The worst thing you can do on Tinder is to waste your match’s time (or your own for that matter), so don’t just sit there twiddling your thumbs—jump right in!
Despite the app’s reputation for booty calls, more and more people are using the app to find something other than just a Tinder hookup.
If you’re one of these guys or girls wanting to find a long-term relationship on this dating app, then it’s time to get curious and ask some strategic Tinder questions to start the conversation.
These questions work great as Tinder icebreakers and help you get to know more about your match.
Here are some samples of questions you can ask your Tinder match.
Questions to Ask On Tinder:
1. If your 15 year old self could see you today, what would they think?
It’s fascinating to learn how people view themselves, and how they see how far they’ve come/grown over the years.
2. What would it take for someone to take you off this app?
Such a question will give you insights into what they’re looking for, as well as how hard you’re gonna have to work.
3. Tea, coffee or tequila?
Just so you can get some date ideas.
4. What’s something you would never tell anyone but a total stranger you’ll never meet again?
This question will really get them thinking and it could throw up a really interesting answer!
5. What’s your go-to shower song?
See if you can bond over cheesy shower songs!
6. What’s the best advice anyone has given you?
And maybe they can share the wisdom with you?
7. What’s your idea of a perfect date?
This, first date, is a good question to ask your Tinder match if you’re looking for someone to start a long-term relationship with. Why?
Because the answer should give you a fairly good idea of what it would be like to spend time together. Like actual time. In the real world. If your match’s notion of an ideal night out sounds appealing to you, then you may be barking up the right tree!
8. How would your best friend describe you?
This is a great question because it gives your match an opportunity to describe his or her best qualities without sounding like they’re bragging.
Believe it or not, some people are so humble that they would never tell you about these awesome qualities from their own perspective.
By answering this question, though, they can brag per se without seeming narcissistic.
9. What did you give your best friend (or sibling, parent, etc.) for his/her birthday?
If generosity is an important quality in your ideal mate, then this is the perfect question to ask. If your match says “nothing”, then this may be a red flag that you need to move on to the next guy or gal.
If not, then it will give your match a chance to flex a bit!
10. How much time do you think a couple should spend apart?
This can be a really important question to ask on an online dating app like Tinder, especially if you’re an independent person.
Some people can be controlling in relationships, so you want to make sure you steer clear of this toxic quality. If he says couples should never spend any of their free time apart, for instance, then that’s your cue to run!
11. What do you like on your pizza?
This may seem like a frivolous question, but some people take their pizza pretty seriously. If you’re the kind of person who refuses to eat frozen pizza or who judges friends when they order pineapple on their pie, then you may be one of them.
Why not get this heated discussion out of the way right out of the gate? Is he a pepperoni or a salami guy for instance? These are things you need to know!
Plus, if you end up together, you’re gonna be sharing more than a slice or two together, am I right?
12. Would you rather … ?
This is a fun kickstart question because you can be as naughty/flirty/cheeky as you like, or you can be as serious as you like. Either way, it’s a great way to start a conversation.
13. What was the worst date you ever went on?
We’ve all had perfect dates. But what about the worst dates? The memories could have you both roaring with laughter.
14. What’s your idea of a perfect day?
Because you need to know if their idea of a perfect day matches up with yours.
15. What do you look for in a man/woman?
Ask this question to find out whether you’re even their type!
16. Ice cream or frozen yogurt?
You can tell a lot about a person by their choice of frozen dessert. If she’s all about FroYo, for example, she’s probably a health nut or at the very least, hits the gym on the regular.
This can either be a plus or a minus for her depending on your own personal habits and/or activity levels.
If she goes for ice cream, it could mean she doesn’t take herself too seriously or she knows how to have fun. It could mean nothing at all, but still—it’s something to talk about on Tinder while you try to figure out if you want to meet up.
17. What’s in your refrigerator right now?
This is a fun question to ask to get a conversation going, and it could have some surprising results. Depending on what the answer is, you could learn a lot about your match.
If the answer is beer and leftover pizza, then you know you’re dealing with the typical frat boy, for instance.
If it’s protein shakes and kale, then you’ve got a fitness freak on your hands. Neither one of these is necessarily a deal-breaker, but it’s good to know!
18. Lights on or off?
This question is a good one if you want to test the mood without offending your match because it’s suggestive but not over the top. If he or she answers honestly, it might also give you some insight into how open your match is when it comes to intimacy.
19. What body part do you find the sexiest on a man/woman?
This is an interesting question that can give you a good bit of insight into your match. If he answers“eyes” for instance, then he may be a romantic at heart. If she says “abs,” then she’s probably a fitness junkie.
The answer to this question can also let you know the odds of your match being into you when you meet. After all, if his or her favorite body part is a nice plump bum and you’re lacking in that department, then it may be a no go.
20. Do you have a fetish?
This is a risky question to ask, but if you’re willing to give it a go, it could make for a stimulating convo! The answer to this question could also help you fend off the weirdos.
If he shares a fetish that you’re definitely not into, then you’ve dodged a bullet. You’re welcome.
Asking questions on Tinder is a lot like using pick-up lines. Before you do it, you need to have a fairly good idea of what you want the outcome to be. And if you plan on posing a serious or hot question on Tinder, be prepared to face a little rejection. It just comes with the territory. As long as you don’t take yourself too seriously, though, you can’t go wrong!
21. What (or who) are you most obsessive about?
This gives you the chance to find out as soon as possible whether you’ll be dating a boxset fanatic, for example.
22. Winter or summer?
Because, like, you need to know if you’re on the level when it comes to the seasons.
23. What causes you to lose your focus?
Their answer to this could go either way (maybe it’s daydreaming about sex or something more serious, such as hypochondria). Whatever their answer, it will give you insights into their mindset.
24. Who was your high school crush?
Yes, you’re free to tease them about their answer.
25. What’s your biggest dealbreaker?
We all have them. Find out before it’s too late if you’re even compatible.
26. Are you a morning person or a night owl?
Same as above. You need to find out whether or not the two of you are in sync in terms of how you plan your days.
27. Do you prefer a beach vacation or a city break? Or even a trip to the countryside?
Not everyone enjoys the same kind of getaways, so find out if they have the same ideas as you when it comes to vacations.
28. What are you a snob about?
Find out whether they’re a snob about beer, wine, restaurants, art … whatever it is, you’re allowed to tease them afterwards.
29. What was your longest relationship?
Especially if you’re looking for long-term commitment, it’s important to find out what you’re dealing with here. Are they commitment-phobe, or are they looking for the same thing as you?
30. What makes you unique?
Find out how they feel about themselves, including how confident they are in their own abilities.
31. If your friends could describe you in one word, what would it be?
And find out what their friends think of them too!
32. Tell me a fun fact about you …
Everyone has at least one fun fact, so use this question to learn more about them than what is on their bio.
33. Where do you see yourself in ten years time?
This is a pretty deep question. But if the time feels right to ask it, you should totally go ahead and ask it on Tinder as there’s nothing better than sharing our goals with each other.
34. What are you most passionate about?
This question will really encourage them to open up, and it could help to create an early bond between the two of you.
35. Where’s your happy place?
Maybe it looks like yours?
36. What are you most proud of in life?
The key to succeeding on Tinder is to get the other person to talk about themselves. Use this question to invite them to talk positively about themselves, as well as share with you the things they’re most proud of.
37. What’s the worst present anyone ever gave you?
And did they have to smile and pretend they loved it?
38. What were you like as a kid?
This question has the potential to open up a whole can of hilarious stories, and the two of you can bond as you share your childhood experiences with each other.
39. Seen any good movies lately?
This can seem like a cliched question, but it encourages conversation as you get to talk about the films you both like, as well as actors and actresses.
40. Have you been single long?
And are they enjoying it? This question will give you insights into where their mindset is right now, how comfortable they are with being single, and whether or not they’re in a rush to find the “One.”