Let’s have a look at some interesting ways of starting a conversation on Tinder. It’s easier than you think. Then, let’s have a look at some hilarious ways NOT to start a conversation on Tinder. They’re really hilarious. Trust me.
I’ll write this article as if I’m giving advice to a man. If you’re a woman, I apologize. It’s just easier to keep it to one gender instead of saying “him/her” all the way through the article. Speaking as a woman, I also know what lines worked for me on Tinder…and what lines didn’t.
If you’re a woman, the basic rules remain the same though, so I’m sure you can pick up a tip or two from this article as well!
1. Compliment Her Interests
If someone starts with “You’re hot,” chances are I leave the conversation.
1, They’re only interested in my looks. They didn’t say “you’re hot” and then continued with something else. They just mentioned my looks.
2. It’s too much, too soon. I don’t know this guy. It feels too personal to tell me I’m hot. It’s like the creeps who walk up to you in the street and tell you, you’re hot while simultaneously invading your personal space.
If, on the other hand, someone compliments my interests, I’m instantly prone to reply to them.
- It shows he cared enough to read my bio, or look at the pictures properly. He’s not here to waste my time, he has a genuine interest in getting to know me.
- It gives me something to talk about. It leads to a conversation. Chances are, I can speak to this guy, because he knows how to have a conversation with people.
There are plenty of guys who only seem to be able to ask:
“How are you?”
“How was your day?”
“What are you up to?”
In conversations over text, these guys are super boring to chat with. You won’t have anything to talk to about with them, because they will kill the conversation.
So, open the conversation by commenting on her interests.
“Hello fellow chocoholic! So, tell me: what’s the best chocolate ever? (This is clearly a deal breaker by the way. If you have poor taste, I’m not sure we’ll get along… ;))”
“You like wine! So do I 🙂 So come on, impress me: tell me about your favorite wine!”
“I see you like horses. Very cool. Are you a kick ass rodeo girl, or more the kind who rides bareback through the woods like a woodland spirit? :)”
2. Go for a Pun
Have fun with being cheesy — just make it clear you don’t take yourself too seriously and think you’re some master punster.
If she says she doesn’t want one night stands, for example, you can say:
“It’s such a shame you don’t like night stands. I’m great with making furniture 😉 I can even make you two night stands and a table…if you’re nice… ;p”
Always make sure it relates to her profile though. It has to be linked to her. Not some random pun. Then again, if it’s a GIF, you can get random.
3. Go for the Animal Shots
If she’s hugging a dog…
“I’m jealous of that dog of yours. He looks like he’s got some serious cuddling skills. Think he’ll teach me a trick, or two? ;)”
“That horse of yours has some serious attitude. I like it. What’s his/her name?”
If they have a pic with an animal, it probably means they really like that animal. So if you show an interest, you’re immediately getting a point, or two.
4. Comment on Her Love of Food
If she happens to mention she likes spicy food:
“It’s all about the tabasco! (And sometimes the sriracha…)”
“So, tell me: tabasco, sriracha sauce, or chipotle peppers? What kind of hot do you prefer? ;)”
If she mentions she has a sweet tooth on the other hand:
“Hello sweet tooth! So, what’s your favorite sweet of choice? Chocolate truffles, pastries, or ice cream?”
If she loves to cook:
“Great cook huh….so tell me, what would you cook me if you’re trying to impress me? ;)”
5. Challenge Her
If she has something that can be interpreted as a challenge in her bio — challenge her on it.
Say she says: “Total computer nerd, with a love of great wine and even greater cooking. Have been known to do crazy adventurous things. Have a sincere love of killer heels and flip-flops respectively. If we race up a mountain, I bet I’ll win. I’m a wickedly fast runner ;)”
“Clearly you haven’t met your match yet. I’d totally win the race. Or at the very least: we’d hit the finish line even ;)”
You can also challenge a simple statement, such as: “Love ice cream. Won’t share. Ever.”
“I bet, I can make you share that ice cream…I can be very convincing…”
It’s playful. It’s challenging. And it will probably lead to a pillow fight, or seductive kisses, over the ice cream one day.
6. Comment on a Location Where She’s Been
She has a picture by a stunning beach.
“I need it to work out between us, because you have to show me where the epic beach in your pictures is…”
“The food in that restaurant in your pictures looks epic. I think you’ll have to take me there ;)”
“I need it to work out between us, because I can tell you know how to get tickets to Burning Man and I’ve never been… ;)”
“You mention you love Rome. Great. I’ve never been. So when do we start packing? ;)”
7. Get Straight to the Point
If you have a good profile, so she can see you aren’t a total nitwit, then cut to the chase.
“You love cocktails. I know a place. Tell me the time and the date, and we’ll make a plan ;)”
“You love spicy food. I know one of the best places in town. Tell me a time and a date and I’ll make a reservation ;)”
8. If She’s Looking for a Partner in Crime
“I’m a master criminal. I only partner up with the best. What’s your crime speciality?”
This is actually a really good one to spin off on. You can move onto things like “the perfect crime” and plan a heist together.
9. The Cheesy Shot
If she has a shot wearing a fake mustache, a massive hat, a masquerade outfit…
“Next time there’s a masquerade, I’ll be the Clark Kent to your Louis Lane…” (If that’s what she is in the photo, obviously.)
“Love the hat. We must have a hat party. I call dibs on the sombrero.”
“That mustache is so epic my Movember one seems totally inferior in comparison…”
“Anyone who can appreciate a good masquerade party is a friend of mine. Who do you plan going as next time?”
10. If Her Name Is Part of a Song
My name is Maria. Do you know how many songs there are about me? If a guy started a conversation with: “She reminds me of a West Side Story…” or “I just met a girl named Maria!” I’d probably melt though.
Likewise, if she’s from California, living in NY, but says she misses the California sunshine, starting with: “You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave…” might work. It might also tank. Depends if she likes The Eagles.
Obviously, it needs to be a popular song. Just because I, personally, happen to know almost every line to Meet Virgina, I’m not sure the Virginias know it…so “She only drinks coffee at midnight…” might not be a great way to start a conversation with a Virginia. I, on the other hand, would have replied: “When the moment is not right…”
11. But if you meet a Virginia from West Virginia…see below pic.
12. Thinking Outside the Box
This is actually really fun.
The Tinder Lines You Should Not Go For…
Then we have the Tinder opening lines you should not go for. There are some classics…
13. Don’t send a presentation. Like ever.
This had to be included. Just to show you how boring a conversation can get with people who reply with one word. Don’t be that person.
14. Don’t say something totally random and unrelated.
15. Don’t Make Hiroshima Jokes, Instead…
Hiroshima jokes are bad, and they completely don’t work in 2019. If you’re still unsure as what opener to use, check out these tailored Funniest Tinder pick up lines that are proven to work.