10 Amazing Questions to Ask Your Tinder Match

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Whether you’re just looking for something casual or hoping for a serious connection on Tinder, you’re going to have to get to know your match—to some extent anyway. What better way to do this than to ask questions?

The worst thing you can do on Tinder is to waste your match’s time (or your own for that matter), so don’t just sit there twiddling your thumbs—jump right in! Here are some sample questions to ask your match on Tinder:

Serious Questions to Ask Your Tinder Match:

Looking for something serious on Tinder? You’re not alone! Despite the app’s reputation for booty calls, more and more people are using the app to find something other than just a casual hook up.

If you’re one of these guys or gals wanting to find a long-term relationship on this online dating app, then it’s time to get curious and ask some strategic questions.

After all, you need information and lots of it in order to find out if a match is worthy of investing any more of your time and attention. Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. What’s your idea of a perfect date?

This, first date, is a good question to ask your match if you’re looking for someone to start a long-term relationship with.


Because the answer should give you a fairly good idea of what it would be like to spend time together. Like actual time. In the real world. If your match’s notion of an ideal night out sounds appealing to you, then you may be barking up the right tree!

On the other hand, if it sounds like a bore, then it’s time to move on.

2. How would your best friend describe you?

This is a great question because it gives your match an opportunity to describe his or her best qualities without sounding like they’re bragging.

Believe it or not, some people are so humble that they would never tell you about these awesome qualities from their own perspective.

By answering this question, though, they can brag per se without seeming narcissistic.

3. What did you give your best friend (or sibling, parent, etc.) for his/her birthday?

If generosity is an important quality in your ideal mate, then this is the perfect question to ask. If your match says “nothing”, then this may be a red flag that you need to move on to the next guy or gal.

If not, then it will give your match a chance to flex a bit!

4. How much time do you think a couple should spend apart?

This can be a really important question to ask on an online dating app like Tinder, especially if you’re an independent person.

Some people can be controlling in relationships, so you want to make sure you steer clear of this toxic quality. If he says couples should never spend any of their free time apart, for instance, then that’s your cue to run!

Silly Questions to Ask on Tinder:

Not everyone on Tinder is looking to have a deep philosophical conversation. I mean let’s face it—a lot of people are just looking to hook up on this app and nothing more. So it’s perfectly ok to ask a question that’s a little on the lighter side. The great thing about these questions is that often, their answers reveal more than what you might expect!

5. What do you like on your pizza?

This may seem like a frivolous question, but some people take their pizza pretty seriously. If you’re the kind of person who refuses to eat frozen pizza or who judges friends when they order pineapple on their pie, then you may be one of them.

Why not get this heated discussion out of the way right out of the gate? Is he a pepperoni or a salami guy for instance? These are things you need to know!

Plus, if you end up together, you’re gonna be sharing more than a slice or two together, am I right?

6. Ice cream or frozen yogurt?

You can tell a lot about a person by their choice of frozen dessert. If she’s all about FroYo, for example, she’s probably a health nut or at the very least, hits the gym on the regular.

This can either be a plus or a minus for her depending on your own personal habits and/or activity levels.

If she goes for ice cream, it could mean she doesn’t take herself too seriously or she knows how to have fun. It could mean nothing at all, but still—it’s something to talk about on Tinder while you try to figure out if you want to meet up.

7. What’s in your refrigerator right now?

This is a fun question to ask to get a conversation going, and it could have some surprising results. Depending on what the answer is, you could learn a lot about your match.

If the answer is beer and leftover pizza, then you know you’re dealing with the typical frat boy, for instance.

If it’s protein shakes and kale, then you’ve got a fitness freak on your hands. Neither one of these is necessarily a deal breaker, but it’s good to know!

Hot Questions to Ask Your Match on Tinder:

For a lot of people, Tinder is about getting things heated up as quickly as possible. If that’s what you’re on the app for, then there’s no sense in acting like it’s not. If you want to get a flame going right away, here’s some kindling for you:

8. Lights on or off?

This question is a good one if you want to test the mood without offending your match because it’s suggestive but not over the top. If he or she answers honestly, it might also give you some insight into how open your match is when it comes to intimacy. And that’s always a good thing to know.

9. What body part do you find the sexiest on a man/woman?

This is an interesting question that can give you a good bit of insight into your match. If he answers“eyes” for instance, then he may be a romantic at heart. If she says “abs,” then she’s probably a fitness junkie.

The answer to this question can also let you know the odds of your match being into you when you meet. After all, if his or her favorite body part is a nice plump bum and you’re lacking in that department, then it may be a no go.

10. Do you have a fetish?

This is a risky question to ask, but if you’re willing to give it a go, it could make for a stimulating convo! The answer to this question could also help you fend off the weirdos.

If he shares a fetish that you’re definitely not into, then you’ve dodged a bullet. You’re welcome.

Asking questions on Tinder is a lot like using Tinder pick-up lines. Before you do it, you need to have a fairly good idea of what you want the outcome to be. And if you plan on posing a serious or hot question on Tinder, be prepared to face a little rejection. It just comes with the territory. As long as you don’t take yourself too seriously, though, you can’t go wrong!



Melissa has been a freelance copywriter for the past ten years. She met the man of her dreams on OkCupid, and they were married in October of 2018. They're currently living their happily-ever-after in Alabama where they spend their free time mountain biking.

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