-time encounter, whilst others are more suitable for finding something longer term. I’ll be taking a look at their pros and cons, who they’re aimed at, as well as their prices. 

By the end of the article, you should have a better idea regarding where you want to put your money, time, and efforts. 

And you should be one step closer to landing the hot, mature date of your dreams. Join me as I take a look at…

The 8 Best Cougar Dating Sites:

1. Cougar Life

Cougar Life

Cougar Life has been around since 2006 and continues to focus on pairing up older women with younger men. It’s a bread and butter dating/hookup site that’s working harder than most others to eliminate the stigma that comes with cougars dating younger men. 

How does It work?  

Straight off the bat, this isn’t the number one cougar dating app. However, it’s got a few perks that might make it worth your time. 

Registration is a tad lengthy and can take anywhere between 5 and 10 minutes, depending on how fast you are. Women do outnumber the men by a significant amount, so you might want to bear that in mind. 

Worse still, a lot of users refuse to show their faces. 

However, Cougar Life is a safe, reputable dating site that even comes with a free version. 

My Experience 

I did well on Cougar Life. It’s a tad expensive (even the basic account costs $40). Most of them are keen on chatting, meeting up, and showing their faces. You get free ‘flirts’ to help you grab a lady’s attention, and you can also buy a few virtual gifts to increase your chances of success. 

Also, it’s worth mentioning that I spotted a few females who are actually young to be classed as cougars. 

How Much It Costs:

$40 – $144. Overall, it’s pricey compared to competitors. 


  • Free version 
  • Lots of cougars 
  • Can share private, naughtier pics 


  • Sometimes you can’t cancel your subscription without talking to the team on the phone.

2. AdultFriendFinder


AdultFriendFinder is a straight-up cougar hookup site that looks and feels like a porn site. Graphic images are plastered all over the homepage and people who sign up are mostly looking for sex as soon as possible. 

How does It work?  

Adult Friend Finder is one of the world’s most popular hookup sites. Here, you’ll find plenty of horny women who are looking for a one night stand – including lots of cougars.

To find the cougars, you just need to amend your search filters by age. You can, for example, amend your filters so that 30+, 40+ or even 50+ women show up in your search results.

The content is super graphic, so it won’t be for everyone. But if you’re on the lookout for cougar sex ASAP, Adult Friend Finder is worth a shot. 

My Experience  

I did very well on AFF, primarily because the site has such a high user base of horny cougars. It’s also one of the most well-known hookup sites out there, and your chances of connecting with people are high. 

Like with any hookup site, you just need a bit of patience at first but the main thing to do is to add a few pics of yourself, fatten out your bio and start messaging other users. Make sure that you let people know in your bio that you’re looking for dating older women (or, if you’re an older woman, make sure to let everyone know that you’re looking for a younger man). 

How Much It Costs?

There’s a free version but you can’t send messages until you upgrade to a pricing plan. 1 month – $20, 3 months – $36, and 12 months – $108


  • Hundreds of millions of active users
  • Easy to filter your search results 
  • Loads of features, such as adult movies 


  • Will be too graphic for some
  • Basic, dated layout 

3. AshleyMadison 


Ashley Madison prides itself on being a site for adulterous couples who need to spice up their sex life. Basically, it’s for anyone who’s willing to cheat on their partner, which means it’s rife with bored housewives looking for something different (and someone younger). 

How does It work?

The ladies who sign up to Ashley Madison have been married too long, they’re bored – and they want sex with younger man ASAP. 

However, while the sign-up process is simple (there’s no need to answer any tests), it might annoy some guys that the ladies get access-all-areas for free. Yup, guys have to purchase credits in order to send messages and use the various features. 

The site is sensually designed, it’s easy to navigate, and each user can list their sexual preferences (such as “looking for a cougar”). Some of the best features include Wink, the ability to send gifts, and Priority Man, which boosts your profile. 

My Success Rating  🌟

Unlike some users who join Ashley Madison, I’m not an unhappily married man. However, most of the women I came across were unhappily married. Because they were just looking for sex, it made it easier for me to land a date/hookup.

That said, if you’re a guy you need to buy some credits first, then fill out your profile, and then be patient. I messaged a ton of females and most didn’t reply. But I also used a feature called Priority Man, which made my profile more visible temporarily. It worked and I ended up flirting with a few females, and I even hooked up with two of them. 

All in all, Ashely Madison seems like a great hunting ground for cougars. 

How Much It Costs?

As said, females get in for free but guys have to buy credits to send messages, gifts and use certain features, such as Priority Man. Here are the three packages you can choose from:

  • Elite 1,000 credits
  • Classic – 500 credits
  • Basic – 100 credits 


  • Aimed specifically at bored housewives (cougars) 
  • Huge user base
  • Lots of great features 


  • Edgy site
  • A few bot profiles 

4. eHarmony 


eHarmony is a serious dating site for people who are looking for a long-term relationship and even marriage through online dating. There are relationship experts who are on hand to give you tips and advice, and there are plenty of success stories from the users that have found love. 

How does It work?

eHarmony is free to join, and you just need to stipulate what you’re looking for (for example, a man looking for a woman) before the website walks you through the signup process. 

This sign up process involves a huge questionnaire that helps to determine a few potential matches. Your information is fed into an algorithm, and you’re then free to make connections with other users who’ve caught your eye. 

You can use eHarmony for free but you need to subscribe in order to send messages. 

My Experience  

I wasn’t looking to get married, nor was I looking for a long term relationship. But I was still curious to see what was possible with this cougar dating site because I knew for sure that lots of older women are on eHarmony. 

And this is really the thing with this website: Whilst most aren’t looking for a hookup, there are thousands upon thousands of cougars on here. 

So I did what I had to do: I filled out the (very long) questionnaire, uploaded some of my best pics, and sent out a few messages. I didn’t get too far because it was clear that thy were looking for something serious, but my overall verdict is that there are some very hot, very smart, and even very glamorous older women here. 

And if they can be talked into having a bit of fun while they’re waiting for Prince Charming? Amazing. 

How Much It Costs?

  • 1 month – $59.95 per month
  • 3 months – $39.95 per month
  • 6 months – $29.95 per month
  • 12 months – $19.95 per month 


  • Home to very attractive women 
  • Quality connections 
  • No fakes


  • Expensive 
  • Minimal chance of a hookup 

5. Elite Singles 


Elite Singles is aimed at the smarter, more mature men and women who are educated, have good careers, and look after themselves. They are societies “elite” – and most of them are well over 30. 

In other words, it’s for serious people with high salaries who are looking for thoroughbred partners. If you’re a young hotshot Wall Street trader, for example, it’s possible to find a sexy 40-something lecturer here. 

How does It work?

The good thing about Elite Singles is that it’s easy enough to get to grips with. To get started, you need to take a personality test of-sorts which then uses your information to pair you up with as many as 7 matches each day. 

And while you won’t always get 7 matches each day, you’re guaranteed at least 3. 

Once you’ve got a match, you can check their profile and decide whether or not you want to send them a message. It works very differently to apps like Tinder (check here), where you just swipe through lots of profiles. Some will like it, others won’t.

My Experience  

It shouldn’t take long for you to make a connection with someone on Elite Singles because the algorithm does most of the hard work for you. It matches you up with compatible people based on your personal attributes.

After just a few days, I was already arranging to meet three cougars in my local area. 

And while Elite Singles definitely isn’t a hookup site, there’s no doubt that many of the profiles I came across on here were absolutely up for a bit of fun if it crosses their path. 

How Much It Costs?

  • 1 year – $31.95 per month
  • 5 months – $44.95 per month
  • 3 months – $59.95 per month


  • Lots of smart, sexy, mature singles 
  • Excellent matchmaker website 
  • Most members are over 33 (lots of cougars)


  • People can be really picky on here
  • Time-consuming 


The match is another online dating site that’s ideal if you don’t mind having to fill out fairly lengthy bio’s or spend time connecting to someone online before meeting up. 

How does It work?

Match has a pretty good premise: You register for an account and then go through a sign-up process that involves answering a few questions about yourself and your preferences, uploading some pics, and filling out your bio.

Then, you can search for cougars according to specific criteria – for example, age and location.

The criteria go deeper and you can search according to things like marital status, children, and dating intentions.

Once you like the look of someone, you just need to “like” their profile. If they like you back, you’re a match and can then start messaging each other.

All in all, it’s really hard to say anything bad about this site because it works so well if you’re looking for cougars. There are also cool features, such as games you can play with your matches to build rapport. 

My Experience  

I did really well on Match and I think other users can do really well on here, too.

The main thing is to fill out your bio so that you a) let people know what you’re looking for and b) sell your best qualities. Don’t forget to add your best pics too (ask a friend for help with this). 

The thing to remember is that most Match users are looking for something serious or semi-serious. As such, it’s important that you flirt with them but don’t go too far too soon. Make a connection first and then see if they want to meet up. 

But with over 21 million members worldwide, your chances of meeting someone on Match are very high. 

How Much It Costs?

You can sign up for free but there’s not really a lot you can do. As such, I suggest you look into one of these payment packages (Be aware that their subscriptions renew automatically): 

  • 1 month – $35.99
  • 3 months – $19.99
  • 6 months – $17.99
  • 12 months – $15.99


  • Huge user base
  • People take it seriously (very few fake profiles)
  • Easy on the eye interface


  • You might get bombarded with emails from Match
  • Poor customer service 

7. Plenty of Fish 

Plenty of Fish (POF) has been around for well over a decade. It’s ideal for anyone – whether you want to hookup with a cougar, or whether you want to date and ‘see how it goes,’ POF has something for everyone. 

How does It work?

Literally, nothing has changed at POF over the years, and its interface and sign up process is exactly the same. 

The sign-up process is quite lengthy, and you’re required to fill out a huge questionnaire that’s meant to make it easier to find potential matches. Most users, however, just use the search feature in any case.

This feature can be tweaked so that you can easily search for users according to specific criteria, such as age.

The whole site is rather plain looking, but it’s super simple and straight to the point. For many, this is why it’s remained super popular. Oh, and it’s free to send messages, yay. 

My Experience

Anyone can find success on POF. You don’t even need to spend ages filling out your bio. Instead, the best thing to do is to add an eye-catching main photo and a killer headline. These are the two things people notice first when scrolling through potential matches. 

For example, your headline could be something as simple as “young man seeks sexy cougar.” 

I tweaked my headline a few times but made sure to always be clear about the type of woman I was looking for. 

And if you’re a cougar? Let it be known that you’re looking for a younger man. 

Before long, I was chatting to a few, and within a week I was meeting up – and hooking up. 

How Much It Costs?

It’s free to send and receive messages, but if you want to unlock features such as the ability to show up first on ‘Meet Me’ (a feature that works a lot like Tinder), you’ll need to upgrade and pay. 


  • Millions of active users
  • Very easy to use website 
  • Free to send messages 


  • Basic interface 
  • Lots of fake profiles

8. OkCupid 

OkCupid is one of the world’s most popular dating apps. You can use it to find something casual or something serious, and the website is very LGBT friendly. It’s also oriented heavily towards left-leaning voters. 

How does It work?

It doesn’t take too long to register an account on OK Cupid although, like with many dating sites, it does require you to answer some questions to improve your future matches.

Once you’re all signed up, it’s highly recommended that you pad out your profile and answer a few prompts, such as ‘The last show I binged.’ This will not only improve your chances of matching with someone, but it’s also what most users do.

Indeed, I’ve never come across an online dating site where users go so in-depth in their profile before. At OkCupid, the idea is that, the more you write in your profile and the more you talk about your likes, dislikes, hopes and dreams, the more chances you’ll have of matching with someone.

There are two ways to find matches. You can either use the search feature according to certain criteria (for example, you can adjust the age to find cougars), or you can use the Double Take feature. This is where the app puts a bunch of potential matches in front of you and you have to swipe left or right. 

OkCupid is free to send and receive messages.

My Experience  

OkCupid used to be a lot easier to succeed on. In the past, you could ‘like’ someone, send them a message and they’d see it straight away. These days, a user can’t see your ‘like’ or your message until they’ve liked you back. 

Sometimes, that could mean you have to wait weeks for them to come across your profile.

Worse still, their profile disappears until they’ve liked you back. 

This kind of thing was implemented to protect users on OK Cupid but it’s made the game harder. However, there’s no reason why you can’t have success with a cougar, provided you take the time to message a few of them, and you take the time to fill your profile out.

I had moderate success on OkCupid. If you’re looking for a hookup with a cougar – as I was – just make sure to adjust the ‘Looking for …’ section of your profile, and make sure to check that the person you’re messaging is looking for hookups. 

How Much It Costs?

OkCupid is free to send and receive messages. To take advantage of certain perks, such as The A-List, or to see who’s liked you, you need to upgrade. 


  • Free to send and receive messages 
  • Lots of users
  • Most people are genuine 


  • Too many restrictions make it hard to match with other users

How Do We Choose The Sites & Apps?

For these dating apps to make it onto our list, it had to meet specific criteria:

  • Popularity

Not only does a dating app need to have at least a few million users, but it also needs to have a few million active users. 

The more popular a dating site is, the more active its users are, which in turn increases your chances of success.

The likes of OK Cupid, POF, AFF, and Ashley Madison all have millions of users around the world, and while some of these are fake, many of them are real.

Moreover, a high number of active users also tells us that the dating app is easy to use and fairly easy to score results with. 

  • Affordability 

Affordability is, of course, relative. But when judging the best cougar dating app, we wanted to find the cougar dating apps that offered the most value for money.

Sites like eHarmony, Match and Elite Singles can cost a pretty penny, but you can get more bang for your buck by either signing up for a month and landing a cougar almost right away (and then quitting), or signing up for 12 months and saving yourself some cash in the long run. 

If your budget is super tight, we highly recommend taking advantage of sites like OK Cupid and POF, which allow you to send and receive messages for free. 

  • Features 

Yes, you’re looking to land a date. But most dating site users prefer it when the dating site in question offers more than just basic matchmaking services.

See, without features like Ashley Madison’s Priority Man or POF’s Meet Me, it can be very hard to even get seen. The traffic on these sites is monumental. 

As well as features that make you more visible, we also had a look to see what other things each dating site was offering to improve the user experience. Each site in our list offers a good amount of features to make it worth your time and money.

We really like the Discretion and Security feature offered by Elite Singles which allows you to hide your profile from certain people, and we also think users who join AFF will enjoy watching the webcam shows and the adult movies. 

  • Security 

Security is paramount to anyone who signs up to a dating site, and we understand this. That’s why we made sure to check out the security history and licensing of each site we reviewed to make sure they take your concerns seriously. 

What we found was that every site we checked – from Elite Singles to POF – does very well on the security front in terms of your banking details. However, there are concerns that OK Cupid’s profiles are vulnerable to hacking, so this is something you need to be mindful of.

And while Ashely Madison was the victim of a huge data breach a few years back, our research tells us that the owners have worked very hard behind the scenes to tighten things up. 

  • Success Chance

This is what it’s all about. While security and features matter, a dating site isn’t worth a thing if it’s too hard to succeed. 

Certainly, if you’re looking for cougars, or if you’re a cougar looking for younger men, some dating websites are better than others. In our experience, AFF, Ashley Madison, and POF are the absolute top performers, but there’s every chance you’ll find what you’re looking for on the other sites, too.

Our tip would be to join one premium site (preferably one that offers what you want), as well as a few of the free sites, such as OK Cupid and POF. Hedging your bets is always the best way to go.

For example, if you’re looking for a hookup, consider joining both OK Cupid and POF, as well as AFF. 


These are the best cougar dating websites around right now. Our personal top picks are CougarLife, AshleyMadison, AdultFriendFinder, and Elite Singles. But ever dating app we have mentioned is ideal for younger men looking for dating older women, or older + younger women looking for younger men.

Don’t forget to add your best pics and make it known exactly what it is that you’re looking for.

Will Titterington

Will Titterington

Will is a writer, coach and life lover who enjoys helping people reach their potential. Will has plenty of experience with Online Dating. He loves to test different apps and sites and share his experience on DatingXP. He loves art, sports, connecting with new people from all over the world, and making people laugh.

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