Getting a match on Tinder might not be rocket science, but there is actually reasons why some people get matches and some don’t. And no, it’s not all about your looks.
Here’s the deal: If dating was all about looks, then nobody but only models would ever get laid, or have relationships. Matching with people, whether in life, or on Tinder, is about chemistry.
Sure, if you look like Brad Pitt, age 30, you probably have it easier when looking to get a date, but while looks might open a few doors, they sure as h*** don’t keep them open.
Also, even if you ARE good looking, great photos alone don’t always guarantee a match. If you make one of the below mistakes, you might very well end up with very few matches no matter how hot you look.
Here’s another thing: Tinder uses algorithms to match you with people. If you don’t use Tinder wisely, you’ll be matched with the wrong people, or in the wrong ways. More about this later. Let’s just say there are mistakes one can make when using Tinder.
Fix These 5 Mistakes If You’re Not Getting Tinder Matches
This article is backed up by Tinder algorithms, experiments, and case-studies (conducted by authentic organizations). So, make sure you stick around if you want more matches on Tinder.
1 Avoid Using These Specific Photos:
There are some “photo faux pas” on Tinder. Things you really shouldn’t do if you want to get good matches.
- Too many selfies
- Close-ups on your face
- Extreme close-ups on your face
- Half-naked “posing pics”
- Shots of your car/dog/house/sunsets/memes
- Blurry shots
ALSO: Not enough pictures & too many of the same kind of photos.
Why are the above bad? Well, too many selfies signal that either you don’t have friends who can take photos of you, or you are self-obsessed.
No close-ups of your face, means people have to take a gamble. They can’t see you. So it’s like a blind date if they choose to meet up with you. Sure, you’re rocking a suit at a party, but they still don’t know what your face looks like. Same, goes for blurry pics. What are you trying to hide? That’s what people will be wondering about.
Then there are the extreme close-ups where everyone can see every pore in your face. Scary, much? Maybe you meant it to be funny, but come on — Tinder is about attraction. A sense of humor is great, thinking you look really weird in a close-up is not.
As for the half-naked pics…people will either write you off as just wanting sex in a sleazy kind of way, not the “I’ll have fun with hookups and be respectful” kind of way, or they’ll think you have an ego problem.
You can have your swimsuit pics, no problem, if you’re playing beach volleyball, or surfing, or something of the sorts. Flexing your abs in the gym, or posing in the shower, on the other hand…
The pictures that are of things in your life, as opposed to you…people want to find out about you, sure, but if you post a picture of an expensive car, they’ll think you have a broken ego, not that you like the car. Or that you are so ugly you have to hide behind the car.
The same goes for sunsets, pets, etc. Unless you’re in the shot, or it’s an extraordinary meme, just don’t use it. And never, ever, use it as your first photo. People will swipe left as they won’t bother unless they can see you.
Lastly, having very few pictures, or too many pictures that all look the same, both have the same effect: people don’t get a feel for who you are. And just as showing up to a date who only had blurry images, they feel they’re taking a gamble.
If they have a lot of choice on Tinder, why take a gamble?
People want to get a feel for both what you look like and who you are, by browsing your pictures. So show off your life — having fun with your friends, traveling, doing things you love, a close-up of your face, a nice shot when you’re dressed up for a night on town, a shot playing with your dog, etc.
(Proven by data) : Men and Women with at least 3 or more pictures gets significant more Tinder matches,
2. No Bio or your Bio actually sucks!
An empty space instead of a bio? If your photos tell a great tale, people might still swipe right. However, an empty bio signals you don’t care enough to be bothered to write one. What does that say about dating you?
(Proven by data): Having Bio (not super short) boosted tinder matches for females by 60% and 50% for males on average.
Also, if you have a great bio, people who are on the edge, not sure whether to swipe right or left, can be swayed. If you don’t write anything, you don’t have that opportunity. It goes back to people wanting to know who they take a gamble on.
Are they worth the time and effort to chat with to and meet with? People weigh this up before swiping right.
Maybe you feel you aren’t great at writing, fair enough, but get a buddy to help you out. Seriously. You only need three sentences that are a little bit witty/interesting/funny.
A Boring Bio — Too Short or Too Long!
On the flip side of the coin, writing a terrible bio won’t do much for you. You need a bit of wit, charm and intrigue to make your bio work.
“Ice cream lover, cuddle champion, numbers whizz.” That’s literally how hard it is to create a bio. And guess what? Someone who swipes right on you and get a match now have something to talk about when messaging you.
Too Much, Too Soon — Slow it Down!
It’s one thing to say you aren’t looking for something serious, or you’re looking to have fun, it’s another to say you’re looking for sex. It sounds a bit much for a stranger looking at your profile.
Likewise, saying you’re ONLY interested in serious relationships can sound a bit much. “Looking to find love, but it all starts with having fun dating!” That makes sense and it relaxes people.
There are people who think they’re in a serious relationship after one date. Other people tend to avoid those people.
Stating what you’re looking for up front is GREAT. Just don’t make it sound like you are desperate for what you’re looking for.
Inside Scoop: Our expert Milagros Rojas has published 10 Best Tinder Bio & Profile Hacks that you should definitely read.
3. Optimize for Tinder Algorithm
ELO is the Tinder algorithm. If Tinder realizes you swipe right on EVERYONE, you’ll end up in the back of the queue. Meaning those who are a lot more specific about who they swipe right on, will all end up being showcased before you if they swiped right on the same person you did.
If you live in a populated area, this is a bit of a problem. You’ll end up behind a lot of others on profiles that are popular.
Then, if you match with people whom you don’t reach out to, Tinder will also take note. Swiping right and being matched only not to talk to them? Tinder won’t take you seriously.
In short, Tinder tries to match you depending on your preferences. If you swipe right on everything, Tinder will think you have no preferences. Particularly if you then match and don’t even talk to your matches!
Inside Scoop: If you want to learn more about the algo then you can read our detailed post on Tinder algorithm.
4. Use Super Likes — (Simple Hack)
People feel flattered by a super like. So even people who’d normally swipe left unless a profile REALLY stood out, might take a bit more time to evaluate you. After all, you’ve said you really like them. Apparently people are three times as likely to respond to a super like. So use them.
5. Hit The Damn Home Run
Of course, getting matched is only the beginning. To be successful on Tinder, you have to turn matches into dates. To do that, you need good opening lines.
“Hey!” or “How are you?” are terrible opening lines.
Use someone’s profile to start a conversation. If they are eating a cake in a photo, make a comment about how delicious it looks, or if it says they love soccer mention you do too. We have another articles about great first messages, but just know that “hey” rarely cuts it.
People think you can’t be bothered if that’s all you have to say. And if you can’t be bothered, why would they be? Just as with your profile you have to show that you’re willing to work to make a great date happen. That you care about finding great dates. That you will be fun date.
Inside Scoop: After you start getting matches, you need to learn what openers to use and
how to roll the conversation. We’ve detailed guides on the both, so make sure you give them a read: Best Tinder Openers (With Screenshots) & How to start conversation with a girl on Tinder.